When do you decide its over?

u just know wen its time to leave

For me I guess it would be at the point where it seemed like it became a routine. Or if she became physical with her arguments which has happened. A little argument is healthy but too much just makes the relationship bitter.

Are you living with one another? If not, then you may want to break away from one another for some time. Not break up but to take a break. I have done that in the past and it has helped but we ended up breaking it off for other reasons in the end anyway. Even if you are living with one another, its not always a bad thing to go separate ways until you have cooled off to discuss things rationally and find out why the arguments have been intense. I am not sure what other thing to suggest but best of luck to you, stressful situation.

look there must be some tiff offs in any relationship but best way to sort out all these misunderstanding is to talk clearly. sit down and see if really the matters can be sorted out or not. if you think in that case also you fell out, its better to quit.

If the SH**ts hits the fan already.. I if can no longer forgive.. I always tell myself to have a break and think of something else rather than keeping myself in the darkness and live with it for the rest of my life.

A member of my family has been bashed emotionally for most of her married life - it is awful to watch . Going seperate ways just hasn't worked because he is still emotionally bashing her through her kids.

I guess for me, if I think that I have been unhappy for a long time with the same person, I would decide it's over. If I see him and all I see are problems and we always fight around those problems, then, I could tell that I am running out of love for this person and I should end it or at least take a break to refresh myself. It's never easy to end a relationship, but I guess if I am unhappy, then I have to end it instead of going through emotional roller coaster every day.

Hello there, I suppose you are talking about the kind of relationship that is just waiting for the mayhem or THE DAY that it is finally going kaput. Well, this is based from my experience. I loved this particular girl so much before in my life and everywhere I would be, she would be as well and we were like lovebirds. Suddenly, after going into the 6th month mark into our relationship, she started to become hot-tempered and would always find fault in everything that I did like no time for her, and when I wanted to meet her, she would not find time for me especially when she's tired or moody, and easy to say, everything is on her own time and schedule. I have no say in the relationship and if I did, she would get very vocal and angry and we would keep on fighting and etc. Entering the 8th month mark, I was really already so much in love, but at the same time disgusted. I didn't know where that disgusted feeling arose, but it did, and I summoned up the courage to tell her that enough is enough and I've had enough of her nonsense/bad-tempered and gung-ho attitude. Come to think of it now, I couldn't imagine why I fall in love with her. So to answer your questions honestly, I think the main focal point to decide that things are over would be to push away all the memories and feelings of love and be honest to yourself whether you like being treated in a certain way or love to quarrel all the time etc. If you answer no mostly, then it is time to get that extra spirit to separate. It might be the best decision in your life, trust me..

I would like you both to sit and have a talk which is open and forthright Vhayste. We can have a heart to heart talk like thing. You should not touch any thing which might hurt eachother, no screaming, no harsh words to be used. Only discuss the matters with a open heart. You should not hurt the other person whoever it is, just say what is in your mind and also listen to what is there in the other persons mind. Try that out, even then if you want to leave you can leave. If you can accept your mistakes and adjust you can go ahead. But you have to forget the past and never bring that up again. All the best

It's over if all the efforts on both sides are exhaust and there's no improvement on the relationship. So to speak, if the relationship is becoming unhealthy for both parties then I think that's the best time to call it quits. Why would you engage yourself in a relationship when you know in the end that it's not going anywhere.