Is being possessive of husband good or bad?

There is a very fine line of difference between possesiveness and over-possesiveness. And its eually differnt to distinguish in which state you are. Being possesive for a person you love is good but at the same time be sure that you are not bounding him/her. As a guy i must say that i would feel good if my gf/wife feels possesive for me but at the same time i will feel bounded if she starts putting restrictions over me due to her possesiveness. It all lies on how much you trust your partner.don't give him/her any chance to betray you but give him/her enough freedom to follow his/her heart. Its all upto you what limitations you set to decide the line between the two.

i agree, i saw some girls being over-possessive and my friend is already facing some problems because of his over-possessive girl friend .... even if we are in a party he has to talk when he gets a call ... that's too much naa?

i never want to have an over-possessive husband... i think that being possessive a bit is alright in a relationship as long as you don't cross the line...

No possesivenes,No excitement of a relationship. But if with too much possesiveness is NO good at all.

I think it is fine up to a paricular limit. If you cross the limit your husband may get irritated. You can see signs that you are being over possesive and you should try to notice them. Even though it may be unintentional overpossessiveness may make life hell for your husband. But some amount of possesiveness is also necessary as your husband must feel that he is loved by you. Have a nice day.

when you realize that your whole word is revolving around your special someone, i guess you can consider that as being possessive. over possessive(if there is such a word) on the other hand simply means that your life is your partner. or to put it in a better word, it's like that person becomes the "air" that you breathe every single moment of your life and you're forgetting who YOU really are..

Possessiveness is good in a relationship...its aslo a sign of caring n loving dat person...even our parnter loves the feeling of possessivenss as it shows how much you love dat person...But again Over-Possessivenss is very bad as it breaks a relationship n ever front person gets irritated....

it is very natural of being possessive in relationship. but doing anything beyond limit can only harm. i have seen this in many cases where lots of possessiveness gives rise to suspicion even without reason. this can harm relationship.

I think being possessive is one word for selfishness. A husband with that trait just wanted all the attention and all the love accorded him. Somewhat selfish. Love should be given freely and should not be possessed. With regards to over possessiveness, I don't think that would be something healthy in a relationship as well. Every human being has the right to decide how much love and care given to somebody else, if someone urges more for it that a person cannot give, it will just be asking the person to love in the prison cells of selfish desires and will.

Sometimes its good because you are just trying to protect your partner but bad in times when you really push to the limits with disrepect with your partner. Not to much I should say

Initially when I read the topic I thought, of course possessiveness is bad but the body of your post made me stop and think. I do agree with you that possessiveness is good and that there is that thin line which should not be crossed. Afterall if what most of us display is not possessiveness then what is it?

I think there is a difference between possesiveness and over possessiveness... V r possessive bcoz we have a true love for our partner... Saying that we are over possessive means we donot have trust on our partner, and want to know each and every detail of what he does and thinks!!! So being possessive is good and beleive me our partner too likes of v being possessive towards him/her!!!

I think most of the people are possessive to their loveones because they are afraid of losing them. Some also have become possessive because they have cheated once, and he/she doesnt trust him/her anymore, so he/she would keep an eye on everything that he/she does. But you have to set the limit of being possessive. Dont cross the line of being over possessive where you tried reading his personal mails or the sms on her phone, deciding on what he would wear according to what you think not too "sexy"for him, not allowing him to go out/party without you, and being jealous just seeing him talking to another woman. That would make you lose him, for sure!!!

As you say a ery fine line between being possesive and obssesive...each of us need space to breathe..i know if i dont have my own time i feel swamped. In being possessive it can actually be smothering...depriving the person of their individuality. A friend of mine was terribly possessive...she wanted hubby with her in everything...but then he was poorly....he started having panic attacks...these stemmed from her behaviour. now thats quite sad

It is okay to be possesive at a certain point that it is still healthy for the realationship, and for the two people... Sometimes when a person is possesive that only means he/she is afraid to lose that one person - but when you hold too tightly a person just might want to break free... It is only but the two persons involved who can say when it is enough. Of course i still believe that even if you are attached, you must still have your freedom (at least some of it). hehe :)

i agree with you that there is border line of the two. To me (I'm a guy), being possesive basically means my girl does not trust me and I am not doing anything to lose that trust to her. So it is bad to me. I believe in freedom (not too much, of course) and having said that, communication is important so that my partner would know what I am doing at all times and understand instead of being jeolous all the time.

possesiveness is not good ppl have to be allowed to breathe and be themselves being possesive or in a possesive relationship is stifling,and will eventually cause the break up of the relationship..But that's just my opinion.

I also read that being jealous can be good as long as you are doing it the correct way! yes, apparently there is a correct way... If for example, your spouse has an attractive male/or female friend that flirts etc. You can be jealous in a negative or positive way. Saying to your partner "I really hate the way you to flirt together, it gets me soo angry..." is BAD... "I hate the way SHE flirts with you.." is better. You are showing that you are angry, not with your partner, but with his or her co-worker/friend.

yes I do agree with you..There is thin line between possesiveness and over pessessiveness. Its hard to judge. But its always better to be normal than showing over possessiveness which always pays off...

I think it depends on the characteristic of your housband. If he likes some degree of control, and likes the feelings of being cared, then this is fine. However, if he is a man of male chauvinist, and hates tight control, then it might be better to give him more freedom. Also, the degree of possessiveness should be proper, this might be your job to observe it.