Are you over protective?
By nataliemurie
@nataliemurie (96)
April 1, 2008 3:36pm CST
Do you think you are over protective of your children? I think this is a really bad way of bringing them up. I'm not saying let them run wild, but come on, let them make their own mistakes. My friends who I went to school with who were brought up by over protective parents are now either taking drugs or getting drunk every weekend on the streets, or they just don't care about life & they have no jobs. My boyfriend's mum is really annoying. He is nearly 18 & she treats him like he's 10. He resents her so much for it. However, he has a younger sister who is 11 & she gets everything & anything she wants, when she wants it. She's a spoiled brat! I think my mum brought me up amazingly. She let me do what I wanted most of the time with limits. I did have a rough patch when I was younger, but every child does. My mum took me to child phycologists & had meetings with my Guidance teacher from school, who refered a family social worker to us & I had anger managment classes. Now your thinking "this is crazy! how did you have a good up bringing" but I'm getting to that. The phycologists & social workers etc came to the conclusion that I was acting this way because I didn't have a father figure. Luckily, I went through my "Crazy teen years" earlier than everyone else, & by the time they all went through theirs, I was past mine. I am now really sensible & trying to help my mum pay the mortgage. However, the people I went to school with are now taking drugs, not working etc.
What are your views on bringing up children?
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8 responses
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
2 Apr 08
yes I am over protective of my girls But when I was 10 a friend of ours was kiddknapped from a public pool right across the street from where he lived to this day oone kows what happen to Andy an that was 31 years ago but i am getting better at letting my girls go they know i trust them
@rnpcag (52)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
I think I'm not. I understand there there should be balance in everything. I should not be overprotective or to liberating. It's like comparing it to a sand in your hand. If you overgrip it, it will come out of your hand. If you hold it loosely, it will come out to. But if you hold it just right, the sand will not fall.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I am over protective with just about anyone who is really close to me in my life. The reason why I am so over protective is because I was an older sister and because I always want to be a hero to others. I like to prevent people from making big mistakes that they will regret in the future.
@HawaiiGopher (1009)
• Belgium
2 Apr 08
My parents brought me up with much freedom but along with that, much knowledge. They told me about what could await me and what the consequences were, without trying to instill fear upon me. So far, I can't complain. I'm a happy kid and my parents don't get mad at me.
@summta (65)
• China
2 Apr 08
I was not over protective when I was young,my family are very democratic.So if I want to do some thing,i will tell my parents and they will give me some suggestions about good results and bad results of the things,then let me decide whether i will keep no or not.So i am more independent than many children who are same age with me. I think I will bring up my child with the same way.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I am a bit over protective but my oldest is only 11. My parents were pretty trust worthy as long as they knew where I was going, and what time I will be home. When my kids are teens I will probably be the same way. As long as they remain trust worthy I will trust thme. So far my kids are really good. I just hope they stay that way.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
Being protective of our children is actually a normal thing for a parent to do. However, we must give them a little freedom to learn things about life on their own. We raise our children the right way, and trust that they live by our teaching. We guide them every step of the way, and when the time comes, we give them freedom and watch how they apply the things we have taught them as they were growing up. If we are too strict and over protective, the tendency is for them to rebel against us, and that's one thing we would like to avoid.
@viewpoint (137)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
I am a little bit protective of my children. Not too much. I give them the freedom to do some things they like to do, with responsibility. That way, they can grow up being able to enjoy their youth, and at the same time learning to be responsible with the decisions they make in life.
