What should I do about my mother in law?

I wouldn't want that woman mad at me! So don't tell her anything. Call her up and explain that you are out of money, but, if she would send a cheque or money-order for the gas, you would be Happy to go for her. Its as easy as that! If she doesn't respond, then you don't have to go. She can't get too mad when you are out of money. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Go for it!

I would probably be totally honest with her. I would tell her that "I can't keep driving you everywhere, unless you can chip in with gas money. It is becoming a financial burden on our family. I enjoy taking you places and helping you, but I just can't keep this up." Hopefully she will take it well, but believe me, after a couple of weeks of you not helping her, she will come around.

You just need to set some boundaries, angelbaby, and then be sure to stick to them. Just explain that you love her and want to help out but you have a family that has to be looked after too. Do something like offer to take her once per month. It is not easy having to be firm and stick to your boundaries with difficult family members but in the end everyone is better off and eventually happier.

Pray for those that spitefully use you, yes.... allow them to continue to use you, no. Courteously break it down for her that you simply cannot afford to constantly go out of your way to assist her when she is not helping you in any way. But continue to pray for her. Blessed Be

Out of what you had posted so far about your mother in law, I am just wondering why your husband is not in the picture here. I mean what did he have to say about this so far? Afterall, she is his mother. I think what is bothering you is that she is spending the money on marijuanna that is upsetting you here.I don't think that if she had spent in on other things it would be a matter to you. I feel that as a family, and being concern for her and her spiritual well being, it is only right to visit her and bring her to church on weekends. Afterall, it is only once a week and doing this without her asking will even be a wonderful surprise for her. Needless, to say the genuine love and concern shown here. As you are aware of her addiction, I think there is no better way to support her to stay away from this addiction than to show that all of you genuinely care for her. To me, people like your mother in law doesn't simply get addicted without a reason and the only way to wean them out of it will be strong family support and love. This is my other perspective for you to consider.

You are giving up money and family time. I would tell her that you are sorry, but with the price of gas you simply cannot afford to run her around anymore. I probably would offer to continue to get her for church and IF the Walmart or other errands she needs done are on the way then do it before or after church. But that's it.

My opinion. You should tell her that you dont mind helping out, but it is causign you money problems. Tell her you have to get oil changes sooner, and pay for much more gas. Be forward, and tell her that if she cant help with gas, you cant help her anymore. It can be as simple as money. If she needs your help, she can come up with gas money. Gas costs too much now a days, not to get some reimbursement. Dont feel bad. She needs to hold up to her end of the deal. If you stop taking her places, or running errands, she will get the picture, and either start paying for gas, or she will find someone else. Either way you win.

Of course it aggravates you and it should. Yes talk with her and let her know how you feel. If you don't she will continue to do so, believe me I know. I've been in that situation more times then I can say. Yes the bible says to turn the other cheek but at the same time it also states that God helps those who helps themselves. So saying something to her even if it doesn't fix it all it will make you feel better. I'm going to suggest a book to you. It's called "Boundaries". You can read about it here: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310247454 It's a great book. It really deals with how Christians have a hard time saying no because one is raised to believe in "helping others" and to "honor our elders" and so forth.

I love my caller ID I usually have to run errands for people and most of them give me gas money some don't but I know they don't have much money so I don't hassle them about it. But if I don't want to do anything on a particular day I just don't answer my phone. OOOPS I must have been in the shower.......lol.

just dont mind her!lol