My partner wants the big 'snip' I would like to know what other people would do?

27 is quite young to get such an operation. He might just be saying that now because both of your children are so young and it's stressful for him now. I would tell him to hold off on the surgery and try to ease things for him in any way you can at home. I mean, worst case if he's set on it, is adoption an option that you would consider?

first of all CONGRATULATIONS on your new born. From what I know about the snip I think it is non reverseable so what if he regreted it once its been done. I would say to try something less drastic for now untill you are in a position to decide once and for all if you can/cant afford another child. Not sure what country you are in but here in the uk you can have a contraceptive injection and that basically stops you getting pregnant and lasts for 12 weeks so you dont have to worry about issues like not remembering to take the monring after pill.

My question is have you discussed these same questions here to him. Twenty seven is too young to me to have this done. I think your concerns are very valid. It sounds like from what you have said that he hasn't thought this through very deeply. What the results would be if as you said if something happened to one or the other or both of the kids. It sure sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with him when you two are not disturbed and bring some of your concerns to him.

As long as you've discussed this at length I think you should be happy with the two you've got. I understand what you're saying about tragedies in life but it's a kind of morbid way of looking at things and if it's your only argument against vasectomy it's really shaky. I'm 36 and had a vasectomy last year. I don't regret it one bit. We thought we might want to have more kids but there were numerous considerations we had to contend with from various health issues to the fact that we already have one kid with Autism. There could be a huge divide between thinking you might want another one and how good an idea it would be.

I think that whatever decision is made, it should be one that you're both absolutely on board with. If one of you is iffy about it, you shouldn't go through with it. It is ultimately his decision, but it does affect both of you dramatically.

I as a woman, would tell him to not have the surgery but I myself would go to the GYN and have them give you an IUD. IUD's are very effective ways of preventing pregnancy and last for 5 years. Not sure the rate of effectiveness cause it depends upon the type of IUD you have chosen. As far as the surgery goes, its not impossible for things to "regrow" and be able to impregnate someone again! Its not always 100% effective way of preventing pregnancy. Maybe you should take him with you to talk to your GYN about the whole thing. The surgery can be rather painful. Good Luck and I hope he doesn't go for the surgery.

Well, If you want my opinion, I would definitely give you that but if you feel that my opinion has offended you in any means then I am extremely sorry of it. Now, Its you and your husband who have to live together for many years and its very necessary to have mutual understanding between you. So that no one can blame if somethings went wrong in you future and I hope your life's go perfectly as planned by you. And well thinking of these rash things is not a good thing. Because nobody can predict future and to make decision without being sure of something is not correct. So both of you calmly decide what you want for your family. After all its you own decisions, we can only give you opinions. I will pray to god that everything goes awesome for your family. Thanks for reading my response. Goodbye

it is okay for you and your husband to think of financial capabilities for the family. nowadays, a big family is really not advisable, everythings gone up these days. i would agree with him on that that he only wanted to be able to provide well for your family. but of course, getting something like that done at his age may affect some other things, and about your worries, i hope you won't think much of it now. im sure bad things won't happen.

My brother and his wife discussed this after their last child was born and he went and had it done and he told me it can be reversed so they are not regretting it at all. His physician said that the new techniques they use now makes it easy to reverse the procedure.

Dear.....IS DAT UR PERSONAL MATTER?.....BY DISCUSSING IN PUBLIC........discuss wid him afterall he is ur husband.....or take ur own decision is dese big....sorry huge matter.......either u discuss wid dat person who knw u both .......nt in mylot dear..........srry if i said smethng wrong....dnt hav any misconception abt me....plz its ur personal things....so its 2 be personal.......

At 27 years of age, that is a young age to make a big decision like that. Maybe you could suggest going on the pill for a year and then approach the subject again. Your children are still quite young and at a very needy stage, maybe your partner finds this overwhelming. The big snip is physically easier for the man to get it done than the woman getting her tubes tied. I got my tubes tied after having 4 children. I regret my decision because I am no longer with the father of my children and have a much better life with my new husband but I can't have children with him. These are serious choices on has to make and should not be taken lightly. As long as you both respect eachothers feelings you will come to an agreeable decision. Good luck.