housewife or working wife (Men's point-of-view accepted/needed/respected)

i can honestly agree with you. i have been off work for 2 wks and its driving me nuts and i finally applied for a stylist position at a local salon and i have never been so happy and relieved. this way i can work and be at home with my children.

I am also a stay at home mom but just lucky that my employer doesn't want me quitting my job and opted for me to telecommute. I have been working at home for the last 5 years and taking care of my 2 daughters. It is quite hard but I love being a stay at home mom because I am there during the formative years of my children. When they will start school, I will return to the corporate world. Financially, if we are able to make it, I would not mind being a housewife. I am content with it. But nowadays, I think it is good if husband and wife will be working because of our economic situation, prices are skyrocketing.

I am a working housewife for more than 26 years now. It is really hard to be a working housewife/mom. But my priority is my family, my kids when they were still small. I was always late, halfday in work and had been given memo for my poor attendance. There was a point that I just wanted to stay at home. But then, I've realized that its boring to stay at home all the time. If I could have all the money, I want to stop or retire from work and have a tour of other countries to enjoy and relax.

hi there i think it all comes upon the income of your husband. if u sre financially sound then chill at home otherwise toil hard to make the ends meet

As a woman, I have tried working outside both as a teacher for 3 years and a call center agent for another 3 years. I've also had other employment experience but short lived ones. With all those years of working combined, I know it's still too short but I think I have had enough. Right now, I enjoy staying at home with my husband all the time because he too just works at home. He is a dentist and his clinic is just next to our house. Aiming to be somebody in the corporate world or in the academe was a thing in the past to me. As for now, I just enjoy my stay here in our house 24/7. My husband and I plan to go to US or Canada in the future so that means I will be obliged to work again and I'll just wait for that time to come.

I understand how you feel right now, I've been there. I am not married yet though, but I used to be busy with my On-the-job training then got a job and in all those years I merely get to sit down at the house and have fun with my family. I was busy with work, now that I stay at home everyday, sometimes I do feel the pressure, but since I got myself busy again with medical transcription course, which I am taking through home study program, I seldom get bored now. Then came myLot, I'm having fun with. Maybe you need some time off the daily chores and maybe consider learning new things.

I am fifty one years old and thirty years back , when it was not a regular practice for all women to do post graduation , I finished my MA in Literature. My parents believed in educating girls so that it would give them more confidence and it would also come handy in need. That apart we were trained to be only homemakers/housewives . I was happy and devoted all my time to my only son till he came to the fifth standard. But even before this , soon after he was born I found a good teacher and learnt classical music from scrap. When I was learning music[I had reached the advanced stage pretty fast due to the God given ear I had for music. So, at this stage students started approaching me to teach them . This was the first activity I took up. Apart from this I took an active interest in the Capital market[with the expert guidance of my chartered accountant husband who had started his independent practice after leaving his job] and started investing.It was a support to his activities. MY music group went on and next I started teaching English. This grew as a very big activity that I started getting students from all over the city, and I had different groups of students passing on the good word of mouth. In fact I was so successful that I was invited as a chief guest in my former college , in appreciation of my service to society. This is my life time achievement as a freelancer. Now I have relocated to Mumbai. I have found some writing activity in the net, and my investing goes on. I have no regrets for not taking up regular employment..I could dedicate all my time to my son in his formative years and he performed wonderfully well. He is a rank holder in a professional exam where the pass rate is 6% and is also a management grad from the most prestigious institute. I may not have earned the best money possible but earned a lot of goodwill, recognition and fame. These cannot be quantified. So, to your question--I am a selfemployed homemaker. , I feel that you can engage your time productively in some activity at home. The remuneration may not be as good as going out for a job. But this certainly has great advantages.There will be no compromise on the homefront and we can still be independent.

Hi Thank you for inviting me as your friend and for the comment. You will also be able to find some good productive way of self employment sooner or later. Looking forward to more chatting.

i am not yet a wife so my response might be somewhat bias. but in my opinion being a wife should not hinder you into achieving self growth therefore you can also do the task you regularly do as a bachelor like having a job. besides, with the way life is getting harder and harder now and economy is continuously falling, women should find ways to help their husband manage their finances efficiently by helping him pay the bills, and you can only do that if you have your own job as a source of your funds.

Yeah i feel the sam eway, house work is more stressful than office work, and i love to 2 work, but in my circumstances, i just cant.

The best would be a balance of both...but to have a position on your question, I would say that I prefer a career woman. That's because I am still young and, still the most important thing for now is financial development...of course this is easier and the objectives are more realistic when in two...careers... Also I am stil at the age when it doesn't bother me much to eat in a restaurant or a fast-food...so there's no so much need of having someone home expecting me with warm meals on the table... But when "grown-up", I think stability is what matters more, and stability for a man is given by a woman who takes care of things back home (not exclusively, but usually). On the other hand, I don't see why responsabilities have to be different?

I know how you feel and I have undergone the situations you have now. I'm very active in corporate world for 15 years, with a very nice salary and high position to boast of, until I decided to gave it up when I decided to settle down. Quitting this world is probably one of the most difficult decisions I've made. Sometimes, we have to face the consequences of our choices. I can say money is not the real issue in my case because my husband can support for all our needs. I tried to open another career by trying to engage in homebased business but the quality of the time I spend for my family suffers. Because of that, I have to give-up the business and concentrate on my family. At first, it was really very hard. I really missed that busy and complicated world, my 9-6 routine. When my baby arrived, things were changed. I no longer have extra time to think and engage in any other activity except the baby, the house and the family. It was then that I realized that being a full-time housewife is a very tough job. But as our child grows, you get the hang of it and your life goes back to normal. I still do get offers from companies willing to take my services, but as for the moment, I still want to enjoy the moment with my child. It's been three years since she was born and I can feel that soon, she will be on her own. Come next school year she will be going to school. I can now feel the excitement of bringing her to school and helping her with her assignments. Though I still have the thoughts of going back to work, I think it's gonna be when my child is old enough to be on her own. But as for the moment, my role is to be a good mom, a loving housewife and a perfect homemaker.

I guess I'm different from alot of people, but I actually like staying at home, I like to clean and I would like to cook if I had more time to even learn it. Right now I'm working full time, while being pregnant, and its not easy, specially with the job that I have. Maybe if I had a less weight bearing job I wouldnt mind it as much but I would MUCH rather stay home than work. I was kind of raised like that so I guess thats where it comes from?

I tried to stay home with my son when he was first born. I lasted all of 8 months. I really respect stay at home Moms because I know I was not cut out for it. It is A LOT harder than people think. Don't get me wrong, I adore my son and love spending time with him, but I just couldn't stay home all day and not work. I need to have my own pay cheque coming in. I like the fact that I am providing just as much as my husband is. I may not make as much money as he does, but I am getting close, plus I still do all the house work and cooking, etc. so I think that makes me just as much an asset as his work. Being a Mommy is hard. Staying home with your kids all day is harder. We all love our children, but I just couldn't imagine spending 24/7 with them, I would pull my hair out, I need my break every day. As I said, some women are cut out for it, but I am definately not one of them. I give props to all the homemakers out there, you ladies are amazing. Good for you!

hmm, well, I prefer to work and earn my own living. According to me, Living off a man is quite degrading. Most of the time, they act as if they are doing you a great favor. But, I agree that housework is a great deal of work, quite stressful, and has absolutely no pay, the one thing that matters the most!! Cheers,

Though there are days when I feel like I need a break, I Love being a stay at home mom and wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. The only way I will go back to work before my son starts school is if it means the difference between us making it or not. A few months ago I was looking for a job. Things were getting tight. Then I decided to take a closer look at our budget and see if I could slim it down any more. I did, we are doing well now, and I am able to stay home for a while longer. We are even putting more into savings. These years are so fleeting and I don't want to miss them. I have the rest of my life to work for someone else, but soon my son will be grown and the opportunity will be gone. Even when I was working I had days when I was overwhelmed and didn't want to be there, so having days like that at home is no big deal. I don't think I want to go back to work just because I feel like that sometimes.

If I get married, I will let my wife decides which is better for her. I will support whatever her decision. I always think who know best about someone is herself. About my girlfriends, she likely will be a career woman. Let us see :-)

of course it's her choice.i will respect what she choose to be.if she wants to be a housewife,i will try to make more money,do whatever i can do to support the family.i think my future wife should have her interests,hobbies.not just stay at home,doing some housework. working is better than staying at home,you know,we must have something to strive for,to care for.

I want to be a homemaker until my baby is in school then I want to work as a photographer. Being a photographer would give me freedom to pick her up if shes sick or something at school. I could do something I love and make money while I'm at it! I think if your able to stay home with your babies while they're little thats great. If you can't or don't want to it shouldn't be held against you. Working moms love their babies just as much as stay at home moms.

I think it doesn't matter to be a housewife or not. You can benifit from it because you bring other persons in your family happy and relax. If your domestic economic condition is just well, why not staying at home for leading a happy life? I perfer a job which can earn money while staying at home. For example, I have a small business and employ several persons to help me to keep an eye on my business. and at the same time I count money at home.lol!Am I a daydreamer?