Response Expectations.
By ciades
@ciades (1623)
Philippines
March 29, 2008 12:39am CST
I had noticed that there are some here in mylot that making discussions. And if someone who responded or making a comments that against or can be a little provoking to there topic. It can't hardly to them to accept the fact that not everyone agree or like of what they are posted.
I thought about a person like that having an expectations of responses from other mylotters. You can't please everyone to please and agree all the time. We have our different opinions and perceptions on a certain topics that we responded to. Freedom to share our opinions and reactions and freedom to express what we feel.
I just read some comments in a topic that one member whom he dont like to respond with if that person post a topic because that member seems so provoking or disagree or have some other view everytime giving a comment to his topic. Well, thats what he felt and he just true of himself.
How about you? Do you have any expectations to someone who response to your topic? Do you prepare yourself to received provoking responses? How you deal with this?
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10 responses
@season0907 (671)
• India
30 Mar 08
Hi ciades,
As there are too many members in mylot, we get different kind of opinions(responses)to our discussion.As far as I am concerned, I will accept any opinion(response)I receive whether the person' response is provoking or non-provoking.I will not react. Because it is his reaction to my discussion.Even any response is personally hurting to me , I will not react.As a mature person let us accept everything that comes.My general request to all mylotters is to ensure that their response should not be aimed at personal hurting.
Good Luck.
@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Yup your right season. If the one party feels the responsed of the other party is provoking better not to react and just let that party express what they feel about the topic. But at the same time we can react in a smooth way inorder the other party will be calm and realize also that they already provoking. Well, without this type of individuals the topic will not be kind of interesting.
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@arjun999 (1004)
• India
29 Mar 08
I would prepare myself for critisism of my opinions. Healthy critisism is always good. But critisising something just for the sake of it is not that good. We have freedom to share what we think and others have freedom to critisise us too. But there is a line between critisism and abuse.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 Mar 08
people will disagree,
and I do like to debate, there is nothing wrong with debating an issue that is what a discussion is to discuss all sides.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Apr 08
actually when i post a discussion, you can say i have this minimal expectation taht some would actually answr it. earlier there were more zero response discussions. now its less in numbers. there i snothing more than that. i can take what opinions people have to say in my discussions.
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@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
yeah, i understand what you feel. The feeling is different when you see many responses on your post. Meaning your topic is interesting. Well, for me your post is interesting subha..and im enjoying giving my comments with it. Expectations is always there...Even me, i also have my owned expectations.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
29 Mar 08
Yes I brace for some responses. Other times I know I'm beyond 120% correct and don't even care about any dissenting responses (there was a good one earlier this week like this).
I try to face it with civility though for other discussions. There have been some good responses that I don't exactly agree with but good cases are presented. A couple of times there are responses good enough I have to go back to the thinking room (so to speak ;p).
Sometimes, it helps to detach a bit from the response and discussions. Don't take it too hard or too personally. Also calm a bit if you feel things are getting heated. Trying to find common ground is a good option too when the discussion gets too heated, but at times its hard to get members to take heed.
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@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Expectations are anywhere...One thing that we should do is to prepare ourself in each individuals that we could encounter and have an open mind to accept any criticism,reactions,comments or expectations in every topic and responsed we made same as we recieved and read from other party.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 08
Hello ciades,
When I start a discussion, I am prepared to get any kind of responses. Be it negative or positive, I am glad to get responses from others. If lets say, I don't like the response, I just keep it to myself. Nobody knows what I will do whether I will rate the person negative or be a neutral, nobody will ever knows. So for me, I rather keep it to myself instead of starting a fire here. No one have the right to say whether you are right or wrong. This is an open discussion. You have the right to give your opinion, comment or idea but that doesn't mean that you are right either.
@98765m (1017)
• India
14 Apr 08
Well,I certainly do not reply to discussions which the response may be provoking to some people.
As you say,you cant please every one here in mylot.
I do not have any expectations of the responses that I receive to my discussions.
I do not start controversial discussions.
Even if I indeed get a provocative response,I just read it and pass by with out making any response or comment to it.
I also never rate any one negative ,even if I don't like their view on the topic.Not every one on this world shall have the same view.
Cheers ! Good day to you
Happy mylotting.
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@ozzeth (940)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
We can't avoid expecatations from other parties. Even me i have some expecatations. In making a topic our expectations evolve upon us on how the other members responsed our topic. Criticism and rudeness sometimes cannot be avoided of. So i guess lets just prepared ourself how we deal with it.
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