girls making the first move?!

I personally have never had the courage to make the first move as far as boys were concerned! But to tell you the truth I do not see anything wrong in it, it shows the girl has confidence and is assertive and they are not bad qualities in a person. As long as they are not too hurt if they get rejected then I do not see a problem at all! At least you did not get rejected and found instead a friend, I would say that was not a bad thing at all.

In high school, I had a crush on my "best friend"... and I never dated anyone because I was sooooo shy and was hoping he would just notice me. Well for 5 years, I crushed on this guy -- you know, the one all the girls wanted LOL He was gorgeous, was a drummer in a band, the whole bit. We started college and even shared a locker! Still I said nothing. A couple of years later, he dropped by my house to wish me happy birthday. I was surprised he even remembered but he did. That night, as we talked and laughed over "old times," I finally asked if he hadn't noticed how much I had crushed on him all that time. Instead of laughing it off, he looked me in the eyes and just said "WHY didn't you ever TELL me!" I knew, by the sincerity in his tone, that it could have worked out all those years ago. I learned a lesson then about being honest and upfront with my feelings. If it means the female being the more open or "forward", so be it :) Everyone deserves to be happy... and happiness is what we make of it!

I like it when girls make the first move. I am absolutely useless at noticing if a girl actually likes me or not, so it really helps if she takes the initiative.

Heh, I'm pretty big on making the first move myself. I certainly wouldn't have held onto a crush that long before making a move. There was one time when I was in high school when I had a crush on a close friend for a whole year... and it was weird because we flirted really heavily and even kissed and such, but weren't going out... I wound up asking him out the next school year and he had met someone by then, and I learned my lesson. I was pretty upset over it for a while, because I had really been interested in the guy, but basically I just waited too long. So now if I like someone, I let them know. Sure, there have been turned down before, like anyone else. But I've also had a few really great relationships that would have existed if I hadn't been willing to say anything.

i think its good thing .i mean why should guys do it all the time.grls should change the things work in love too after all they are changing things everywhere from clothing to working and lifestyle then why not in love and relations too.

hahaha, i don't know, sometimes i turn them down... ^_^ but sometimes it nice to know that someone likes you cause they may never know if you "might" love them back.. ^_^

well I am a great advocate for first move by girls, having myself done so in my college days. I had this, as you say crush which made me crazy and I just could not think of letting him go. We had common friends but they were of no use as this guy was quite stubborn and had a big ego to boot. He made it plain and simple clear that he did not like me, in fact he did not like girls at all. To make a long story short, I hung on to dear life, I made all sorts of overtures, I wrote letters, I forced him to meet me, I went to his house and spoke to his mum as a friend…all to no avail. After college we went our separate ways but he was never out of my mind. It was two years after this that one fine day he suddenly calls me up and wants to meet me. well I wanted to do cartwheels! We started meeting and being together and its more than 15yrs now that we know each other and we have been married for around 11yrs! But in your case, you don’t like his activities so that settles things for you. Its good that you have the maturity to judge situations for your own good.

That's alright with me. Our world right now has become more open to this kind of perception. Before, guys are very aggressive and showy when it comes to showing their affection to women. But now, the society has accepted this kind of culture although not all communities agree with this. I am an open-minded man. And this is just alright really.

Well, in our country considering the culture and tradition, it does not look so good for girls to make the first move. But perhaps nowadays, due to the influence from different cultures and exposure to movies and tv, it has almost come to a point that its almost acceptable. Well, I really don't mind if girls make the first move. But definitely at this point in time, when a girl makes a first move on me, someone would surely mind... my wife!

I am of the view that girls making first move is quite normal these days as the times are changing. It sometimes takes conflict and tension off many a boys.

if a girl makes the first move, it means she is superior in terms of aggression, in a good way. the girl is strong and powerful the way she could handle creating the first dialog of the whole relationship. if a girl does not make the first move, she is even more powerful. because it means that she has the power to make a man move towards her without having to do anything. either way its all about driving men to their knees just for you to look at them let alone speak to them. you are the beauty so tame the beast.

In my opinion I think the guy should make the first move! Don't get me wronge if the girl wants to make the first move all the power to her, I give her credit for having guts! if a girl makes the first move and gets turned down there a little more sensitve (not saying all girls are) and some guys can be really cruel when they do it they go laugh about it with there buddies and think its funny (I've seen it happen to some of my friends). And some guys when they get turned down they just brush it off and move on to the next girl.lol

Personally, I'd love for a girl to make the first move on me. It'd be nice to be the chased rather than the chaser for once! I doubt it'll happen though - the idea of a girl asking a guy out is still pretty unheard of around here at least. I don't know why, maybe it's just because the guys don't usually give the girls a chance.

there's nothing wrong in making the first move to be recognized by the person you like. unless you put yourself into trouble. think 100 times about your plan, make it decent and still unforgettable.

I think it is good for the girls to make the first move. Most time boys expect the girls to make their first move. I think a person should tried to become his or her best friend and then make the first move. I think there should be room for friendship to develop before developing love. Most times this helps to understand each other better.