Do we have to be a wonder woman everyday?
@lydiacarey143 (12)
March 19, 2008 8:20am CST
I get confused from time to time! I work hard all day every day, I come home and continue to work. I clean, I cook, I Was, I iron and I provide! I actually love doing it! Or I used to!
Until now - when it is expected from me! just occasionally I want to come home from work and have a hot bubble bath with a nice glass of wine and some QUIET time!!
But thats not possible because of all the emotional housework that needs to be done too.
Emotional Housework is a favourite phrase of mine. When I say emotional house work, I mean the little chores that women seem to take on - whether it is just for us, or for husbands or children or whoever, we seem to self elect ourselves for the jobs! Whether it is remembering to buy a birthday card for someone, or call your mum becuse she seemed a bit low when you saw her last week, invite the friends over that you havent seen for a while, pay the gas bill and all those little things that just keep coming!!!
As I said I love doing it - all of it - but tonight - I am going on strike, time to soak up that bath and relaxation time.
Is it just me that feels this way???
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@kezabelle (2974)
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22 Mar 08
I like that phrase emotional housework, I do all of this only thing I do not do is buy my parnters mothers birthday card she is so fussy it is just easier to remind my partner to do it.
I enjoy doing all the housework even though it is expected of me, however my parnter does help out ie if I go out all day but he is home I will come home to a clean and tidy house, ok so I might have had to ask him to do it before I leave but im just greatful he remembers lol
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
I have the same sentiments as you... I will be on strike too! i will not fill the pitcher with water so my brothers can drink them all up and leave me empty bottles again, i will not wash their dishes.. i will not cook them breakfast... i will be on strike this weekend starting today (thursday until sunday) hehe fair enough?!
i will be on strike and will be on mylot the whole time... this is where my personal time goes.
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@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
The worst part is that we are never appreciated for what we do right? Cook, work, clean, grocery shop, help with kids' homework, you name it and all he does is come home from work all dragged out. I am dragged out too!!! You need ME time, we all need it and go on strike!! Do what YOU want or else its going to do no one good, as you heard the saying "when momma aint happy, nobody aint happy" and its true. Take a breather just for you.
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@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
hello lydia
for all the work you've mentioned, for the reason you are on strike now is also the reason why i admire and salute all women in the world.
it's totally understandable that you are tired and wanted to give time to yourself, so it's ok to be on strike, i think you are not alone.
God Bless
for all the work you've mentioned, for the reason you are on strike now is also the reason why i admire and salute all women in the world.
it's totally understandable that you are tired and wanted to give time to yourself, so it's ok to be on strike, i think you are not alone.
God Bless
@shymurl (2765)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I so agree with you. Its hard to keep doing it day after day after day. You need some time for you. Time to relax, step out of reality for a bit. I support you on your strike. Let someone else take on the challenge. Needless to say they may not do it as well as you, but it would be good to know someone else can help out.
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@sivazee (22)
• United States
19 Mar 08
lydia, I love that phrase you coined... "emotional housework"! I have 5 kids of my own and 2 stepkids (ages 16-27)and 4 young grandchildren. None of them live with us, so I'm not preparing meals, doing laundry and all those things for them but I am thinking of them daily and feeling their concerns. That alone adds a considerable amount of stress to my life. I am always thinking that I there is something more I should do for someone... if not the kids, then my partner or even a friend.
I think it is crucial to take time out for yourself but it's so much easier said then done.
I think your strike was well-deserved and I commend you for being a person who does so much for others.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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19 Mar 08
If you are working every day then household chores should become shared. My hubby works and I stay at home so therefore I do not mind doing all the chores, but he always still does his fair share when he has been at work all day as he appreciates that 4 kids are hard work too. I would also go on strike if I worked and then came home only to have to start all over again, you should get a bit of a break. I think as women we always take on everything, its just the way we are.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
I think we have all felt that way at least a few times.I know I used to feel that way too. So go on strike for one time get in that bubble bath and just relax you deserve it.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 08
No I think we all do and you do have to take care of you so you can keepon taking care of everyone else. so take some you time to get refreshed and renewed. your family will thank you for it as you will be refreshed and happy and loving again towards all your family so do it for yourself.
@choudhary03 (943)
• Hyderabad, India
19 Mar 08
Lydia carey i support you for the strike. you need to take some time out for your self. It should not always be you doing that household work, give a chance to some member of your family. bye the way i really liked thae way you framed the sentences i am with you.
Happy marriage life
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