Have YOu Ever Done A BackGround Check on YOur Boyfriend?
By April
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
United States
March 9, 2008 10:04pm CST
hey there..Soo i was talking to a friend of mine todaya nd shes very...ohh how should i say..CAUTIOUS..about life..Shes very picky about everything and anything..and everything has a certain she does things..Soo now she has finally started to date..and she had her first this weekend..and she did a full background check on him online!! lol..ohh myyy..and she said she will continue to do so for everyone she dates..which is fine i guess..but we live in such a small town that like maybe 10,000 peopel live here and everyone knows what everyone does kind of thing..lol..oh well..soo that makes me wonder..anyone else do background checks..or have ever done a check on a date..spouse..friend...anyone?
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19 responses
@dinhquanghuy (647)
• Vietnam
11 Mar 08
I think that when we fall in love ,we have to believe our partner .Don't be afraid of a man or a woman if they love u. If u continue ur relationship in doubtful ,what all of u have to face is a broken love .So ,in my opinion ,u should talk to her that u are the best man for her and she needn't to do it no longer .That's all .If she can't stop doing that ,what u have to do is saying goodbye.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
10 Mar 08
no, i never actually do a background check on my bf before... not even my hubby now... i just trust him... of course, i will ask him common questions but not to the extent like doing a check and investigate him...
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@tess1960 (2385)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I think a personal background check of speaking to local people that know him is way better thatn an online background check. There are mistakes online galore as the internet is only as good as the person entering the data, plus some places refuse to fix mistakes, too time consuming, (even some of the credit reporting places).
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@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I have never done that, but it's not a bad idea. I should have probably done it on a few past boyfriends, before I met my husband. I don't think it's such a bad idea because you never really know, even in a small town.
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@drewgurl4u (6)
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10 Mar 08
it's saying to his/her face that i don't trust you, that's why i'm doing a background check on you... Do you get what i mean girl.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
well I guess she just wants to feel safe,
no I have never done it before, but living in a big city like I do it would not have been a bad idea when I first started dating someone.
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@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 08
Never to me. Because even you checked the whole men in the world, you will never find the Mr. 100% perfect for you. Same to men who get used to search for his spouse's background.
Even if you know, I think it will be a burden to you rather than to get known better.
Bet with me, people who wants to get known better to her/him, are more interested in his/her bad background rather than good background.
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@mnsrwt123 (2057)
• India
10 Mar 08
Well i never ever done a background check on my girlfriend, its just because i am the only one background of her. As we know each other from a very long time and we all know about each other. WE still have a good common friends but i never ever lost my trust on her.
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@mnsrwt123 (2057)
• India
10 Mar 08
Well i never ever done a background check on my girlfriend, its just because i am the only one background of her. As we know each other from a very long time and we all know about each other. WE still have a good common friends but i never ever lost my trust on her.
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@bluebutterfly1234 (92)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I have never done a background check on a boyfriend but I guess sometimes it would not be a bad idea. Sometimes the unknown is better LOL. I like to have a little mistery in my life and you kind of loose most of that when you find out all the stuff about someone before you give yourself a chance to know them for who they are know and not who they were in there past.
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@my_january (967)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
oh my God, now I am thinking if I should do it or not LOLz. Anyway, I have never thought of doing it (that's why I check this discussion hihi) For me, I really believe that you will get to know a person when you get to spend time with him or her and by asking that person of course. I also have this belief that you will know everything in the right time. you may not know the person instantly but we have a small world, God knows the perfect time when you need to know something- on the right time. Does your friend has a certain experience before that made her act that way? We can't really blame her though.
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@magilives (261)
• Australia
10 Mar 08
lol... I never thought of doing a background check on a boyfriend, but maybe I should have on my ex. He turned out to have a few things in his past that I didn't know about when I was with him. My current boyfriend is very honest and I just have to ask him about something and he will tell me... though I don't think I really want to know everything about his past since he was pretty wild in his teen years.
Oh well, each to their own, if your friend feels more comfortable knowing everthing about the men she is dating, that's fine. People do change though so she may not date someone just because of their past but he might be a real nice guy now.
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
13 Mar 08
That's wild!
I can't say I would never have done that though if I was single!
I am quite paranoid LOL.
I guess it's better to know if they've got anything crazy on their record before getting emotionally invested. You can't be too careful these days 
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
18 Mar 08
Now way! OMG! I prefer to find things out the hard way! Makes it more of a surprise and I can deal with it better than if I knew it was coming! I know we live in a trying world, but some things should just be left well alone until they are ready to be found out! On the other hand, she's a smart cookie!
@AICIRT81 (847)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I have not, but I certain can understand why your fiend does. It makes sense to me. I think when my son and any future child I may or may not have start dating, I might do that. lol. My son is going to hate my when he becomes a teen.
