How old were you?
By magrylouyu
@magrylouyu (1627)
United States
April 4, 2008 2:27pm CST
How old were you when you started your family? How did your family react?
I was 17 and it was 2 months before my 18th birthday when I gave birth to my oldest daughter. My mom struggled to support me. My dad on the other hand was furious! He wanted me to marry him and everything at 17. I was so upset i cried. Then the following day he said to me dont marry him just because you have a child by him. I said I would never do that anyways. I need to love the guy which I do. My daughter was only 7 months old when I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter. I had her one month after my 19th birthday. I am now 22 and have 2 daughters and a stepson. I love every minute of it although its stressful.
Whats your story?
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25 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
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4 Apr 08
I was 19 when I got pregnant and had my daughter on my 20th birthday my parents were over the moon to have their first grand child I was in a steady relationship though with our own home etc and able to support a child. Our second child I was 21 when I got pregnant and just turned 22 when she was born. We are planning another child in about 2 years time and that will be our family complete then.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
4 Apr 08
My husband "fiance" at the time had a good place that's why I moved out at 17. We're planning another child in about 1-2 more years.
I also had to add that your daughter in the picture looks a lot like my youngest daughter! lol I think that's so cute. i have a picture on my profile as well. Just though I'd add that.
@mickeydavis (335)
• Singapore
5 Apr 08
Wow, you are so young to give birth at that age. Sorry to say but I really don't want that to happen to me. I know the meaning of responsibility and I can only commit into a relationship and get settled if I know that I have the capability. For now, I am 23, still looking for a stable career to work onto and to work hard to get my own house, where my family could live soon. But as to what happen to you, I was believe in you that you gone through all these challenges, and that, for sure, you learn a lot. It is not a mistake. It is just a lesson that we should always remember. Everything is a blessing. So all you have to do is move on. Life will always be a challenge. Get up and change your story. Make sure to make something that will make your parents proud of you. I believe you.
Keep posting,
Mickey
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I know I was young. It's not like I planned having a child at 17. I know I missed out on a lot of things that I could have been doing. But I would not change one thing for the world. I love my children. They are very well taken care of. Now that I am almost 22, one more week I'll be 22. I get to go out and enjoy myself at least once a month sometimes 2 times a month. My parents are very proud of me. I dont know where you get that their not proud. All I said was my dad was furious when I got pregnant at 17. Now My parents are very proud at how I am raising my children. I am a very responsiable adult. They were proud of me when their first grand-daughter came in to the world.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I was 25 when I had my first son. My family was extatic for me although my mother in law thought it was too soon in our marriag and she certainly did tell us that!
My son is now 19 and I also have 2 more boys ages 16 and 14 and a daughter 7 yrs old.
You are so right, it is stressful and doesn't get any easier as they get older.
I blame them for every gray hair on my head:)
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I am so with you on that one. I may only be 22 right now but I swear I saw a grey hair already. lol my mom said it is possible
@luv2cook4u (398)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I was married at 23 and had my first baby a month before I turned 25. Baby #2 came at 26 and #3 came at 30. I am expecting #4 this summer and I just turned 32. My family was thrilled because we planned everything, but they were equally supportive of the many "oops" babies that came along in the family. My mom had me 3 months after she turned 16 and both my sisters also had babies right around age 18 (both unmarried, both relationships did not last).
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
5 Apr 08
That is one reason my parents were scared of me having a baby at 17. I have been with the father since I was 14 and got engaged at 16 and they were afraid that since we were not married we wouldnt last. But here I am at 22 and still going strong. I just hope that my girls make the right choice and wait until they are completely stable and have no finacial problems and are hopefull married. I cant really say much if they get pregnant at a young age because then I would be a hypocrite.
@deelightful1 (69)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Well I was 20 when I got pregnant with my son and had him right after my 21st bday... and his father swear up and down I told him that the baby wasn't the father, so he left. a few months later he came around but was still denying him. By the time my son was 8 months I had found someone else. He became my son's father and the only father he knows.... When my son was 3 I had another son,by then I had married my boyfriend who lived out of state at the time. and then 6 months later I was pregnant with my 3rd son. And about a year later I was pregnant again with my daughter... My husband is a truck driver so I'm alone with the kids for 3 months at a time and it's hard to go to school and take care of 4 kids by myself. It's very stressful and I've learned to ask for help and not to feel guilty wanting to take breaks and be by myself... Make time for you and you'll get through it.. I did
@briggitta (47)
• China
12 Apr 08
i start my family when i was 22years old, my husband is my collegemate.we love each other and i met no objection from my family. we live a happy life and two months ago our son came to this world. this made us even more happier.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
i start my own family when i am 27... and until now i haven't have a child yet... i am waiting for the right time and keep on praying that God will give me one when the time is right at His will...
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
hi, i havent quiet started my family yet, im 19, getting married at the end of the year, and also in the process of looking into having a baby (i have few fertility problems so have to take medication which i am on now) but we are living together and have our dogs and will soon be a family i think.
good luck :)
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I married at the age of 18. I had my first son at the age of 19. My family was really excited. Seventeen months later I had my second son. At 23 I had my first daughter. I was divorced right before my 25th birthday. I later re-married and had my last daughter only days before turning 28.
My husband got 'fixed' so we are not planning on having anymore children!
@littleone3 (2063)
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5 Apr 08
I got pregnant at 18 and had my baby at the age of 19 and then went on to have my second son 18 months later. 16 years later i now have 5 children and would not be without any of them. My family were great as i was with my babys father and we had moved into together by the time i give birth. It would have been different if i had been on my own as my sister got pregnant at 17 and my mum was suportive but my dad was furious but calmed down when my niece was born.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Apr 08
I think its lovely you have these children now and can grow and mature along with them As they grow older life will get a bit easier I promise. I was thirty when I married and only wished I had met my husband ten years earlier and had my son at thirty one and daughter at thirty two. but Iloved them and my marriage and was happy.,.
@ruby222 (4847)
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5 Apr 08
I was 17 when i got married..and nearly 18 when i had my son...quickly followed by twin daughters....we got married...my parents werent happy..naturally thet though i was too young..and very probably i was...but i had a rude awakening..i had to grow up very very fast....suddenly i had a husband.and 3 children....and very little or none really family support....also it was quite isolating ..because to go out with 3 children on your own was hard work!!!
I enjoyed my children...they grew up to be lovely caring and loving adults....we always found time to do things with them...take them out...treat them whenever we could....and we are lucky that all has turned out well in the end for us.
So i wish you good luck and great happiness bringing up your lovely family xx
@luckycharm00812 (621)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant, and 19 when I had my son. I'm still 19, so it hasn't been that long. I hope to get married to my son's father in the future. He's active duty at the moment, and we have a habit of bickering a lot. I'm working on that so he doesn't have any second thoughts about anything when he comes home.
I love my son. I want him to have his parents together and happy.
@kangel48446 (507)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I had found out that I was pregnant when I was 21 years old. My family was surprised but really supportive with the whole idea of me having a baby. They wish that I had waited until we were stable but we had a lot of help in the beginning. I got pregnant with my second daughter when I was 22 years old. This time my family wasn't really surprised BUT they all had their own opinions. We ended up getting married in March '08 and found out we are expecting again. My family is actually excited about it.
@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I got pregnant with my first child when I was 19 and I had him when I turned 20. I have a second child now and they are 7 years apart in age. They both have the same father and I have been married to him for 10 years now.
@sassysammy81 (369)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first daughter,first was the shock element,but everyone was so excited,she was the first niece/granddaughter for my family.
@schilds (410)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I met my husband when we were both 16. My parents were not supportive because he was irresponsible to say the least. We moved in together at 18, and finally got married at 22. Our daughter was born when I was 24, and our son at 26. Our relationship with my parents is still strained, and my husband avoids them when at all possible. But he is now a great husband and a wonderful dad - even if he is a pain in the butt sometimes (that's what I get for marrying a gemini).
@dandj929 (423)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I was 24 when my daughter was born. I had been with her dad for about 8 years. We are still together it has been over 10 years now. We're not married and don't plan on getting married. We've been together for so long that it doesn't feel like we're not married. We just refer to eachother as husband and wife, most people don't know the difference. We love our family the way it is. We both come from broken homes and figure if our relationship is find the way it is, why change it?