What will you do?

I know that people show pictures online but even mine aren't totally like me in real life. Pictures can give you an idea of a person's looks but not totally I find. If it was just friends then it doesn't really matter what they look like. But if they person was looking for a romantic relation and I found them not to be attractive to me then I would have to tell them that I only can be friends. If there isn't an attraction then it isn't worth it for me.

I never experience chatting with some that I don't know. That was expected of course when you chat you will never give all the information about yourself sometime you will create a different personality just to impresses your chat mate. So don't expect that he/she will tell the truth. You to be wise go with the flow but don't expect more than you imagine.

I think as of my case, i will refrain from meeting someone i do not know. Or may be i should be extra cautious in this matter. i just can't meet some person unknown. Ia lso do not chat with unknown people.

This has happened to me. I met people I've known online, lots of them. Most were kind of different from their online personas but not markedly so. The few who were totally different were so endearing that I loved them more than ever! I've never met an online friend who was so different that I disliked them--to the contrary, they're usually so much different from their conservative online personas--or so much more outrageous--that I love them more than ever. Weird. I guess I'm blessed!

I have done this 2 times. Once with a guy that apparently ended up not wanting me and the other guy I ended up not wanting him. I have learned from these as online chatting is about as best as it gets. I dont think I will ever meet anyone again. Maybe a few as friends but nothing more then that. The one, I really liked talking to him and meeting screwed everything up. Sometimes its just better to stay chatting online.

It seems so simple...you would just quit talking to them if they were not the same person they were before you met.....But is it that simple? I don't know. How could I know if I haven't been in this situation. Good question. Let me know what you decide, hypothetically.

this is a reality for many people on the internet. I think we should take more time to get to know someone. Reall;y so we know both the good and the bad. No one is perfect and if they seem to be perfect it simply means we have missed something. To answer your question, i would say avoid it happening by making sure beore you meet up. If something seems too good to be true, then it probably is. blessed be

It's happened to me before and just as well I was with a group of friends visiting We were there for a Janet Jackon concert. We had been chatting for a while, as friends, and decided to meet up. I told him that we would be at the local flee market a group of say 10 girls. He called me on the cell saying he was there but I couldn't see him. He was hiding amongst the stalls LOL I thought that was a little childish since we were just meeting as friends, nothing else.

If I found that the person that I had chatted to was really nice in emails and I met him or her and he or she was not at all how I had imagined I would be surprised. If he or she was nervous I would imagine that he or she would feel more comfortable on a second meeting. If I found he or she was a nasty person I wouldn't want to see them again. Meeting in person is so different to emailing, text messaging and phone conversations. I read that a person makes up his or her mind within the first minute of meeting you. Such an experience must be quite common as Internet chatting is quite common these days. I haven't met anyone on My Lot and I wouldn't say I know anyone well enough to expect what they would be like if they met me. I believe that this sort if thing can happen.

I would personally just rever back to chatting online if that is how you best relate to each other and not arrange any more meeting in person. This happens in real life too you ccan know and be friends with someone for years and suddenly you relaise something baout them you really don't like so you go seperate ways. Ellie :D

Meeting someone that you have been corresponding with and IM chatting etc can be both exciting a frightening. My view is that whilst you possibly agree on one or two things, you need to get a solid overview of the person before meeting for real. What do you really know about them. The very least is an exchange of photos and a brief resume of what they have done with their lives. Like any other sort of dating, it is important to meet on neutral ground first. That way you can walk away if the meeting doesn't work out as you hoped that it would. I guess that the biggest shock must be if the 30 year old woman that you had been corresponding with for months turns out to be a 55 year old man! But I am sure that it happens.

If I met someone in person and that person is totally different from what I imagined and I didnt like it then I would not want to meet them again, even if it meant changing my phone number and email addresses and things! I probably would not say to them that I thought they were different from what I expected I would just not stay in touch.

before i used to chat through ym when i get a chance to... but i get to meet new people through cellphone.. i decide to meet up with people i have chatted from when i know i feel comfortable meeting up with that person. there are times that i get to scared to meet them up alone so i ask someone to bring along with me.. haha.. before i meet up with the person i ask the person to send me a picture of him via mms and if i liked what i see that is when i say yes to do meet ups.. as years gone by, i stopped chatting with people i dont know because most of the time, it turns out the other way around.. very much different from the person i was imaging he could be. haha!!! and i have also realized that this chat thingy is a waste of time for me.

I am usually very careful about who I chat to on the different messengers. The only place where I spill my guts is the teal talk chatroom and that is because everyone in there is a cancer survivor. Otherwise if someone tries to contact me, I will ask a lot of questions before I will consider answering any. I have never met up with anyone that I chatted with.