Parents getting a divorce

Don't be too harsh on your mom. There may have been problems between her and your dad for a long time that you were unaware of. It is never to late to reclaim your life and look for happiness. Should she stay in an unhappy marriage forever or give up on love just because she is 41? She is probably right now just enjoying her newfound freedom. She's been married for 20 years and it will take time to adjust. She is acting just like most people who first become single. She'll be ok , im sure. the situation is just new for all of you and an adjustment for you as well as it is for her.

that is really really harsh im sorry to hear that, but unfortunatly it happens some times! im sorry to hear that it happend to you and your family. and my parents are still together :D (thank god) so i wouldnt really know how to handle myslef in that situation becuase that whole situation is so forign to me

Since I don't know the whole situation, or your age, I'm guessing late teens/early twenties, maybe you should first take a good look at the past years, did they argue a lot, other signs of either one or both being unhappy? I was in a 16 year marriage when I divorced 4 years ago, my daughters were 15 and 22, but they had seen and knew what kind of marriage it was, by the way I was 44. I moved 2 hours away, but I took a year of re-aquainting myself to me, I went on a few dates, very few, then a year later I met a wonderful man. At first my daughters were okay with it, just okay, until I made the decision (well he and I) that I would move to his state, 1600 miles away! However, within 4 months of me moving, they both knew how happy I finally was, and they both love him, and he loves them too, eventhough he interacts with my oldest more, she only lives 6 hours away, my youngest lives in Texas 1600 miles away, but they talk on the phone. Until you find out what is really going on, be supportive, that is what your mom needs right now, as well as your stepdad.

One more thing. You never know what's going on inside somebody else's marriage. Only the people in the marriage really know what the problems are. It could very well be that their problems are so serious that the best solution is to split up. And if so, both your parents are class acts for not bad mouthing each other. Anyway, hang in there!

i am sorry to hear that , but if your mother and your step father don't love each other anymore , it is just pain for them to live together . they are not children , they knw what to do in this situation , you may be feel sad from this ,but let them deal with the problem between them , this is the best way .

Hi very sad to read your words Really sometimes this thing happen to some person. I have no Idea this thing thou I have nothing to say I just have interest in this topic. because I have tried this thing once but unfortunately i was fail. still I am in the midst of this thing trying to fine the way but sorry coz i have no idea But one thing I am sure that God is Good and those who believed Him will never fail. Thanks...

Hey take it from me , my parents got a divorce wheni was in my 8th grade year , i wish someone would have told me what ima about to tell you , Dont waste your time trying to salavge their relationship ..period . ive tried with my parents and the situation got worse they played the " whos the best parents " thing .." whos side are you on ?" like it was straight crazyness and nonsense at the same time cause the both of them were acting foolish ...you mom , seems to be in the same boat my mom is doing dating and seeing other men ..i guess you can call it trying to get young again , see what she was missing , what she lost out on ...it gets kinda werid when you look at your mom and say " What in the world are you doing ??" " your not hip , just sit down cause ur just making a mockery outta yourself " YOU WANT TO SAY THAT TO THE FULLEST but you cant cause then your mom will think your against her or your jeaulous ..i can say just listen out , and try not to get heavly involed ...

Divorce is hard on children, even adult children. Just remember that even though they may have stopped loving each other (or one of them doesn't love the other), that they will never stop loving you. I've read a lot of marriage counseling type books and most of them say that loving somebody is a choice. For whatever reason, fighting, incompatibility, etc., your mom has decided to stop loving your dad. And that if they work on all the things that caused the problem, the feeling might come back. Don't know if that is true or not, but unfortunately it is their choice. And if they choose to go through with the divorce, the best thing that you can do is let them know,that while you don't agree with their decision, and that it hurts that they are splitting up, that you will support them and help them through it as much as you can. There is no painless way to end a relationship unfortunately, you can only do what you can do to make it less painful.