Passing our fears to our children

Unfortunately I think the damage has been done. I am emetophobic (phobic of puke) and rarely they do it (and when they do hubby comes to the rescue thank goodness so they have never seen me scream or anything but I am outta there if it happens.. which again was rare) but I think my daughter has picked things up. Last week a kid in her class got sick and she was afraid to tell me and when she did, she was nervous about it. I admit I asked her a million questions like "WERE YOU ANYWHERE NEAR THIS KID" and she firmly shook her head no. Fortunately she was okay and it may have not been an illness but... I was shaken up and she obviously was too. And since I still suffer from this, I have no idea how anyone can possibly be cured from this kind of phobia, and I just hope in her case its very mild!

I use my kids to aid in my fears hehehe....my big fear is spiders but instead of my kids having the same fear they help me they kill spiders since im afraid to get anywhere near them. My boys are so cute they take care of there mommy and they are only 7 and 8 years old.

I have 3 daughters and I have an awful fear of snakes. I have 2 daughters that I may have passed that fear onto but the 3rd daughter has no issues with them infact she tells me the whole they won't hurt you mom their as afraid of you as you are of them. So I couldn't tell you what makes a certain child develope our fears. My fear of the dentist hasn't rubbed off on my daughters yet they all know my fear. I guess we just hope we understand their fears that they develope that we don't have and hope that they can over come fears we may had a part in developing.

I, unfortunately, don't have any children but I know my mother passed on her 'worry' about horses. My grandfather had a stud farm and all his children were taught to be careful of them. They were all taught to ride when they were young and so didn't have a fear of them but to ensure that they understood that stud horses were more temperamental he taught them to treat the studs with even more respect. I was brought up in London a long, long way away from farms and horses but nevertheless she told me never to approach from the rear and treat them with respect. Unfortunately for me that came out as fear, I am now afraid of horses. I have tried to get over it by riding with really docile critters but the fear is still there and boy can they read it on you! Funnily enough my mother is allergic to bees but didn't want me to become frightened of them so she didn't say anything! I'm not scared of them but certainly try and give them a wide berth (especially after one of them stung me under my eye - it took about a week to go down and that was not great for a teenager who wanted to go dating!) Seeing my friends with their children and how they react to their fears, I think they just try to be calm so that the children don't pick up your vibes. But kids are incredibly intelligent, they KNOW when you're trying to kid them. I'd like to see what other parents out there do.....:)

for your own peace of mind, bee stings.. and ive been stung many many many times, over 20 at once when i was stupid enough to plant my butt on a nest of yellow jackets who took offense and attacked without mercy.. they dont hurt agonizingly. they hurt,dont get me wrong.. that swarm had me owwing for some weeks afterwards, but that was my own klutz fault. it feels like a shot from the doc. not many are very aggressive at all, and if left be.. theyll leave you be as well. my own fears ive tried very hard to NOT pass down to my children, even to the point of forcing myself to face them so theyd be at ease themselves. example.. im horribly terrified of heights, my kid wanted lights on the house over the holidays, soo i forced myself to get up on that ladder and put them up just for her. while my insides were shaking enough to knock me off the ladder all on their own LOL i swallowed it so she wouldnt be affected by it. try babystepping yourself, and your child through this fear of bees. my littleone was scaredof them same as you out of fear itd hurt sooo badly, so i introduced her to some little honey bees, who btw are generally very friendly and non aggressive, by holding her close and inching our way to the flowers till she was near enough to see them well.. and watch their activity, even getting her to reach out and pet one gently with her finger. when it didnt hurt her in anyway.. her fear lessoned. over time she no longer flips out over hearing a buzzing sound in the yard, and instead.. goes to investigate, and say hello =o)

Well, as you know, my son was very afraid of bugs! Well, I didn't notice why until I saw myself freaking out about seeing a roach and so did he. So eventually, I decided, if I grew up a little, so would he! I told him that bugs were just as scared of us as we are of them and eventually, he started asking me, "mommy, do you want me to put this bug outside of the house?" Mission accomplished.

I never really had any fears that I passed on to my daughters. And I never had an issue with bees, wasps, etc. til last year. I work for the forestry service and we were clearing some branches we had cut down, I stepped into a ground wasp nest, didn't know they existed until I moved to the Northeast and stepped on one! I was stung well over 100 times, I lost count trying to see how many stings I had. And I will be the first to say, it did hurt, with that many stings, I drove my self from the job site to home, and my arms have never ached like that before. I was aching for several days, but only missed one day of work.......I was told to take the next day off! lol Now, I'm just a bit more careful where I step, although, that really doesn't make any sense since you can't see them, the hole into their nest is tiny and in the ground.

Everyone has some sort of fear,but I try and not show fear of something in front of my kids,because I don't wanna pass my fears on to the,I am horrifird of needles and when my oldest goes with me to the doctor and I put brave face for her,because I know if she sees me freakin out she will too.That has worked wonders for me.Because my daughter has little fear of what I fear so it it helps her I'm all for it.

Oh yes, I made my oldest daughter afraid of spiders. What happened was that I went into her room one day when she was about two. She was in bed in her cot and had just woken up. When I got to her I noticed a HUGE spider (body alone was a good inch across) at the top of the cot and I FREAKED. I grabbed her out of the cot and put her on the floor then grabbed a shoe to splat the spider... I think I startled her so badly and she could sense my horror so much that from that day onward she was scared of spiders... until I reacted that way she was probably sitting there watching the spider with fascination.

i am with the previous post needles i never liked them but didnt fear them until i joined the military where a corpsman collapsed my vein trying to take a vial of blood but fear is a learned behavior so if u show no fear only displeasing actions will become feared