Am I Really Not Enough?

I think you can really tell if you are worth to the person that you love. You can feel it, the way he looks at you, the things that he will do for you, the way he treats you and his sacrifices. 5 years is no joke at all. Your boyfriend should have known better than by just saying that him falling for someone else is your fault. A real man would never pass the blame that his actions caused. Falling in love for someone else is a choice, he's not worth of your love, because if he is, he will never trade all the years for someone new.

first i would like to ask, are you still with this guy? if so... its about time my dear for you to leave him... never mind the heartache, the longing and never mind the time you wasted with this guy. i have seen too many women think their man will still change. once he did it, he's done it and wiull do it again. its not your fault that he fell for another girl.. any girl will never be enough for a man who has a lot of catching up to do for himself. he is insecure and covers it up by blaming you for all his deficiencies. you deserve so much better and don't waste more time trying to make things better for both of you. he's hopeless

He's already giving you out his key, honey. Use it wisely. I hope you know where to start, and search his key based on your words.

seems to me that he slapped in you the face a bit there with his ture feelings , thats such a selfish move to blame the relationship on you , i mean i can understand if your busy with things and whatever...i think really just wanted to make something up to cheat on you honestly

If i fall in with a man i will always look after him and see satisfaction in him ,I think if you are love each other he will real not feel unenough from you !So don't blame youself !

hi! we encounter the same failure in a relationship...i also been in a 5 yrs relationship but then he cheated me. And worst he said that im perfect and he just want to have fun...that really sucks...you don't need to blame yourself for that you've than your part and its up to your partner if he accept what you can give and done to make a relationship works...but definitely he'll realize your worth when your gone and he'll die to win you back!and that's for sure....my X bf is doing everything just to get me back but then im fed up and moved on...

Your not responsible for his actions he is. Sounds like he blames you because he feels guilty. Don't let him blame you.

hey every man or woman in this world is dissatisfied with 1 thing or the other...but wen we think of it later wen it is settled ...it usually is only a fuss over nothing...wat matters most is how u live n how happy r u??? n i dont mean hw happy is him// so do wat makes u happyn try to live life to the fullest

You can only go by how they treat you and also how you feel. If I didn't feel I was cared about and loved in a relationship, I think I'd just have to move on regardless of how I felt toward him. No relationship is going to be without its ups and downs. You should feel happy and loved more than not though.

well,i think u have done enough.if the couples love each other they would care about each other,but you love him,and he fell in love with sb else,so i think it's the time you leave him.do not force yourself to live with someone who doesn't love you,it's really unfair and unnecessary!

Dear kreinao, Bad experiences and quarels every one has them at one time or the other. But cheating on you and above all else blaming you for the failure ... What does he think about himeself.. he is the romeo jumping from one bed to the other and blaming you that he is doing this because of you.. What a cheat.. Don't fall for these types, just get out from his sight as soon as possible. He is not worthy of you dear. He is a jumping jack. you cannot believe these type of people. Don't think of him dear, just throw him out of your thoughts, you'll get someone who loves you for what you are.. God Bless you dear

well seems to me yeah he was telling his true feelings but that was like a slap in the face , so it was like that if he left for weeks that you wouldnt care ? kinda selfish that he places the blame on you

Kreibao I surggest that you try to find out if he is in trouble in his business or something else that make him feel unsatisfied with the relations and if he do really find another woman and really love her. to make all of this sure may help you to conclude that if this man still love you or not. if he was just in trouble in matters other than your love so he just feel tired maybe not because of you, only because of the pressure you got in his work or something. in this case maybe your love is still worth fixing. if not, maybe you should start to think about apart from him and you can find someone fit you better and more worth loving and live together for the coming days.

"When you think your girlfriend doesn't care for you that much, you should stop blaming and think about youself! Maybe it's you problem!" This is what my new boyfriend said when I told him that I didn't think I love him as much as he loves me. I've also being blamed for the same reason by my ex-boyfriend and I know that he did this only because his lack of selfconfidence and feeling guilty for all the things he has done to me. So I dumped him immediately and move on. Now I have found a guy who loves me very much. He always think that I am the kindest person to him exept his parents. I think you should just let it go without even thinking that guy is worthy or not. That's waste of you time. You'll find a really good one in the near future.

Please don't blame yourself. He is being an a** and blaming you because he doesn't feel good about himself. You need to move on and go with what your heart tells you. He isn't worth it!

Hi, As long as you love him if will be difficult for you to see him in another girl. Still I hope before going too deep to uninvited love or unwanted love for him it will be fine if you could just look for other rather wastering your true love and time on some one who do not like you. Be confident and try for the perfect match. I hope it will be better for both of you.

I'm sorry you're going through this. But I will say this, that whole it's your fault business is a cop out. He's trying to make himself feel less guilty by blaming you. If he felt you didn't care, he could have communicated that to you and maybe you could have worked it out. It hurts, but you deserve better.