Would you let your child accept the gifts?

I would be wondering why all the gifts myself.I know that molesters start off giving gifts of all sorts.You should be concerned about that situation!!I would have a talk with my child and see if anything is going on.I would let my child first of all know that he or she can trust me and that he or she can tell me anything.I would like them know that I am worried about why all the gifts are coming from them.Then I would talk with them also to find out why are they showering my child with all the gifts.You have the right to be concerned know before its to late and cause you and your child problems.So talk NOW!!

When I was young like that I used to babysit and would be allowed to accept gifts at times like Christmas. I'm just wondering if this family has a lot of money to be giving such lavish gifts. I don't think I would let my daughter accept things like that or accept things on a regular basis. I would check it out with the family and see if everything seems like it's on the up and up though.

i would never let my child to accept the gifts

My daughter and I, 'both' would be returning them with the understanding that she does not accept gifts of this nature. A tip is one thing, but an outrageous gift is another. It is way too expensive. Sherri

If my child was going to be that close to people I would like to know them pretty well myself. Then once he/she started recieving the gifts I would just bring it up in casual conversation. I would also question the child. If it all seems normal I would just accept them.

At first yes I would be ok about it, depending on what the gifts were, but if it was happening on a regular basis then I would begin to get a little bit wary, as to why they kept giving my child gifts, what reason would they have to keep giving them gifts. I would not make them give them back but what I would do is go around and just say to them that while it is a nice gesture I would rather that they did not. I would probably say that I was trying to teach them the value of things in life and that this was going against what I was trying to teach. See, I would be nice but firm. When my eldest son was 5 or 6, where we lived there was a man that lived at the end of the road and he would always give my son and his friend bags of sweets, after a while I started just to worry a bit about this. Everyone said it was nothing, and that he was harmless but I never forget one day when I shouted my son in for his tea and he did not come in, after worrying and searching for a while, it turned out he had been in this mans house. Nothing happened but that was not the point, this man was in his forties and lived alone and I did not trust him, I made sure that my son never took sweets off this man again and never went into his house alone again either.

woww... those are really expensive gifts... i don't think that i will allow my children to accept them... once in a while is OK... but if it is too often, then i will be very suspicious and suspect something not right... i will definitely have a chat with the neighbour and ask the neighbour what is happening... or else, i will ask my children to return the gifts back... it sounds like a bribe to me and it makes me look like a bad mother in front of my children...

Bells and whistles go off whenever I hear of a child receiving elaborate gifts from either a neighbor, friend or family member. I would give the gifts back and question why these gifts were given to them.

well yes i would be letting my kids accept gifts... but I don't know about the pricy stuff you have mentioned... that just seems like to much to me!!! I guess it would come down to me having a talk with the other party that was giving the gifts!... Imean if they are payment... that might be different. All depended on the situation!

I would let my child accept the gifts because if she is doing a good deed, then she should be rewarded for it if the family is well endowed and able to do it for her. If money was an issue for the family, then I may have to talk to them and ask them to please save their money for themselves. I would make sure that my child does say thank you for the items also and offer to tell them they did not have to do it.

If its very often, I will talk to my neighbour and will tell her that I do appreciate the kindness but on the other hand, I don't like my kid to grow up developing an attitude like there is always an exchange every time he will help or work for somebody!I will not ask the child to do it but I rather talk personally so there will be no misunderstanding! If my neighbour will insist to give it, then I will just approve it and appreciate the kindness! Maybe they just want also to make your kid happy after his work!

Are the gifts in addition for the work or are the gifts for the work. Those gifts sound pretty expensive and if you believe that the child is not doing enough to earn the gifts, I would question the child and then question the neighbors to see what reason they give for giving this child such expensive gifts. It is definitely not for nothing.

I wouldnt allow her to accept them no, I wouldnt allow such expensive gifts from anyone let alone a neighbour I dont actually see the need for such expensive gifts and that would concern me. Im not sure I could stop her though at 17 but I would be having an in depth conversation at any age as to why they were being given them, id be round there asking the neighbours out right. Thats prob a lot to do with how I was brought up though in that you save up for the big expensive things you want and gifts should be a token of thanks or love depending on when or why it was given.

well i would be concerned and i would make sure to talk to that familly and kindly tell them i know i might not have much monye but you have no right to buy my kid all this stuff i would rather you pay him and he gets it on his or her own and i would give them the consept of earning

I would not mind the occasional Gift but if it went to that extend I would go and have a word to find out why they where giving these Gifts to my Child It could be because it is their way of being Thankful for what my Child has done for them but I would ask questions

I would go to the parents/guardians of the child, to see where these gifts are coming from. If they are genuine I'd let tchild keep them, but if there was any suspiticion of where the gifts came from I'd make the child give them back.

Honestly, I would make my kids return the gifts along with telling the person that gave it to me, thank you for the nice gift, but it's not right for me to take something. With gifts like that, it would make me feel like I don't have the money to be able to go out and get these gifts for my children myself. Plus it would give me the impression that these parents feel that as well and would really bug me about it. Even after my kids returning the gifts, but they keep coming I would speak with the parents over this. I wouldn't do it in a manner that they would feel bad, I would just tell them thank you, but they don't need these gifts. Now even after all of that, and they wanted to reward my kids by gifts for them helping them with things, like babysitting and mowing lawns and such, then that's a whole other story. Then, I would tell them to graciously accept the gifts as their reward for a job well done.

firstly rose i would have to suss out the situation,and have a chat with the neighbour and make sure that this person was o.k.if i felt there was something odd i would not allow my child near that neighbour again.if it was a sort of grandmotherly type of person,who was probably wanting the company more than actually wanting chores done i would more than likely allow my child to accept the gift,but i would have a chat to that person and ask them not to spoil them with expensive gifts,but just give them something little like a lolly bag.cheers sue

But you have to be more specific! Your family has money problems and they dont? Why are they giving the gifts? How long you know each other? All this are important to take a dissision!

i think i would have to meet the family, and ask them about the gifts maybe there not gift maybe there stolen and he or she is saying that there gifts. i have done that in the past.not saying they stole them maybe they got mixed up with the wrong crowed or something.. maybe the person is weird. who knows.