I'm just like my mother, please tell me its not true!

I have no doubt that I am an amalgam of them both. My mother was the disciplinarian - she had an evil way with a wooden spoon. Not for stirring puddings with either. Whilst my dad was the quiet considered one. Mum never said "wait until your father gets home". because he would have simply said, "don't do it again" and forgotten about it. If he did get upset, he simply said "I am very disappointed in you, you have let yourself down", and I was crushed. I have a fiery temper that very rarely sees the light of day, and if it does I regret it almost immediately. I am usually very placid and on the odd occasion that I have ever head to punish our daughter, I usually did so by trying to get her to understand what she had done wrong, and help her decide what sort of punishment she should receive. I have only once smacked her. I shall be forever ashamed of myself. I smacked her so hard I left a hand print. She cried, but so did I. I seem to have dwelt on punishment here. But I do find myself developing other traits that are recognisable. My wife often says "Stop talking like your mother". So I must be turning into her. My jokes are awful enough to have come from my dad though.

I don't think i am like my mother too..its just different on certain area.Not much of similarities;but others may tend to judge that way because im the only daughter.Her behaviour and mine are somewhat fine;as in good ones!hehe... My attitude is absolutely different,sometimes we are at a different taste;she do understand me as a mother.

I am becoming much more like my mother as I age, but I don't think that's such a bad thing. My mum has always been a really strong person, but when I was younger, I was always more worried about what people thought of me, so I often didn't stand my ground, or go after the things I wanted. Now, I've realised that as long as I'm not hurting anyone, I need to do what makes me happy, and not what everyone else thinks I should be doing. I'm also actually beginning to look more like my mum now as well. When I was younger, I didn't really take after anyone in my family, but now I can really see my mother in me.

"Mirror, mirror on the wall...I am my mother after all!" Yes, I am alot like my mother, and to be very frank that is not a very healthy thing. Due to certain circumstances over the past year, it became very apparent to me exactly how much I am like her and exactly how much her behavior hurts not only herself, but those around her as well. So, after that mini epiphany of sorts, I am trying very hard to change those hurtful and negative traits.

I sure do lol! i swore down i would never end up like my mother and yet now i see myself turning into her slowly but surely lol! i think its because i have children of my own now and i see her point of view.

Yup I say a lot of things my mum does and having my own children now I totally understand why she said them! im real proud to be just like my mum, she was a fantastic mum to me!

I do that myself. I am a lot like my mother. I even look like my mom the older I have gotten. I also do and say things like her alot.

Yes I remember this very well, and I still say the same thing now, Oh I love my mum but I just still do not want to be like her. But sometimes I catch myself laughing and think to myself I sound like my mum, or I say something to the kids and think oh no that is what my mum used to say to me. Sometimes, and this is even scarier, I look in the mirror and see my dad looking back at me, eeek!!

I think we have all been there a few times. I remember several times when my son was little that I did like my mom, don't ask me why just do as you're told and then I hated myself as that was just what my mom would have said and when I was little that really teed me off.So then I made a conscious effort to try to explain why I wanted my son to do a certain thing and that worked so much better. Also my mom had a habit of cooking vegetables with a ton of water and cooking them too long and I find myself doing that and the kitchen police ie my son tells me in a most vehement tone you are cooking all the vitamins out of your veggies. Just like my grandma used to do. so now I really do know better and I add just a little water or better yet I cook them in my new microwave. that is even better.

You know Kbourgerie, I was just musing over the same thing one day last week as I was doing some chore or the other. I couldnt help but smile when I saw your discussion. I am not like my mom. Our characters are quite different. My thoughts stemmed more from growing to resemble ones parent as the years go by. A boyfriend once told me that if you want to know what a girl will look like when she grows older you just take a look at her mother. Of course it is not always so but that got me to thinking of things we swore never do but end up doing. I never want to get fat. I'll never say this and I'll never say that but then oneday you hear the words of your mother and you look around only to find that the words came from your own lips. Or you walk down the road and come across an old friend who blurts out how much you are the stark image of your mother when she was your age. Goes to show just how much this life is a cycle. Ah ah. (lol)

Oh yes, I remember thinking that and as you get older not only do I sound more and more like her but I am looking more and more like her too! Some of family whom I hadn't met until I was in my early 20s said I acted just like my Dad, had certain mannerisms but on the whole I looked and acted like mum (thank goodness!). She was really beautiful when she was younger - I certainly missed out on that score (not kidding!) but at least I didn't get Dad's nose - that was a hooter and a half! It is funny how we all take after our parents and begin to act and sound more like them as we get older. I can certainly see it with my BF - he is looking and acting more like his own father every year!

Cant say I remember ever saying that. I wished I could be just like my mother! I am so much like her in every way possiable! I love her and wish we were able to spend more time together as we live 4 hours apart. She's given me parenting advice, relationship advice. I hope I am the same kind of mother she is to me, and be the same to my 3 young children! She's the Bestest mom you could ask for. ;)

i love my mom,..there are only some traits about her that i don't like to emulate now that i'm also a mother. sometimes she's paranoid about some things that bother her to the point of freaking out and becoming irrational over them.She's also a very OC (obsessive-compulsive) type of person, like when she does things around the house such as cleaning or arranging furnitures, there's always a pattern and she doesn't want that pattern to be changed else she'll freak out. But after introspecting, i also found myself sometimes behaving like her in such a way that i feel also i'm a paranoid when i feel jealous with my husband's co-officemates or even old batchmates in college even though there's no valid reason form me to feel that way.. or when it comes to what i want things be done my way at home or at work, i feel i'm being OC too.. I believe the more a person keeps on telling himself/herself not to be like his/her dad/mom, the more he/she compels to becoming like them.. So better not think about it and just go on with life as normal as possible...

Apparently I have turned out very much like my Mum. When I answer the phone I sound just like her too. It's not a bad thing, she was, and still is a very good Mum. Whilst I don't have kids at the moment, I'm sure that I will seek her advice and do many of the things that she did in bringing up me and my brother. I think it is because we have remained fairly close since I got married and moved away. We telephone and email each other a lot, and we have a lot of the same interests. Now that I have "grown up" we have become friends. I feel sorry for people who are not friends with their mothers. It is a shame to miss out on someone who could be your best friend in so many ways.

I remember as a kid saying I would never be like my mom too. Now I am a lot like my Mom and I love every bit of it. My mom is a great person and like everyone has her faults but I would be proud if I was the person she is someday.

I agree entirely ! My Mother , and especially her Mother ruled with an Iron fist. I've always said ( growing up ) I didn't want to be anything like that to my kids. That....they would be allowed to stay out past 10:00 especially if they're over 21. Aggggh!!!!!! Too many memories !!!!!!!!! Anyhow...I find myself Obsessing over issues of safety ( mainly ) I expect something to go wrong in every situation , if I'm not there to make sure it's safe for my 5 year old. Safety is first and foremost in my mind at all times , I ( still ) use the Back burners on the Oven to do all of my cooking , I've done it for so long ( to insure my Child couldn't possibly get Burned ) That I can't use the Front Burners , because that just Feels wrong. I know....that's pretty kooky....But hey....I'm special that way.

I always love the way my mom and dad raise me! I personally didn't try this but I believe we always have the way how they are since we grew up with them, intentionally or not we have their influenced!

Actually,I didn't find out that I grown up to be another my mother,but just yesterday,I saw my friend and her mother, I must admit that they are almost the same,not only in appearance, but the way they act or say something. So, I guess I must be like my mother to some extent from others' view.

Yep Yep yep Kbourgerie I'm guilty of them all and yes i also look like my Mother, so I knew it was bound to happen LOL..now that i'm older and she's much older i'm very careful to make sure i keep in touch with her and let her know How much i love her!

whats wrong about being like your mother (or father). you can recognise it and acknowlege it and it may not be all that bad. i think in the end of the day we all have a choice. it is probably some sort of anger that is fueling such a dislike of being 'just like her' ; as a parent i can say one thing. i did not realise to what extend kids can be ungrateful and unforgiving. this i did not see before i had kids and was blaming all sorts on my parents and especially my mums responses to life. loosen up...