will you keep your own cashbox after marriage

Hello sophialin, I am a husband, my wife was not working when we got married and she is still not practicing. I use to give her a part, aside from general expenditures, just for her to keep or spend on herself or whatever and however she pleases. I have never asked and would never ask what she does with that amount. I would like though that she spends it on herself. But, I know that she shares it with some other people too. I don't mind that, I rather like that about her. I trust her in her wisdom in spending or whatever she does, that's the reason I don't ask and would never ask her.

I thinkit is a goodidea to have, but how can you keep it a secret? Your husband might find out anyway! You could tell him that you are keeping it, maybe have a prenuptial contract that details everything you find necessary to preserve your independence!

Every woman should have some economic independence. Working outside the home or not she should have her own bank account. I don't know about a cash box, it could easily be stolen if your house is broken into. Also in a happy marriage there should be no secrets so the husband could know about the account. If the wife is at home looking after children some of the family income should be given to her for her exclusive use. She could also deposit little gifts of cash she might get from parents for special occasions. Believe me she would be a much happier person if she did not have to ask her husband for every penny she wants to spend.

I am married, and both mu husband and I each have our own seperate accounts that we can do whatever we want with. I have considerably more than my husband because I am a saver and he is a spender!

I've always been an independent person and I couldn't stand the idea of not having my own money. My long term BF knows that I always have my own account but I am happy to share if he needs some too! I don't think you should be secretive about your own money but just ensure that he knows it is for your use and not to be abused by him.

I am married and my husband gives me enough money for my expenditure and extra when required.He loves me and trust me very much.But still I keep my own cash box without his awareness.And when he is in need of money i provide him from that.

Cashbox? Brides get a cashbox? That's interesting. Here in the States brides don't get a cashbox. Some couples get money but not a csahbox.Anyway, I agree that a bride/wife should have their own money.

I have a separate account that is "my" money, but my husband knows about it. He doesn't know how much is in there, he doesn't know how much I spend or what I spend it on but only because he doesn't ask. I wouldn't hide it, no.

I quit my job when I decided to get married. My husband provides for all the expenditures. Every week, he gives me extra money and I can spend it anyway I want. He doesn't ask if I saved or spent it. What I usually do is to save a portion of it for future expenditures. I just want some emergency money available in case we will be needing some.

Now you gave me a very good insight. I wouldnt mind if my wife wants to keep some cash with her (no credit cards). She should use her economic independence in a right manner then she is free to do anything with that cash.

I think women in a relationship should ALWAYS have their own income or savings. It is true that in today's world, real independence does not come before economic dependence. I know too many women who have been left with nothing on the street, or stay in an unhappy relationship because financially they are forced to. Even if you are in the most stable relationship you should always have a cashbox or whatever - you just never know what might happen. Besides, it would make it easier buying birthday and Christmas presents for him! :)