unwanted child!!

I am sorry to hear your friend is feeling so upset, all you can do is just keep trying to talk to her and be there for her. Ultimately any decisions she makes are hers and her hubbys, she may just be upset, she may calm down and after a while may see things a little more clearly. But until then all you can do is be there for her when she needs you.

It is a decision to be made between the woman and her husband. All you can do is be her friend and be there for her. whatever she chooses, it will be a very hard decision for her and she'll need you as her friend. just be supportive in whatever choice she makes.

Hi, Well, I can understand her being depressed about having 2 kids and pregnant. Her hubby is the only one making a living, but she can also provide. There are all kinds of ways to make extra money online. This is what I am doing and it all helps with food, bills, etc. My hubby is the only worker right now. If your friend is sure she doesn't want the baby, she needs to talk to her husband about it....I don't believe in abortion, I think if they don't want to have another baby, they need to look into adoption. There are TOO many couples who want to have kids, but for some reason or another, can't. This would be a gift to one of those couples. Let your friend know you are there for her if she needs an ear or a shoulder to cry on...but don't let her do anything without talking with her husband. There is hope and she just needs to put her mind in a place where she knows everything will be ok and this is not as big of a problem like she thinks it is. Good Luck and your friend is lucky to have a friend like you ~Icy~

I think it's very selfish of her to want to abort it. To me, that's murder. In Job the bible tells us that the creator sees even the embryo's in the mother's womb. Tell your friend that....

I think no baby should be brought into the world if it is unwanted and if this woman wants an abortion then she should have one.

Has she considered adoption instead?? Usually the parents that want to adopt the child will pay for all the prenatal care!

okay so what advice did you give to her? it is right that you calm her down. she is just confused and might be feeling really down because she is already thinking of the future, what to give their baby and how they can survive... tell her that God gave them another blessing, and he will help them get through this trial together, with the baby.

I am so sorry to hear that. I have to say it's a very difficult decision. I think no matter what's the decision that your friend will make up, we have to support her. There is nothing wrong with it. She has some problems to have one more child. I know she will feel so guilty to abort a baby. But at least maybe life will be easier and it'll be good for a whole family. Just tell her to be careful in the future and never make the same mistake again. Nobody should blame her.

Hi. I had a miscarriage about 3 weeks ago. I already have 3 children that do not live with me. I am married, but we have both had other relationships. I don't believe in abortion and agonized over this pregnancy for 2 months. I was lucky; God interveaned. The only advice that I could give is to trust God and yourself. Also there are tons of people out there that really can't have children. Maybe your friend could do an open adoption. Her & the adoptive parents know each other and include each other in thier lives; during pregnancy, during the raising of the child, etc.

Hi checapricorn, In my opinion, your friend should not abort her child. I don't feel sorry for her because she very well know that it is only her husband's earnings by which she has to run the family then why she has not taken preventive measures to avoid pregnancy, purticularly when there are plenty of methods available.In my opinion it is not fair to abort, when the mistake is with us. Good Luck.

Hi, Tell her, children is the best gift in our life. There is nothing to worry about the comming baby. Every time a baby was born, the parent will have extra earning. you right and there's a good reason for what happen. It is good to have kids. Some people is struggling to have kid.

some times our friends won't listen our words it is normally things any where but her has two kids and her husband is working some where so better to judge her self.

Dear Mylot Friend, I hope and pray, I'm not too late in responding, but I want to encourage you to keep on talking to her as much as you possibly can. Right now, she is in need of a close friend. I understand that you live very far from her, and that must make you feel terrible. It sounds like she is overwelmed with financial struggles as her husband is the only one bringing in the income to support his family. So knowing that she is caring another child to raise would indeed feel like the worse thing that could happen to their family. However, you are absolutely right in saying to her that there is a good reason why this has happened. And it sounds like she didn't take it very well, but don't let that discourage you. Please let her know that she is not alone eventhough she may feel like she is. This decission in aborting the baby will have a huge effect on her later on, so I would like to ask you if you are aware of the power of prayer. God doesn't make mistake with a human life is at stake. God has a plan and a purpose for each child who comes into this world. Please encourage her to seek sound advice and help where they live. I belong to "The Word Of Life Women's Ministry", and we have what is called, a Prayer Chain. If you would like, and if she didn't mind as well, I like to make a reguest on her behalf and you, if that is okay, but please ask her, and if she says yes, I will indeed make a request for her and her family for prayer. I can assure you there will be help on the way in her time of need. So please continue to encourage her to not abort the baby, because all children are a gift from God. from your Mylot Friend, ccdiane

Well I'm sorry to hear that.Maybe I donnot have the experience to join in the discussion,because, you kown I'm a girl who have not married,but I'm just intrested in it.In my opinion,you shouldnot feel so upset because ,after all it was the decide of your friend.Maybe she quite enjoys the happiness of having a lot of children.Just relaxed!

In all honesty..the only two ppl who REALLY have the right to say or decide is her and her husband and ultimately the choice is SOLELY HERS....As long as she thinks through all her options carefully she'll make the right decision whehter its carry and keep the baby, carry and give up the baby for adoption or abortion....I would say that the best thing YOU can do is #1 dont try to sway her into any specific choice since its not your place nor is it fair to her and #2 be a kind, understanding and supportive friend EVEN IF she decides to make a choice that YOU PERSONALLY wouldnt make...Bottomline is, its her life, her choice and only SHE knows what will be best for her and hers ya know..

I had a friend who became pregnant with her second kid and she felt the exact same way. She did not want another kid at all.(where she should of took the proper precautions to prevent an unwanted pregnancy she didn't) she actually complained about how she didn't want a kid up until her ninth month. She went to the hospital to have the baby and was still talking about how she didn't want it. She takes care of the new baby and all but it's not like the first at all. She does was she has to do and thats about it, she doesn't go above and beyond for this child as she did with the first one. So, if the baby is really unwanted, and is not gone to be taken care of like the other ones, would an abortion really be wrong?

In my point of view, abortion is murder. No matter how justifiable your reason may be, it is still murder. I suggest your friend carries on her pregnancy and after that, she may opt to be ligated, or her husband can have vasectomy. One good reason: (I read this one through e-mail) - Beethoven's mother was a pr0stitute, she had 8 kids prior to Beethoven (3 were deaf, 2 were blind, 1 was metally retarted) and the mom had Syph. Yet, she still continued the pregnancy. I am not 100% sure if this one is true, but what I am trying to say is, you never know what will happen in the future. Who knows, the baby she's carrying might be the next president, or the next CEO of a big company.

tell her that why did she get pregnant if she didn't want to have more children? tell her that she should talk to her husband 1st.. ^_^ there's nothing u can do if she doesn't listen to you, she may or may not regret what her decision was and whether she should have listened to you..

The child is innocent and she/he is also a life in the pregnant period. Do you dare to kill someone? if your answer is NO, please let him/her born. If parents have their child, they should take care of him/her.

She's probably really stressed out at this time. I think that the best thing to do is to be there for her for she really needs a friend now more than ever. She may not be hearing out anyone, but once she's calmed down she would be able to think things over and make the right decision.