Have you ever considered quitting mylot?

I'm really sorry to hear that. I've been a member of several social networking sites and I think this is the best by far. Everyone here is very supportive and friendly. You really ought to think about giving it a second chance.

nardeeisms please you should give us a chance there may be some who give you bad vibes but that is true of anywebsite you go to and there are a ton of really great people here who will make you welcome and share good and bad times with you and will send you good vibes so wait awhile and see if you do not change your mind please.

Nardeeisms, This is actually quite a nice place to be. There are many warm and caring people here who will be willing to share their thoughts and experiences with you. If you have a problem, you just raise it here and before you know it, many people will offer you their help and advice. Of course there are some unpleasant and taboo discussions, but usually these are in the minority. For me, I just steer clear of these and they don't even bother me. Give this place a chance, and you may get to like it over time. See, your notice to quit draws out responses from members who are concerned for you. That's the community we have here. Perhaps you should give yourself more time here and get to know this place better before you decide if you should stay or quit. I'm confident if you do, you will stay.

You have answered to almost every single one of my discussions and I really appreciate that. I think your words are always well thought out and very intelligent. I am surprised that your star rating is not higher.

To be honest, my friend, I have been saddened this past few days until only yesterday, I think. I keep posting in such a way that everyone who reads it will not feel they just wasted his/her time for my posting something rubbish but a few days ago, I noticed my star was lessened. I don't mind staying at 8-star for the next few weeks but what was done to me was really frustrating. I saw it was changed to seven but I did not start a discussion about it. It's not my tendency to cry over spilled milk. I believe the more you react negatively or at least you air your frustrations, the more it will be taken against you. That's human nature. I would only react or cry at the top of my lungs if I know it will be addressed but I feel otherwise. As beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, we have a panel of judges to whatever we post. They can delete anything they feel not meeting some mylot guidelines and I guarantee, I never violated any of those to be treated this way. I would understand if they play Russian roulette as to whether they will increase my star or not, or decrease it like what they did. What is painful to imagine is they are subjectively grading our participation here. It's like, what kind of judgment do they have? Do they really judge right? Awake? With Basis?Do they consider something good as bad or vice versa? I can see lots of posts here that are ridiculous but they get more rating. I'm only 8 and in the hope for getting a nine one of these days, that's why I keep participating actively and optimistic about it, I got a 7. I am not surprised if I will get a 6 or this post will be deleted. They can do anything.

My intention is never to upset people. But it is not my intention either to encourage people making more mistakes than they already made by telling them they are right... when they are obviously wrong. Two wrongs has never made one right.

Your living situation seems interesting. Lonely, but interesting. Well, I'll give you this, you are very straight forward and don't hesitate to speak your mind. I respect that. However, I can see where you might upset someone's cup of tea from time to time. LOL.

You have a point there you can talk about anything and the kangaroos will not give you a bad time or minus your discussion and take away a star. right on

I hope that you have been able to find discussions in which you feel comfortable participating. With the number of members on here and the diversity of subjects, surely there must be something that catches your eye. Good luck. I hope you stay.

First of all, congratulations on reaching 400, 500 will sneak up on you before you know it. I think if you get even one response to your discussions its worth it most of the time, because you probably either had your opinion validated or it gave you a new perspective. I have learned so much in my few months on this site. The number one thing being my opinion is not the only one.

I think I've learned not to take myself so seriously. I've learned to take what I can use and leave the rest.

Thank you for the compliments. I'm glad I decided to give it a second chance too and now I can't honestly consider not being here. LOL. Besides, I've been promising my son an IPOD with the money I earn.

No I will not be leaving I have been here a long time and I have many great Friends here

I'm sorry you've had a difficult time and that it has deterred you from being here. I hope you don't leave.

Thank you...

I guess I would be tired easily of the site too if someone was constantly spamming me, but I'm glad you have stayed.

Did you actually delete your account and start over or did you just let it go by the wayside for awhile?

Thank you sweety I try to be supportive and I try to to understand where people are coming from and not be judgemental! I am still here and that other member stuck around for a little while and then left - he was only ever here for the money! xxxx

I can't honestly believe someone called you those names. In my opinion, neither are applicable. You have been one of the most supportive members on this site, in at least, as far as I am concerned. Thank you for that.

Hi Nova, nice to hear from you. I don't get hurt as much as I did at first. In the beginning I felt a need to be validated, but I learned that not everything I think deserves validation. There are other people who can offer me a different perspective and a great education if I open myself up to it.

Well as you know I deleted my account on one site, but the other is still open. I haven't checked it in so long I probably have well over 400 messages and comments to reply to. I just don't have the interest for that site that I have for this one. I'm just as glad that you are here as you are to me for asking you.

I think you do have a few comments lol,I left. Well as I said I am still at the Y mostly because I have personal friends there as well as many other folks I have met thru there. But I have to say I spend most my time and efforts here. Much more enjoyable and interesting.

Hatley, I know that you have been brooding over this situation for awhile and I completely understand how things could have been misconstrued and gotten out of hand. That would have made me feel bad too. I hope though that you continue to be as friendly as you have always been and that you will be able to put it in the past.

before I was making a lot more money with my writing than I am doing now, so I came back,

What do you think it is that makes you like it more now than you did before? Just curious.

Yes I really enjoy it here. The people are more friendly for the most part and definitely generate a lot more intelligent discussions than you would see on most other forums IMO

I think the quality of people here is better too, for the simple reason, that they aren't satisfied with just posting graphic comments. They would rather get to know you by actually talking about your values, beliefs and opinions. Its so much more up close and personal.

That is very true.

I have only posted one discussion, which I thought was of a very personal nature. I too, didn't like some of the responses I received, but I had to remember that I asked the question, all people could do is reply to the information they had to work with. Unfortunately, we aren't able to write the novel that led up to the situation that we are asking about and without it people can't always give a complete or informed answer.

No, I won't run away from the people here either. There are a few I'd like to "control, alt, delete", but since I don't have that to my advantage I just move along.

I'm really glad it worked out for you and that this site finally met your expectations.

Thats very true. Its always nice to earn money at something you are having fun doing.