Would you tell them?

This is a difficult one. Part of me would want to tell the parents, but if, as you say, you don't think they care too much what she does, then maybe it would be better to befriend the daughter more, and invite her into your home, paying her attention. Ask your daughter to invite her back... protect her from the outside influences, and maybe she'll tell you why she is acting this way. My feeling is that she craves her parents' attention, and she's not getting it, so she's rebelling and doing things she feels might draw their attention, even if only in the form of punishment... it would show they cared something for her. My gut feeling is that she feels all alone in the world, she is battling with puberty and nobody's teaching her the right way to go. If she carries on the way she is, she's going to have a lousy adulthood. I would tend to ask her why she does all those things when she should be out having a "fun" time like all the other teenagers. I'd invite her to come to me if ever she has any problems regarding growing up, or with her parents... not to take her parents' place, but in order to gain her confidence. Somebody has to do that before she ends up in juvenile court, or a rehab centre. It makes me want to weep when I see this sort of thing going on. Thank goodness for my children, who have a lot of time for their kids. Brightest Blessings.

Yes I would tell them. But be prepared-- they may get defensive. I guess it would depend on what kind of relationship you have with them.Either way, if it were my child I would be grateful to have a caring neighbor and I would want to know!

I think you would tell this to her parents, being soft, and saying that's just your opinion. Sometimes people don't like someone putting the nose in their business.

I wouldn't tell them. I don't think smoking pot is that big a deal. I think teen pregnancy is a lot worse that pot smoking. I think her parents probably already know the last thing they need to know is that everyone else knows. No I wouldn't tell.

great question, i guess it will depend if i know the mom and how close the parents relationship is to the child. sometimes parents do know and others think they dont so it becomes awkward when someone say something to the parents and suddenly be told they already knew. here is the thing, i dont have a child yet but i am hoping that once i have my own i want to make the relationship so open and loving and that my child will not have a problem telling me his/her deepest secret. i think in our society now, parents tend to neglect teh child and work so much and didnt even get a chance to REALLY know the kid. also, some i seen they are so judging bout their kids and that pushes the kid not to be open. my husband have this friend and his friend's daughter is more open to him than her mom it's all because the mom is always upset to her and always tells her what to do and not to do. teh kid complain that she is in the age that she needs to explore and it is normal and ok and the more you try to hide/cage your kid the more it will want to fly. i guess, we just have to be there for them and let them know the consequences of their action. then we dont have to worry or wonder what they are doing on our back and wonder what kind of kid we have. i know it is easier said than done but i am hoping that i can start to be a my kid's bestfriend when they were young so they know they can always count on mommy and daddy. just my two cents! takecare

i would, but thats just because thats the type of person i am and it irritates me that people dont want to raise there kids better and want nothing but the best possible future.

Tough one! I know the parents don't care....but I would want to know too if it was my daughter. I think I will tell....and then leave it at that. If they tell me that they don't want to hear about it...then I wouldn't tell them the next time I saw her doing something I thought was wrong.

Me, I am telling, why? In 2 years she will be a legal adult and that is plenty of time to mess up your life. Though I did that kind of stuff when I was that age, and I turned out alright

i'd tell the parents. it's for the kid's own good...

Coming from a different point of view, yes, I'd tell them, that if they let their daughter smoke, fine, but keep her from doing it in the woods. This coming from a wildland firefighter, knowing that human carelessness causes most of the fires we fight. I would have a problem with my daughter doing any of those at that age, but obviously those parents don't care what she does, so on that note I would just let it go at 'she was seen smoking (not what) in the woods, and the safety issues and let them take it from there.

I'd probably say something. Hearing it from you would be a lot less embarrassing than hearing it from somebody with a warrant (if it ever got that far).

It really depends on who that person is. I might tell her parents about her activities, but then, like you said, the parents are aware of it. If I am a parent and this is happening to my kid, I would want someone to tell me. I think it's helpful and would at least give me a chance to help out my kid.

This is a sensitive question....... If the parants are of your closer ones then i would definitly be telling the parants.... If they are not known to me by personally but if i know the parents, then also i would tel them coz she is 16 and doesn't know the world so much.... if she is more than 18 definitly i would not tell them but i would prevent my daughter from having a closer friendship with her....

As what you're saying, parents of girl smoking knows she is doing such things and they just ignore the problem. I don't think they will care about the problem even you have gone to tell them. So, the own thing you can do is to tell your daughter not to get along with that girl smoking.

I would definitely tell her parents, if only to get it off my conscience. I mean, I know that these parents may not do anything about it, but they have the right to know what their little girl is doing. I would tell her parents right away, then no matter what happens, I know that I did my part.

Yea I hate it happened. But if she is already partaken in that. There is really nothing that you can do. Just make sure your girl is being taught the right thing. If you bring her up in the way she should go then you will be ok.