Paying for the meal at a restaurant

I have no problem paying for meals. If I have the money then why should I not pay? Sometimes I will pay for everything, sometimes he will pay for everything, sometimes we go halves. Honestly, it's never even crossed my mind to let him pay just because he's male and I'm female. If I have the money I will treat my friends too, male or female, and they do the same for me when they are flush.

I think it depends on the situation!If the guy asked the female out he should pay for it! but, say you are just having lunch with a coworker maybe it is ok to go dutch.

i actually do not feel bad in paying the bills. i have paid many times when i was out for dinner with my frie d or family. i think its just ok if the woman pays the bill. there is no harm in it.

I'm comfortable paying the bill with my husband and I. We always share all of our money. I usually hand him the money though and let him pay the waitress. I do it out of love and respect because he is the man and the soul provider for our family even if it is "my" money.

If I have the money I don't have a problem. I might have more of a problem if we were going someplace really fancy and we were obviously there on a date, but otherwise....

I used to get fed up paying all the time, but I did allow it to look like he was when I had a partner, eventually I used to take myself off for a meal on my own and I found this more acceptable. I don't mind paying half which I would give later but to always have to pay got a bit annoying. I also don't like going up to a bar to get a drink either, bit old fashioned in my ways I suppose as I know women do these days, but when I was young women weren't even allowed to the bar. Ellie :D

I don't mind the Problem I have is that my Boyfriend will not have any of it me paying He wants me to keep the bit of Money that I have his attitude is he is taking me out and so he will pay I have had a dispute with him over it but no use lol But no I would not mind paying the Bill in Person

First of all, mine and hubby's money are but one since about 4 months after we first met. We were planning on moving in together, so we put our money together in a joint account. And when we go out to the restaurant, whoever has cash on them, or the debit card, or credit card, is the one that will pay. It's our business only, and if other folks think bad about it, well, just don't look!

That is funny. I have no problem paying the bill at a restaurant. My sig other usually pays for it—but it doesn’t matter to me if I end up paying. We live together and own our house together--- really whoever pays is just the person who has the extra money on them at that time. I think it’s cute that you don’t like to be seen paying. I don’t think the waitresses think anything of it- as to who pays the bill…

if I asked the guy to dinner then i would want to pay. but as for being the one to handle the actual paying, it depends on the guy i am with. if he seems like a modern guy and i dont think he would feel any blow to his ego, then i go ahead and hand the money to the waitstaff myself. if i am with a guy who is more old-fashioned, or might likely taken the whole idea of the woman paying as embarassing then i just look at the total and hand the bill and the money to him, so he can deal with it. prime example..last boyfriend turned out to be a mooch, so he never had a problem with me handing the money to the waitstaff, in fact he would just smile at me. now when i take my father out to birthday lunch, i put the money in the little bill wallet thingy they place on the table and slide it closer to him, saying Happy Birthday dad. to which he usually grins, winks and says Thanks baby.

I feel more uncomfortable NOT paying the bill, or at least my share of it. I like to think I'm more modern minded, but it's more like I'm more stubborn and so used to taking care of myself. I have a hard time accepting being taken out and having things paid for by a man. It feels like an insult to me. As though the message is, "Let me pay for this for you, you don't have enough money to do it yourself". When in fact, I should be more willing to accept the gift, and should get the message of, "You deserve this treat, and I feel great giving this to you". Why should I deny someone else the pleasure of giving? Goodness knows I feel hurt if someone turns down my offers of gifting. As far as who is seen paying the bill... that doesn't matter to me at all. All that matters to me is that it gets paid. lol.

Right,I always payed the bills too.I will very don't comfortable if I let her pay it.And also I think I should pay it so after sometimes she will wait me to pay for it.But if I have no money I will tell her and she will give me.

I'm lucky cos my boy friend'll never let me to pay the bill, I honestly don't mind if I have to. Sometimes I would pay the bill without him knowing, he usually keeps moaning afterwards. I just wanna be fair...

I don't have a problem paying at all. I'm married and my husband and I have a joint account. We use our debit card for just about everything, it all comes out of the same account, but I have no problem being seen paying the bill.

This is a critical Question which depends , on the thinkin of the couple in the relationship. If its ok with them and not embaressing then its ok i suppose for me its not an issue

I do not like being seen paying the bills. I would rather the men pay it. I never had enough money to pay for restaurant meals and when I did go out with someone or if there was a man in the group they were expected to treat us. The only time I paid was if I was treating my friends or if we were all going Dutch or I was the one who put the money under the flower vase to tip the waitress. Now I have not treated my friends yet, because I have not that much money yet, but I did promise one of my best friends that I would take her out some time.

I never think about that at all. But I think that men here stopped acting like gentlemen when it comes to things like that a long time ago. So here it is not the norm anymore. Men does not open doors, pull chairs out, and do not pay. Only time I experienced something like that was as an exchangestudent in the US in the 80s and as AuPair in geneva in the 90s. I think I would maybe think more about it if we were to visit other countries. i like to act aproperately, acording to local norms

So if you had gone out for a meal say for his birthday and you were paying would you still give him the money so it looked like he was paying even though it was a treat?? I dont see nothing wrong with, my and my boyfriend i earn more than him so i pay more bills than him. Theres nothing wrong with being seen paying - or treating your boyfriend! How does he feel about having to go and pay even though you gave him the money? Does it bother him as much as it bothers you or does he not mind?

When me and my partner can actually get a babysitter and go for a meal I dont have any problems paying infront of other people. As we have a joint account it makes no difference who pays money wise I tend to pay though when I can pay at the table and just hand them a card, if I have to walk across half a restuarant to pay I tend to get my partner to do it

The other people that are with me when I go out to eat don't mind paying. We sort of establish a -it's your turn to pay- type thing, but that's just me....