husband or best friend or both

He's my bestfriend too. I also think that this is the way it should be. I can tell him anything that in my mind. He understands me more than anyone else does. He even knows me more than my own brothers and sisters do. He respects me as I am and I can never find a friend who treats me more important than he does.

I am not married but I am engaged. I consider my fiance my best friend. Yes we are lovers as well. I don't see why he wouldn't be my best friend. I know pretty much everything about him as well me for him. I can't say that I know everything about him as day to day people change and you will never fully know a person. I don't understand how people would say that your lover is not your best friend. You spend alot of time with them don't you. You share things, talk, experience alot of things together. Exactly what a best friend would do right?

He is my husband and my best friend. He is always there when I am feeling down.

My husband is my best friend all the time. We have the same hobbies, trust each other, count on each other. He has been accompanying me all the time.

I think it should be both. To begin with, what's a best friend? You choose to marry that man because of his qualities that you were looking for and you have a nice feeling when he's there with you. We do the same thing with friends...except that our feeling for our lover is different. That's how I see things. I have a girlbest friend and my bf is also my bf. that's how I see it :)

After God, my husband is my everything. He is my bestest of bestest friend, my lover, my partner, my sparing partner in eating, my tag team partner in driving (cos we have days where we go do errands together), my personal clown (he is very funny with all his crazy silly antics),my lover, my financial advisor, my advisor in tupperware business,my confidante.

Well I am Divorced after a bad Marriage but I have a wonderful Man in my Life now and yes he is also my best Friend We where Friends for 3 years before we got together and he is still my best Friend now It is possible to be best Friends with your loved one as that makes the Relationship even more special

I would hope that your spuse is also your best friend. To me it would be strange to live with someone that I did not consider my best friend as well as my lover. I do not think I could do that.

I consider my husband my best friend..He is the one that I can confide in no matter what and he won't tell anyone...I would think you would become best friends before becoming lovers...(by you, I don't mean you Hatley)...It would have seemed odd to me if I would have heard that..

If I was married, I'd want my husband to be my best friend also. I believe that is the greatest kind of love.

My husband and I were best friends as teenagers, and we've been married for over 6 years, now. I'm definitely the most comfortable around my husband and I do and say things with him that I wouldn't say with my other friends, so yes - I'd hafta say he's still my best friend. I just never really call him that. Now, when I'm angry with him, I don't get mad at him as a friend. So, it's hard sometimes to argue with him. But, he's my husband first and foremost, so if he doesn't get the same 'free pass' that my girlfriends do! Poor fella.

My husband is my high school classmate . And we love each other very much ,but we are good friend ,too .I like this . When I meet some difficulty I can talk to my husband and he can help me many time . I really like it.

Hi Hatley! Im not married but I have a boyfriend. And yes, I considered him as my very bestfriend. He knows everything about me - my positives and negatives - and he accepted everything about me. I would run to him everytime I have a problem and he knew almost about my life. Why I considered him as my bestfriend aside being my boyfriend? Its because I dont need to be someone else when I am with him, I can just be me.

I have been married for almost 5 yrs. and no I don't consider my husband my best-friend, he is my only friend but we have nothing in common and cannot even have a discussion for more than a min. without fighting about why each other are wrong. I think if he treated me better he could become my best friend but until then I am best-friendless! Just because you are married does not mean you have to be best-friends!

That seems like a very strange reaction to me! I've always thought that it is really important to have your spouse be your best friend also if you are going to share the rest of your lives together and possibly raise children together! I would definitely consider my husband to also be my best friend. He is the one person I always know that I can tell anything to, and I feel more comfortable around him than I do with anyone else, including even my own sister and parents. I think that to have a really good marriage, two people should be both lovers and best friends! I really think that those are the marriages that last.

My husband of 35 years is both to me. He has helped me through some rough times and some surgeries. He has stood by me and helped me out giving me advice at times. In a good relationship you can be both best friends and lovers.

lol I would of been also. My husband and I have been together for 12 years now which means I was only 16 at the time and we have and always will be best friends. As long as he can stand me that is lol. I can talk to him about everythng and anything no matter what I think about it and he will give me his oppion about it no matter what. He has always been there for me no matter how hard it has been. Even after 2 kids and my stomach not looking very beautiful 9 months after giving birth he still loves me for me. With the little bit of alone time we get he still sticks around. I'm very lucky.

I haven't been on MyLot in a while - bad me - so missed this discussion. Shortly after we were married (almost 23 years ago this month!) I told my husband he was my best friend too. It took him a bit by surprise. He is my rock and I want nothing better than to be with him (even though I moan too much). He enjoys being out with his friends (I go sometimes) but I like chatting and being on the computer. I get tongue-tied and overwhelmed in public but on the computer I can take my time composing and altering my messages.

he's not my husband yet but we were already engaged. before i met him i had my real bestfriend for about almost 10 years. but since he became my boyfriend and my bestfriend had her own family. my boyfriend became my bestfriend. i can tell him everything. as in everything, the most little and the biggest things in my life that i haven't told anyone else even with my old bestfriend. i've shared him everything about me. it makes me feel better and lighter when i tell him whats happening to me, or how'd i feel or even what's running on my mind. i think this what also makes our relationship deeper, knowing each other very very well. and i do also believe that we were lovers too. i guess we would not last 5 years at all if we were not been bestfriends and lovers at the same time.

My husband has always been understanding since we met. He has never argued with me since the day he saw me. Whenever he needs to remind me about something, he does that in the gentlest possible way he can. He has never treated me unfairly. In eating a fruit in two halves, he tends to get the odd half while he gives me the better part. I have never met someone (other than my family) who has treated me this special. While my best friend from sixth grade is still my best friend, I consider my husband as my bestfriend through thick and through thin. He is someone I can't live without.