Who cooks in your family?
By Crystalxdr
@Crystalxdr (443)
China
March 27, 2008 3:25am CST
We say housewife frequently instead of househusband.That is true,women or we call mothers play a major part in doing daily chore in a family.Cooking almost becomes their another job in their lives.
In this new era,women go out to earn money and become independent economically,but why should cooking still be their jobs in family?
And who cooks in you family at present? Especially those married girls,could you please tell me in what percentage does cooking occupy your daily life?
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42 responses
@catmint (628)
• Singapore
30 Mar 08
Mom does the cooking in the family. I used to cook but then I got busy with work and age. Now I do the baking in the family.
I believe I would feel uncomfortable like the men of my family does the cooking. Although I very much like them to do all the cleaning for us cooking :D
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@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
15 Apr 08
Oh,dear,why you feel uncomfortable if men in your family do cooking? Instinctively,we have the same feeling about that ,right? We are no longer housewife only but career women,in fact,men should be asked to share our house work equally.
I am training my boyfriend to be house husband from now on.I always highly speak of his cookings, although the tastes are terrible indeed.Haha,like ridiculous!
@catmint (628)
• Singapore
15 Apr 08
Oh no, don't get me wrong, I like my man to cook. But the image I want him to portray when he is cooking is romance, candlelights, us enjoying the food. Everyday cooking for survival images would gel better with ladies, after ladies holds the nurturing roles in the house.
I rather have the men of the house do heavyduty housework like cleaning :p
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
29 Mar 08
i do cook as i like to experiment with different dishes,but mostly its the lady of the house .the issue of cooking used to e a ladies thing but not any longer we need to assist each othert,my mother actually brought every of her children up to be good cooks so cooking is never a big deal for any of us both male and female
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
15 Apr 08
its good that you had to move away from home for studies at least you have learnt to be dependent on yourself for all these chores
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
15 Apr 08
Sounds great!Every one in your family is good cook.But that isn't the case in my house,my mother have taken on all houseworks including cooking,making beds,washing clothes of whole family,etc.This situation was lasting until I studied outside.At the beginning of my dormitory life,I was disable of washings.I was laughed at by my dormmates.
But now,I am total independent in taking care of myself well.I am living in a city far more away from my born place,that means,it is impossible to rely on my mother any longer.Naturally,I eventually will live in my own and become stronger than before.
@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I do all the cooking in my house every blue moon Larry will cook something but that may be 3 times a year
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@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
31 Mar 08
My husband cooks. He enjoys cooking and teaching our daughter how to cook. Trying new things and some of the stuff he will just taste come home and try it and it will be really good. Thats skill. I could never cook like that. I'm glad I get to try all the new stuff he makes. I'm a very lucky girl.
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@buwald (271)
• Netherlands
27 Mar 08
Its just me and my mother at my house, but when my mothers friend is there, he always cooks, as he does whenever he is somewhere, so he could be called a househusband, although i think its more of a hobby for him, but he does cook a lot, usually good, so i dont really mind ;)
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
28 Mar 08
For my understanding, the househusband is planning to pursue your mother.Haha,
So you are a luck guy,whom there is always someone cook for.
@SusanShayAvon (1003)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I do the cooking all the time. The percentage it takes out of my daily life would depend on what I am cooking. Always at least 40% of my daily life. Now at Christmas and Thanksgiving I would say 90% of 2 days. I do not cook for everyone in my extended family but I always cook a big me for everyone at my house. I love to have agood excuse to cook a massively huge meal that will be enjoyed by all.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
15 Apr 08
My husband does the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate to cook. He makes all kinds of wonderful food. including many wonderful dishes from around the world. Mom and I bought him Russian and Turkish cookbooks for his birthday, and he loves them.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
15 Apr 08
How amazing!your husband received his birthday present as cook books,haha,interesting! Now,I do believe cooking has been an interest of your husband.Ok,great,let him to keep the interest going on!
Have a nice day.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
I do the cooking and I cannot give you an actual percentage, but I do know that it takes me five to ten minutes to make sandwiches or hot dogs for lunch, and I start cooking at four thirty to have supper at five if it is spaghetti or pork chops. If I am making a cake or squares it would take about half an hour preparation plus the cooking time. As for breakfast, unless it is pancakes, bacon and eggs, etc. my husband gets a bowl of cereal and so do I, unless I make oatmeal or make eggs, ham, and tortillas for myself.
I love to cook and I love being a housewife and I work here at home. I am a writer and if I went out to work, I may be doing office work, but I certainly could not work on my novel without the boss being angry. Housewives are being made to feel they are lazy and non-contibuters to society, and I want to say I resent that implication.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
3 Apr 08
pancakes,bacon and eggs,oatmeal,ham,tortillas and spaghetti,all,my god, I am mouthwatering now.
What a great variety you cook for your husband! Not only delicious but also nutrient certainly.
I feel a little hungry because I just had a bowl of porriage as my breakfast.Needless to say I have to wait for my lunch after 3 hours work.
Starved!
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
27 Mar 08
my husband does a great deal of hard work at his place of employment - he comes home so worn out and sore... it has aged him terribly.
I do the cooking, it is more natural for me to do it - plus he deserves a good home cooked meal after all he does to pay for the food and other necessities in our life.
@luv2cook4u (398)
• United States
27 Mar 08
That is exactly my thought when it comes to me "having to do the majority of the cooking. I love preparing a good meal for him to enjoy after working all those hours. If it was not for his hard work, I would not be able to stay home and care for our children and that, for me anyway, is the ultimate job.
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
28 Mar 08
In my household the men are the cooks in the house. I taught both my husband and my 14 year old how to cook, and they have perfected it! They are now the main chefs in the house, I cook the more complicated things for holidays and special occassions, but they do the majority of the day to day cooking.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
3 Apr 08
How interesting!
That is really a good idea that you cultivate other families to master cooking.No matter how they do,I believe it has greatly reduced your workload.
Go ahead!It is necessary for us to make a allocation for daily chores or hourseworks.
Have a nice day.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
15 Jun 08
I do the majority of the cooking in my family. I live with my 25 year old daughter now and she is not a very good cook, or I should say she is a little lazy and why cook if mom does it. She cooks sometimes, but her idea of cooking is to put something that is frozen, into the microwave and heat it. My idea of cooking is to start from scratch and make it myself.
When I was with my husband he did a lot of the cooking as he loved it, even more than me. He especially did all of the cooking on the weekends and I didn't have to do anything then. He would kick me out of the kitchen while he was cooking. I loved it.
Tonight I am making a barbeque and we are having T-bone steak and potatoe salad, which I have made last night already since I like it to sit overnight and let the flavours soak together.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
17 Jun 08
Oh,I am as old as your daughter.
When I was staying at home,I never help my mom do cook too.As to my mom,she thinks cook is none of my business and my cooking technique was not able to satisfy the whole family's taste.Ok,I took the chance do my own things--like reading,or sometimes stand beside her talking something I come across.My mom loves this kind of feeling very much.Having a daughter talk with her when cooking makes her work interesting.
The situation didn's last too long and end after I work outside--a distant city from her.She always asked me to come back in phone.I feel for her really,but I have no idea to find a solution .
I am sure that must be the happiest time you live with your husband because you are so loved like a princess.
Give my best regards to your daughter and your husband.
@emmyemoney (251)
• Nigeria
28 Mar 08
My wife do the cooking, but i do assist if need be. My wife just came back with my from holidays and they are tied i have to enter the kitchen and prepare food for the house.
So it must not be Her all the time. If she can not enter the kitchen to cook i will do that for Her
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
3 Apr 08
You are a role model of thoughtful and considerate husband in life.No doubt you have a proper cooperation in dealing with those boring things.
That's wonderful.Unlike amorism,marriage should be taken great care of.Treating each other with respect is the key to a long and satisfactory relationship between husband and wife.
My best wishes to you.
@cinderella2007 (2662)
•
27 Mar 08
I dont cook alot, my boyfriend does most of the cooking. I will help him out if he needs it, but i tend to set the table. I am trying to get into the cooking part of the meals but since i mainly finish work at 8pm, i dont get home till bout 8.45pm so by then i just want to relax.
I think if i was to be a housemother, I probably would cook more.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
31 Mar 08
So you are more luckiy than me. I do most of the cooking,while my boyfriend always come back from work at around 8 o'clock.Because his office is rather far from our living place,but mine is very near which takes me about 10 minutes from work to home.Naturally cooking is my business now.
Haha,anyhow,my boyfriend considers all my do as precious presents in his life.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I cook and am the mom by the way, 99% of the time. In the Summer my husband will grill maybe once a week or once every two weeks, but even then I have to make the side dishes. My husband does have a couple of recipes of things he likes to make, and occasionally gets in the mood to make those, but that happens maybe once every couple of months. Cooking probably takes around an hour a day, most days.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
15 Apr 08
What about your cooking skill?Does your husband like your cooking most of the time?
Are you willing to spend your time on cooking?
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Well since I'm retired AND my husband is a terrible cook, I do a good 85% of the cooking in the house...My husband will take over if I'm ill mind you but his skills are somewhat limited LOL and of course my daughter also likes to make dinner on occasion or my son will make breakfasts for everyone on occasion...other than that though, I'm the house chef...
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
28 Mar 08
It sounds you a happy mother with a loved husband and two considerate children.
Enjoy yourself every day.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
28 Mar 08
The same to you.Ha,
Men seems not act as they promised before marriage.
@shymurl (2765)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I don't work anymore so naturally I do most of the cooking. My husband knows how to cook and does every now and then. Even when I did work I still did most of the cooking. I would have to say its more of an instinct for a woman to cook for their family. My job was always secondary to me, making sure my family was well taken care of came first.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
28 Mar 08
Oh,you are really a conscientious mother in your family.Tradition tell us women born for child-birth and houseworks as their second job in whole life.
Unfortunately, I am a girl and will be mother and wife of a man,that means I will start a miserable life then.Ha.
@Swaana (1205)
• India
27 Mar 08
Cooking is an integral part of my daily chores. Yes of course woman are independent economically, but still when it comes to caring and loving, woman are more emotional than men. And when you love someone, your fist concern is their health and so cooking takes the first place. Cooking occupies almost 65% in daily life.
Cooking doesnot mean keeping it on the stove top and getting it down. It involves, planning what to cook, what all to buy to cook that particular thing, preparing to cook and then comes the real cooking.
@Crystalxdr (443)
• China
28 Mar 08
I take your point. Cooking is quite an uneasy job for women.It deserves our times and energy. What to eat,which vegetables contains sufficient vitamn our body needs indeed,where we can buy dishes at cheap prices,etc,all those things should be take into consideration as a housewife.
But that is not the end.feedbacks from your family members become so important to you that your efforts may not be understanded at all.You will receive criticisms from your picky sons and daughters.
So please prepare to sacrifice yourself to be a housewife.
