regretting a loan.

your sister is jealous hearted, selfish and unfair 1st you should of never gave her the ring to borrow because you saw the signs to know she was jealous, you got certain jewerly and she didn't. 2nd why let her have her cake and eat it to she got what your grandmother wanted her to have. 3rd how could you be selfish for something that was given to you and mean so much. hell no!!!! don't let her keep sh*t she is rude and out of order. 4th call her up, and tell her you want to wear your ring. let her know she is very selfish. because you let her borrow it, and you exspect it back. today!!! let me know what happens. then we will go to the next step

No you aren't being selfish and quite often a mother will give most of the jewelry to one child (usually the eldest but not always) so I wouldn't let that bother you. I noticed in your other responses that she has said she'll give it back but then doesn't. You may have to go go to her place and ask for it directly. If she says you can have it say "Thank you, can you get it for me so I don't forget it when I leave?" That way it sounds nice and polite but you also get the ring right then and she can't stall on it. I know handling family is never easy and I know from expereience there are times you have to be blunt and tactful at the same time. I wish you luck with this and hope it works out.

Your mom wanted you to have the ring so it is yours. You shouldn't feel selfish for wanting it back. You were generous for allowing her to borrow it and now its time for her to give it back.

Not selfish at all. I just hope your sister hasn't done anything with it or even lost it. It was given to you by your grandmother and is YOURS to keep, so ask her again for it.

I do not think that you are wrong in wanting the ring back. It was your grandmother's and your mother's. It holds sentimental value to you and was given to you for that reason. Sadly, it sounds as if you are in a position now that you will have to demand it back or take it back yourself because it doesn't seem like she is going to give it back on her own free will. I really hope she isn't stalling because she has lost it or something equally bad.

The ring is yours, why should you feel selfish? Yes, the ring has sentimental value to your sister as well, but it belongs to you, no different than any other possession of yours, whether you purchased it yourself or received it as a gift (which this was, really). Your sister is the one being selfish. Is it possible she has just forgotten? Could you bring it up casually in a conversation and see what she says?

If she is your real sister, then why can't she have the same feeling that you bear in your mind? Why can't she have the same right to use the ring? After all she is your sister, not anyone from the local orphanage. Then why can't you give a thing to her. Your mother is no more, but her memory, gene etc. are still alive in your sister. Isn't that a great thing? Which one is more important -- a living memory of your mother (your sister) or her ring? Think... You will get the answer.

I don't think you are being selfish in wanting it back. It seems very sentimental to you and I'm sure your sister knows this. How long has she had it? I would ask her for it and see what happens. Don't let it start an argument though. If she doesn't want to return it, then just let it go. Family is more precious than precious stones.

Hun you have every right to want the ring back. It was given to you not your sister and she is the one being selfish not you. Some people just cannot accept what others have and always envy what we have. Well your sister is sh1t outta luck. Yes it was an awful way to receive a gift from a parent but it was still a gift to you no matter what she thinks it is now and always will be your ring until you pass it on.

If you truly want it back, I would call her and tell her that you want to wear it for a special occasion and that you'll be stopping by to pick it up. That gives her time to get it for you. Then stop over to get it... Hopefully she can't come up with another excuse as to why she can't give it to you... I hope you get it back...

Your mother must have wanted YOU to have it so I would ask for it back. I don't think you are selfish at all for asking for something that belongs to you. Your sister needs to understand that both of you can't own it but she is lucky that you let her borrow it and if she will return it you might let her borrow it some other time. Good luck.

Just let her know how much the ring means to you and that you would like it back. You say that you inherited most of her jewelry - is there a piece that you can part with that maybe your sister might be interested in? Maybe she would give it back if there was something else she could have in return.

I don't think you are being selfish in wanting it back. However, it does seem strange to me that since your mother had two daughters; you would think they should would have divided her jewelry equally between the two of you. You say in your post that you inherited most of the jewelry. I think that must have been very hurtful for your sister. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out for you.

I don't think that you are being selfish in wanting it back. The ring was passed on to you so that makes it yours, and you were nice enough to loan it to your sister. You have every right to ask for it back. The ring has been passed down from mother to daughter thru two generations and you just happened to be the daughter it was last passed on to. I think your mom god rest her soul passed it on to you because you apreciated it more. So get it back.

well, i guess it was okay that you lent it to your sister... i think though she will find ways not to return it anymore. it is not selfish of you to have wanted it back, after all, it is yours now right?maybe she just got jealous and is getting back at you now that you were too kind to let her have it for now... goodluck be patient and try not to sound too demanding when you take it back

I would let it go. Family is a precious thing and that seems like a thing that could cause strife. I know from the discussion that the ring is very special to you but do you want to cause strife between your sister and you. You don't say in your discussion how you and your sister get along together. Whether you are close or not. No you are not being selfish. It is something that you hold very dear. It seems she is not being very considerate of your feelings though.

If I was entrusted that very treasured jewelry I have to take care of it as how the real owner do! Im sure your sister will understand if you will ask her back..Just allow her to borrow other ring from you! Explain to her why you are worried that much and Im sure she will sympathize you..but, if you think you can trust her so much, there is no reason to worry..You have the same mother and Im sure she will love and take care of it since it was loved and treasured by your mom!

as a man ,i think you should be more benevolent than your sister,and i think family relationship is more precious than any jewelry,you canot get to be hated to your sister because she keep your jewelry,even you should give more careness and love to her,maybe oneday when she know you very like the jewelry ,she return it to you,maybe when she return it to you and you know she like it very much ,you will not accept her jewelry return,it is just a jewelry ,nothing is more important than family or friendship.

I have been in a similar situation. I have a fair bit of jewelery that my mother has given me, one in particular that my sister really likes. She has borrowed it and when she took to long to return it I asked her for it back. Mind you our mum is still alive so maybe she thought I would just bring mum into if she didn't give it back. You need to decide if you really want the ring back and if so ask your sister for it back. Explain to her why it holds meaning for you and I am sure she will understand. good luck with is