Why do people call you names if your opinion doesn't agree with theirs?

United States
March 7, 2008 1:54am CST
I joined a community discussion board, wanting to know what is going on in our area. Then a topic caught my interests and I gave my opinion. I am a "newbie" to the board and I was so shocked when the "older" members berated my opinion and called me a dumb**s...then this person proceeded to make another topic about how she hates d*****s. I deleted my account and decide to just read the local paper because it is not worth having my blood pressure go up because of some people who seemed to think it is normal to call people online names. I would be fine if somebody disagree with what I say but in a polite way. We are after all, civilized people. Have you have any experience like this? What do you do? Do you usually ignore them and not bother because they don't know you....or you will be like me that until now, I still feel sad/baffled by such experience?
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10 responses
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
11 Apr 08
They do it because it makes them feel real big Ladymoonstone. People that are actually civil and respectful don't have to resort to this. Only the real immature and other weaklings resort to excessive and gross namecalling. You'll notice the most insignificant members are the ones using the most vitrolic and uncalled for language (some do this to make themselves more "adult"). Presently, I'll ignore them. A few times I do stand up to them (even those on mylot). Don't feel sad over the experience. Time will push it out and you'll find better people to associate with. Not only that, don't let some know-nothing/worth-nothing hooligan get you down with his language.
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@fredgame (1260)
• China
7 Mar 08
In fact, that's very bad habit to call people by names if they express their opinions which in one way or another you see it not to your satisfactory. if i'm the one i'll really tell them what it takes to come out with such idea which if you don't appreciate you need not call me names intead. i think they seem to be some uncivilised society. we rather give reasons why someone's idea is not taken. i'll feel the same way as you. i'll not be able to understand why they did such a thing. you're right you just deleted your account and ignored them.
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Thanks for the response. I want to confront the person but like I said, she is not worth my blood pressure going up plus I just tell myself not to stoop down on her level. I don't know why she was so mean but probably in she is in a bad situation that she wants other people to feel bad too.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
11 Jan 09
I am a avery sensitive person and I do take an offence at heart. So yes most problaby I would feel so offended that I might end up delete my account. Most probably I would react the way as you have done. Even if it is an online, it is a form of bullying. (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
24 May 08
Many people both online and in life face to face will have a childish reaction if their opinion doesn't agree and they feel they are RIGHT. This is the main problem - I don't think anybody is so much RIGHT RIGHT as each person chooses the right thing for themselves. As long as their choice isn't affecting YOUR choice, everything is cool, or should be. Namecalling and disrespect shouldn't even be part of the picture, it should be more like person A does this, but person B does this, and neither would do it the other's way, but that's okay. I don't usually go away or delete my account as much as I might put a particular person or poster on ignore, choose or decide not to call or message them back, block their emails, etc etc depending on how well I know them. The key is to control their influence in your life by avoiding them, yet not avoiding places or things that YOU enjoy at the same time. I don't allow anybody or anything to prevent me from going somewhere or doing something that I like just because they are around, disagreeable, etc. If my presence ruins their fun, oh well, they can get over themselves. People like this have a goal of chasing others off and they are happy when they do. Deleting your account and disappearing from somewhere is what they want because in their eyes they have 'won'. I always caution people NOT to disappear and delete accounts, it is much more a thorn in those peoples' sides to just cheerfully stay on, keep contributing, and put them on ignore so you don't even necessarily have to see their venom. It's like they have been gagged, they still post nonsense but you don't have to see it.
• United States
16 Jan 09
You knowone is intitaled to his or her own opinion. That is what makes you you is your opinions. That wa just down right wrong. How can thy get mad at you because of your opinion. That is just so... I cant even think of a right word for it. With most people they think that their opinion is the only opinion there is. Others think that everyone should agree with them and if they dont they want to get mad. It is stupid on how people act all the time. But dont feel bad. I think that it happend to everyone just about meeting someone who didn't like their opinions. Don't let it get the best of you.
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
Nowadays, it has become almost a fasion to call other people by names.I guess that is just that people want to label others by some name without any good reason. I prefer to ignore such people. It would be futile arguing with such people, since that would increase the argument further and it would never end.
• United States
14 May 08
It's hard to know what goes through people's minds at times. If it happens here on MyLot, let me know by sending me a PM, & then sending me a URL to the discussion it happened in. Just keep cool about it though.
@nannacroc (4049)
3 May 08
I'm sorry you had this experience. The majority of MyLotters are friendly and will agree to differ. There seems to be a spate of idiots on here at the moment who have no respect for other peoples opinions. If I am offended by a response I report it. I don't mind if someone disagrees with me but I won't take abuse.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
24 May 08
I don't know why ppl have to resort to something like that after all it is so childish. I'll discuss things with ppl but when they start name calling and such then it isn't worth it b/c I don't have the time nor the energy to sit and fight with children. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 08
I have some experienced here but not so bad. I usually ignore them. It is not a pleasant thing to call people names. It is just not funny.