how would you handle the situation if?

@winterose (39887)
Canada
March 7, 2008 11:58pm CST
how would you handle the situation if you are walking down the street with your spouse of boyfriend girlfriend, and they met someone they know, you don't know the person. the stop to chat and you are just standing there, they do not introduce you, do you stay quiet and wait until they finish, walk ahead or introduce yourself would it bother you if that happened? would you fight with your spouse or b/f afterward for not introducing you? how would it make you feel?
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@jewilim (495)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
I guess it would make me feel a little offended, unless the person is not worth knowing. But if the person is not worth as anything to her, she would not have bothered to talk with him/her in the first place. I guess she would care for me to know the people that are significant in her life.
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@jewilim (495)
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
I guess it would make me feel a little offended, unless the person is not worth knowing. But if the person was not woth as anything to her, she would not have bothered to talk with him/her in the first place. I guess she would care for me to know the people that are significant to her life..
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@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
9 Mar 08
Okay, so you mean, if my boyfriend and I were walking and then suddenly met a friend whom I have no idea who the person was and my boyfriend didn't introduce me to that person? Well, that is totally sooo wrong. I will never let myself to be left behind. I mean, hello boyfie, I'm here with ya! ???.. He suppose to introduce me since I am his lovely girlfriend.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Mar 08
well i guess i will feel bad if my spouse wont introduce me to the other guy ..im thinking that maybe he forget or ashamed of something or whatever..nope i wont bother to introduce myself.its my spouse who should do the introduction..
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I'm used to my husband running into people when we are out and about. With my husband being in the National Guard and working with Homeland Security, he knows a lot of people. So I just basically stand there and do what we were doing until he's done. They already know who I am, so I don't jump in with introducing myself, because they probably think that I already know who they are. Especially if they work with him. Then once that person is gone, my husband will tell who he/she was.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I'd look at it as just an oversight. I 'd probably chuckle and say, " I guess he's not going to introduce me to you" and then I'd just introduce myself. It has happened to me before and i'm pretty spacey so I'm sure i've done the same thing. I would not start an argument over it.
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
10 Mar 08
With two husbands, I have been there,done that. It used to make me mad, and I would fight. Now, if I am tired, I will keep on going, because standing still makes me more tired than moving on. If I want to know the person, I become very direct, stick out my hand, introduce myself, etc. If this happens two or three times close together, then hubby begins to remember that he may not have introduced me. No big deal. It is just how his mind works or does not work. There is no slight intended.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
8 Mar 08
I know what I would do from experience. I would stand there feeling dumb and hope they finished talking soon. It is very uncomfortable situation to be in.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
tell me about it, for me it depends on my mood, some times I would just stand there but very rare, I would either introduce myself or walk away.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
Well, it depends on the situation of course. If the person is just an accquaintance, and not someone terribly interesting, it wouldn't bother me and I would just walk on a bit. If we were in the middle of something when we met them I would continue. If it was a good friend, we would be introduced and have a good ole time. It's certainly not something I would fight about or even worry about. I would assume he had his reasons for not introducing us, it wouldn't be a big deal.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
10 Mar 08
my hubby is pretty good about this but for the most part we know ever one that the other knows. its a very small town. but for me if he didn't it really wouldn't bother me. i am kind of quite and don't want any attion turn right to me.
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
8 Mar 08
I would say since no one plans on introducing us, my name is -------. Later on I would tell my friend that was rude for not introducing us.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
9 Mar 08
There was once we were on the road and met another couple. They started chatting, the 3 of them, ignoring me. I thought they knew each other. I hang around the area leaving them to their privacy. After 10 minutes, I interrupted them and stopped their conversation. It was then that I realised my friend do not even know them. They were preaching.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Mar 08
now that is something lol,
• United States
8 Mar 08
I would just introduce myself. I'd be like don;t mind him he's a little ignorant sometimes but my name is ____________ and I'm his girlfriend. Nah it's nothing to argue about afterwards. I know I've guilty of doing this a few times. Especially if you haven't seen the person in a long time you tend to forget to do introductions because you are too busy catching up with the person. It's really not a big deal.
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@ellie333 (21016)
8 Mar 08
This infuriates me when people do this especially if it was my partner, it makes you feel insignificant and unworthy of being introduced to this person. It really bugs me. Its ok if they just say hi don't stop and walk on and say oh that was so and so, but to actually stop and talk and leave you standing there like a spare part is the height of rudeness. I have had this happen and boy did I have something to say, but this person no longer my partner was thoughtless and selfish anyway so sort of them I would expect from him, but no more I said enough is enough a few weeks ago now and I feel so liberated and free and ME again. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21016)
9 Mar 08
Hi Winterose, Thank you so much for BR, much appreciated. Ellie :D
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 Mar 08
I would stay Quiet and no it would not bother me
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
8 Mar 08
I wouldn't fight with him for not introducing me, cuz it's happened that i've done that in front of him, cuz the person i ran into was of no importance, it was just a customer from where i work he stopped to say hi, so i didn't see the point of introducing my then boyfriend, who's now my hubby. He didn't mind, cuz it was just a hi, how are you type of conversation. I would feel awkward if he ran into someone, and stood there, for like 10 minutes talking and did not introduce me, i'd probably give him a look or a pinch or something to "remind" him of me being there LOL
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• Canada
9 Mar 08
If my husband doesn't introduce me, I will just step in and introduce myself. Why should I stand there and be excluded? It's unlikely that this would happen, but on the off chance that it does, that is precisely what I would do. There would be no fight after, because he would know that I was within my right to do what I did, as would he be if I failed to introduce him, and he reacted the same way.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I would smile and offer my hand and say "And I am ______ his wife" or "he must be real excited to run into you, as he totally forgot to introduce me, haha, I am ------- - his wife"
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• Singapore
9 Mar 08
That would depend on whether I am interested in that new person lol. If not, I just want to get the whole thing done with and wait for the one with me to finish so that we can continue with what we meant to do. Otherwise, if I am interested, or if I am feeling hyped up, I will offer my hand and say hi.
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
9 Mar 08
In some probably most situations this isn't a big deal. The question itself makes it seem like a bigger deal than it is personally. I wouldn't think about it unless it took waaayyy toooo looongg! Otherwise what reason do I have to talk to a stranger?
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