Forgiveness.

thank you,we may never know how much we hurt ourselves until we thouroughly understand the subject of forgiveness and learning to let go even when it seems impossible,for that is when we begin to live free of every unnecessary burdens

Thanks friend! By the way I like your name.....

thanks for the comment i do appreciate that,micaella,have a great day

as a married person there is so much that you need to overlook and i know that its such a painful thing to realise your man is unfaithful but please try and let go it may be a good thing on the long run,

you are right ,there is a difference between forgiving and forgetting and i believe that forgiving preceeds forgetting you cannot forget what you have not forgiven,so that you find it difficult to forget is the next level in the process.that is an area we must train our minds to handle .it takes time but it can be done,besides we are human and i know the best way to forget includes not always reffering to what you have forgiven,try not to talk about it or stress on it when such things happen again,there are some offences you just forgive and decide not to allow the person the same privileges agian its safe for both you and the offender but refusing to forgiv releases more bile in our system and like we know bile is bitter,when you have more of it in your blood system you obviously will be live a more bitter life,the above statement is the result of a psychology research and i have tested it and found it to be true because unforgiving people are always bitter people

thanks and i am so happy you eventually found a way to forgive that offence,and you see most often than we know when we forgive others we are actually helping ourselves to move forward,i was in a class where the issue of forgiveness was the topic and the presenter used a simple illustration,he asked a man from the audience to hold another one from moving away ,he held on to th other guy who was struggling to move away but he himself could not go away.so his conclusion was that if you refuse to let go when others offend you,you are holding them from moving forward and you too will never leave that same spot.forgiveness does help to recover no matter how hard it is for us we need to just try