I think there is something wrong with one of the Twins?
By marciascott
@marciascott (25529)
United States
March 27, 2008 4:37pm CST
Ok, I have 2 Grand-twins they are boys, and one of them are violent, likes to fight the other Twin. he will grab anything and hit his brother with it. He even hits me, the other Twin is quiet, and doesn't do much. there names are Chaz and Charles. Charles is the bad one. Chaz is as sweet as he can be, when his brother gets more attention than he he will hit him. they are so cute, but that Charles is a mess. I went over to there house, he has this Big truck that he rides, him and his brother has the same thing I was playing with Charles, the bad one, He took his truck and picked it up and tried to hit me with it, I really think something is wrong with that kid, he is too little to do stuff like that. He is so hyper, I hope he growns out of that, everytime he does it, I will spank him and tell him NO! they understand
the rest of the kids thinks it is cute, I don't think it is cute at all. His Father even laughs, he thinks it is cute too. I am going to break him up from that you think I can? I don't spank hard I kind of tap him, and let him know No do not do that! He is not even 2 yrs, and can barely talk, I never seen a baby that age do stuff like that. I am beginging to think something is wrong with my Grandson. My daughter think that them eating lead has something to do with it? what do you think? if you have kids, I know you have some insight on this? I need some advice for this terrible two in June they will be 2 yrs. Old.
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@twinrachel (215)
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28 Mar 08
i have twin boys who are two and a half years old. They tend to fight a bit and they used to bite each other a lot. They still do it a little bit now. I tried everything to stop them doing it - hitting them, naughty corner, biting back, shouting, explaining. Nothing worked - in the end I concluded that it was rustration becaus ethey couldn't communicate very well. What I do now if they bite or hit eachother is talk to them. I explain that we don't hit or bite people that we love. I make them apologise and hug each other and say 'I love you'. It does seem to be working.
I woudl say that the fact that the parents think the behaviour is funny means that the child things that it is acceptable which is why he continues to do it. I don't think there is anything wring with the child exceot that he doesn't know what is right and wrong. I think if you carefully explain to him that what he is doing isnt acceptable and is naughty that eventually the parents might start to back you up and that is the only way that he will learn.
I also find that my boys can be quite hyper and one is definately more hyper than the other. The way that I stop it is to tae them for a walk or let them run around in the garden.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Mar 08
thsnks you seem pretty experience in this. I will try some of the thigs you sad, I have 2 Adults and it is been a while since I had to rise little ones. Thanks again. Have a nice weekend!
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
28 Mar 08
It is funny and it is not funny, I think they well He needs more home traning, the Kids just laugh at everything he does, If I had him for a week, I would get him together. Everytime I come over to see them, I always have something good for them to eat, so when I come over, they go straight to my Purse, bcause they know Grandma has something good for them. After he eats what I give him, Hes ready to start throwing things. It makes me so mad. I know he is just a baby but they need to give him more home training.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I know what you mean LOL. you hate to spank them but sometimes we have to. It is not good that they laugh at him. It will make him think it is okay and may make him worse. I had a hard time with my daughter but my moms voice straightened her out LOL. I bet grandma spoils them little ones rotten LOL, but you do discipline them too which they really need.
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I would say it is because people are laughing when he does this but you menntioned lead at the end. Does he have lead poisoning? I have done research on this because my daughter had it and now she has some anger issues. If he had it you need to talk to your doctor because that is one side effects of lead poisoning.
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I have twin boys that are 16 now. If the father laughs as charles is doing the maen things, charles is learning it is ok to be that way and doesnt know it is wrong how could it be wrong if it makes daddy so happy he laughs at it. If you are only going there now and again and the dad is continually reinforcing his behavior then I'm not sure what to tell ya.
My boys would take turns, one week,or month we could never tell which one would be sweet as could be and the other agressive and mean, then they would switch. I think it was in grade school when they stopped.
At 16 they are pretty much where they are going to be personality wise I believe. One is very laid back, non chalant type, the other is driven. Had some anger problems that have been worked out but actually it is because he is more sensitive and gets mad that he is hurt, because "boys" are supposed to be tough. It's more accepted to show anger than it is be a "wuss" of a boy
Reinforce and praise the good behavior let him know he is loved, and maybe its just that he is jealous of the other twin he acts the way he does, also please dont let him hear you say he is the bad twin. One of my family members did that to my boy and when something happens he spouts off w/ I'm the bad one remember. We have made it a joke now, but it really hurt him when he heard it first.
@dancinman (119)
• United States
29 Mar 08
It, sounds like JACOB, AND ESAU, in the bible to me.
wouldnt you think??
check it out in the bible.
