Am I over reacting

It's sad to hear that. Ask yourself something, how did you feel before of this "bonding"? What kind of "bonding" is between them? How long has this person been a "close friend"? And who and why told you that it was "sickening"? Maybe this person is jealous of this friendship between them. Maybe your own past is clouding your judgement. I'm not saying not to be careful, in this day and age you can never be to safe, but also we not always have to be prepared to judge anybody just based on hearsay or somebody telling weird stuff about somebody else. I have a young child(she's 10 now) and I'm prepared to kick anybody teeth if something happens to her. What I do is talk to her and let her know how to react and act in situations that she fell awkward or uncomfortable. Talk to your child and hear(listen) what she have to say. I hope that you resolve this in a good manner. _José

i dont think you are in any way over reacting....people will tell all such kinda things and if we are to take them to heart then we cant even breathe...so juust ignore them and carry on with your life

i think its due to the fact what you experienced yourself. may be there can be something that is not ideal also in this case. its good to keep an eye but not to be suspicious without any cause. try to consult an adviser for it.

I think you should consider seeing a psychiatrist to deal with your childhood horrors and your irrational fear of your child and your family friend. Your child has also found a confident and you are taking that away from him/her by being so overbearing. If you REALLY need closure and to know what's going on sit your child down and flat out ask them. But yes, i think you are over reacting and your doctor can request a good psychiatrist to help you deal with these issues you have.

Well if you didnt notice anything before maybe there is nothing wrong. How old is your oldest child? I feel that if something has happened to you you would look for it to make sure it hasnt happened to your children. However sometimes people are in denial and dont want to look back on those things. So you could be right. It depends on the child too? Thats why I wanna know how old he/she is? I feel if you have a serious issue with this to talk to them about it. I would have to if it was me.

How old is you child? boy or girl? and your friend? Sometimes our teen need a figure (model role) in their life, and they will look up to older people. But also it depend on the situation, i can't say if you are overreacted or not, coz i don't know the details. But something i want to ask you is do you spend enough time with your kid, and give them love and affection they need?

From your discussion here it doesn't look like there is anything wrong. I think you may be over doing it. Don't let your past experience color the way you look at this. People are always ready to read sinister into a relationship. If you hadn't thought anything like this before don't let another person making a comment like they did change your opinion. You know if there is anything going on. If you now feel uncomfortable keep a closer eye yes. But not so the oldest child is aware of it.

This is a tough call to make. I can understand your point in being concerned and I think that makes you a great mom. I am very overprotective of my girls and I feel that you have to be these days. Don't let your guard down. There may not be anything going on but you just never know. I would ask your daughter about it and I would continue to watch the two of them together and see what happens.

If I were you, I wouldn't get so upset about it until you have some kind of proof. Have some faith in yourself that if anything totally inappropriate was to be happening, you would have noticed it being that you have previous experience with such a thing. As a general rule, people that have experienced situations like you have are never 100% trusting of anyone regardless of how much therapy they have gone through. I would start by talking to your daughter, but not directly. I wouldn't come out and ask her if something inappropriate was going on. Just kind of beat around the bush and make sure she understands that you are there for her to talk to about anything that she might want to talk about or anything that might be bothering her. Then watch them a little bit more. At some point, you have to have faith in your daughter to make the right choices and come to you if she needs to. The person that mentioned it may find things abnormal from their point of view. I wouldn't necessarily strangle them for voicing concerns. Be glad that you have other people that care enough to look out for your daughter :)

Where our children are concerned it is very easy to see things that are not there, one wrong word or insinuation and we believe the worst. Someone has planted a seed in your mind and now every little thing you see you are going to question. Obviously this is bothering you to the point where very soon your feelings are going to be obvious to the person involved and so you may have to have a chat with them and tell them whats been said and try and clear the air because if this is all innocent it will end up being a mess with a lot of people being hurt. Accusations are the worst kind for damaging everything, things should not be said unless there is evidence to back it up.

How old is your child and is it a girl or boy"? I can understand that you could feel very frightened because of this closeness. While it is nice for our children to have friends sometimes this so called friendship is a coverup for the close friend of the family to pursue his warped desires. I don't think you are a loon at all for doing what you are doing. Too many times a so called friend of the family has hidden desires that nobody realize until its too late. I would really talk to your oldest child and I think I would gently but clearly warn her about inappropiate behavior of anyone towards her, specially a close friend of the family and be alert of any sudden changes in your child.I do not think you are over doing it at all. but I would have some serious talks with your oldest child and be clear that no matter what happens to her or what bothers her she can come to you any time she needs to.You are so right, nobody has the right to steal her child hood Nobody.I have been there and it leaves a scar on you for life.

No, I don't think you are over reacting...it is a natural reaction for any parent to take good care of the welfare of their children. What I would like to suggest is you take that step to have a heart to heart talk with your friend. I think it would be really unfair if you take the gossip as the truth without even asking your friend about it. Talk with your child as well and ask her about it. If there really is something going on between them, it would be best if you talk to your friend and ask him to stay away from your child.

Keep a close eye but I wouldn't go and tell this frind of the family to stay away or anything rash. Its okay to be aware that trouble could occur but don't treat it as if it were inevitable or a for sure thing. I'm a mother too. We worry and want to protect our young...thats just what we do.

I personally don't think that you are over reacting...I feel that if your first mind tells you something to look out for then you should do so. I mean she will always be your child, yes you have to let her grow up, but it is also our jobs as parents to forever protect our kids.