OH my goodness.i just cleaned under my daughters bed.

My perspective is that if a child is responsible for cleaning their room they need specific instructions of how to do it. And then they need constant follow-up to see that they have done as instructed. And over time they will develop the habit of doing as they have been taught without so much supervision. I used to leave my daughters' to their own mess. The rooms became rats' nests! Well, not literally. We never had rats. But it sure looked like it. I refused to go into their rooms - it was dangerous! But now I think I did them a disservice by allowing them to be so slovenly. What kind of image was I perpetrating by allowing them to live like that? I wish I had done a better job of teaching them to respect themselves enough to treat their property and living space in more order. I wouldn't expect them to be neat freaks. But they don't deserve to live in such messes. And I wish I had respected my SELF enough to demand that my house not be disrespected in such a way. There are reasons I didn't know to do that then. I've learned and grown a lot and look back now with hindsight being 20/20. :-) I visited one of my grown daughters once and her apartment was terribly messy and disgustingly filthy. I felt sad that I hadn't taught her better.

Well I truthfully can say that I never found anything under my daughters beds and that's only because for some reason both my daughters liked their mattresses on the floor and not on the rails. But otherwise their rooms were disaster areas that I dare not walk into them. I do have to say that my oldest 21 year old daughter has moved out, and she does a much better job about keeping things cleaned and picked up than she did when she was at home.

I stopped cleaning my kids rooms when they were really, really young. They were responsible for cleaning their own rooms. If they wanted to live like slobs...their choice. I just closed their bedroom doors. They also did their own laundry starting very young. I stopped even bugging them to clean their rooms after they reached about 3rd or 4th grade. If they want a clean environment then they have to do the work and they did. If i were to go into my 14 yr olds room right now, I guarantee that if there were anything under her bed it would be neatly labled boxes of stuff she has sorted out. Without being told, she just keeps her room clean and organized. She is pretty self-sufficient.

EW! At the moment there is nothing under my sons bed. Thank goodness. Once though while cleaning out his toy box I had to resist the urge to purge. He had all kinds of stuff in there.

Wow! Haha... usually I thought girls don't like messy rooms, so that's something new to me. Hrmm... that's weird, why won't she have you clean or go into her room? I mean... you are doing the work anyway, unless she wants some privacy? But still... what is there to hide from her own mother.

Well my room used to be like that especially under the bed! I used to tidy my room by putting everything under the bed :P Now I'm at Uni and so everything under my bed is a bit more organised - there are boxes containing my underwear (because my room is quite small and I don't have enough wardrobe space) and my suitacse as well as some carrier bags. As for my room back home I think my mum uses it as storage space, she has what is like a large drawer on wheels that she can slid in and out from under the bed - very useful!

Been there, done that far too many times. My niece (whom I help raise) just cleaned her room but she seldom gets under the bed area. I really do need to check it but I'm afraid too. Call me a coward but I don't want to know what all is under there right now. Of course it probably helps that I did clean out under it about a month ago so that should mean I don't have any penicillin growing under there but one never knows for sure.

Well most of the stuffs under my kids bed are toys and candy wrappers.We just have a small house so all my 5 kids share one room sometimes I sleep with them sometimes my husband does and sometimes the maid does. Anyways the kids didn't just stuff their things underneath the bed sometimes it just fell and they didn't pick it up..lol..sometimes pillows are there papers, stuff toys..Now I have a maid to clean it up for me.:)

That reminds me of how my brothers were when we were kids...LOL! My dad and mom would always nag us about cleaning our bedrooms everyday. Well, we would clean our rooms. Then when we looked into our brothers' room everything appeared nice and clean. But when you look under their beds....OMG! Everything would be under those beds! I guess that wasn't an unusual thing for kids, huh!

I would find nothing! Not for lack of my 4 year old effort. We bought a bed with drawers attached at the bottom. So there is NO under of her bed.BUT there is a between the bed and the wall. Having looked there were pony tail holders and dolly barretts and some pennies from her bank. When daddy moves the bed she will clean it up.(The sucker is heavy!) But nothing to the scale that you describe. We started early with a quote from my mom "A good house is a clean house is a happy house" At four that works. WHY are you cleaning her mess. I'd sure be making her clean that yuck. You are a nice mom.I wouldn't be.

Yikes! Sounds like you really had a lot of work to do! I find similar things under my son's bed...plus toys and lots of crumbs from cookies he snuck off with! our own bed can sometimes collect quite a bit under it - i try to keep up with it but it's hard to remember to look there!

I am not happy to hear that really. Because she is a lady, and not very young after all you say she's 17. I am not sure about the teenagers in your place but a lady with the age of 17 would like to keep her room tidy really, at least in my area they usually do. When I recall my childhood memories, even when we were 8 or 9 years old, a girl friend of me would never let us to sit on her bed because she tidied it by herself :) Oh, how nice days they were.. I just missed my childhood.. I think you should speak with your daughter after all. There is no need to keep her room that dirty. Even I (as a boy) have messed up lots of things but not that much. Maybe she needs to tell you something, and has something in mind that keeps her too busy to do anything else.

I do not have that problem as all the kids beds do not have an underneath! One way to solve that problem ah! But I know how disgusting they can be as I remember being pretty disgusint myself and my mum used to find jars of mouldy peanut butter and mouldy bread and crisp packets, hundreds of them where I used to just fold them up and slide them down the side. Oh and mouldy cups, it was mainly food with me. I am very pleased to say I am no longer that disgusting!

my daughter is two and when i've cleaned under her bed i've found some food that she has hidden jus so she can get her water or juice after she's eaten some crayons a coloring book and old sippy cup with old milk in it clothes under wear, toys (a whole bunch of toys)i'm surprised she didnt have any bugs of any kind under there because of the food but now i have catter cornered her bed so that way its not against the wall and she cant hide things anymore. and you know to think of it i have found some of my things under there too LOL!!

First of all, ew! I'm 18 and I could never let my room be that messy. My mom used to clean my room all the time when I would be gone for a few days and even I was scared of what she'd find. (Not that I keep anything inappropriate, just my friends are in here a lot so who knows) I would never keep like food or empty/dirty dishes around my room though. I never let my mom in my room either unless she's got something that's mine or she's done my laundry for me(I usually do my own, but my mom does it once in a while for me) But WOOWWW.. I'd have a talk with her if I were you. I know my mom would just lay the stuff on my floor and tell me to clean it up/put it all away on my own.

i am laughing because if u came to my house u would die! my daughter is 23 and a pig and she never hits the trash can , why i dont know i am clean but wow . i can find all my plates i am missing to

Oh,why not you found it early?I think you clean it is the not the best way.You should teach her that she should do it by herself.And you should let her have a good manner.

Lol..well when my daughters were living at home there mess was their own to sort out. Mind you saying that it used to drive me nuts when I opened the bedroom doors!! But it would have made me worse if id have actually cleaned their mess up!!! Brave Sue ....

My parents let me do the 'emptying-out-the-trash-out-of-my-bed' part, but house help sweep the dust away. Since I am the daughter, what my mom would probably find are boxes. A bunch of 'em. I keep a lot of sentimental things back in high school. The school paper, invitations, awards and medals from class, even letters from exes. Yep, you'd find those stuff, but you won't find stuff like--underwear or anything under that category. My bed may be gross, but not that much. It's still liveable; thank you very much.

Haha, oh no! I am 15, as I am on my Dads account, and my mum ALWAYS tidies my room. However, she doesn't really check out under my bed. It has two draws under it full of old cuddly toys that never see daylight and old board games! Then behind those two draws are loads of boxes full of art stuff and basically a load of other stuff that never sees daylight either! I do think it is an effective way to make a room look tidy though. Though I suppose it would be better to give some of the stuff to charity rather than it staying under my bed for years...