how do i help my Friend......

i think it is a cretical problem. it is so tuff to handle the situation. my sugetion is to give ur friend much more time. and u tell the metter to all of ur friends to give him more compeny. and never open any discussion about that girl. my other sugesion is to go some other place with some friends for few days and doing fun. i think it will be the medicine of his mind.

how old is your friend and how old is the girl? I guess i'd need t o know that before giving you any kind of answer.

i have never encountered such a problem, nor with my friends. I guess you should be talking with your friend's GF too as she can help you to convince her parents about their relationship. By the way, How old are they? Are they too young to get married that's why their parents does not approve of their relationship? are they of different religion? race? what is it really special about them that their parents doesnt want them to end up married? If you have all these information, i believe that is where we can start tackling how you can help your friend so they can get back together - the thing is, is the Girl willing to help and has not given up yet?? it may be hard convincing the parents and for you to meddle with their affairs is a bit uncalled for.. most especially if you are not really close with her family. Worse case is, you will need to convince your friend to just forget about her totally. So here's what you can do... bring your friend out - even if you have to drag him out of the door... do that! bring friends along too... or stay with him and rent movies with your friends. make him see their is more to life than this woman. do not let him meet new girls as this will / might actually make him remember her more. just let his mind cool off first.

Ok, Melovean... I see this type of discussion so often in Mylot, where culture stands in the way of true love. Being of a Western Culture, I'm not sure how to advise you. This is a family thing in your country I think... a matter of honour and family agreements. I can give you an opinion which differs to your culture's beliefs, and which I don't want to do. However, I do feel sad for your friend and his girlfriend, that they are so in love, yet are unable to marry because of decisions the parents have taken. I'm loathe to say too much, for fear that I will be encroaching upon these beliefs. So, all I can say is that perhaps you ought to encourage your friend to meditate or something, to find his inner self, cast out the negatives and move on with his life? There's nothing he can do if he decision has been made, and I believe that all things happen for a reason. So, this relationship was fated from the beginning... never meant to be, but somewhere down the road of life, there is somebody special just waiting for him. Tell him to walk with pride and dignity towards her, for she will fulfill his every dream, in a way that the other girl couldn't. Brightest Blessings and good luck with this. You friend should not waste his life grieving over something, or someone who was never meant to be his.

It would be great if I know why the parent creat problem and how they see your friend. How he dress up, how he behave and how he treat her girlfriend will sometimes influence the parent thinking. May be the parent dosen't like his job. Well, parent is always worried about their girl's life. What ever it was he have accept the fact. Tell him not ruin his life because of a girl. There's a lot more girls that much batter and more beautiful than the girl.

I never came through such problem,but i think i have friends that practically have the same problem as your friend.First of all, ineed to ask you a few queations.How old is your friend's girlfriend? Do your best friend has a stable job? I think most probably the parents of the girl didn't want her to marry to some not sucessful yet guy! So you need to told your friend never give up....if he is still studying,tell him to study harder so that he can impress the girl's parents by having a promising future!Or if your friend is working now...told him to work harder and make more money to show the girl's parents that you are able to feed her,keep her happy! I hope this is what you need!

There's nothing you can do about his feeling but you can be with your friend. At least guide or check him every now and then so he won't feel alone and left by someone. Help him clear his mind by talking to him of good things, if possible not about the relationship. And if you notice that his mind is cool, talk to him about something he wanted to do that would make him happy and would let him totally move on. If he really wanted to have the girl, help him wait in time. Don't rush things with the girl's parents. Maybe in time, they would understand. Make things cool for a little while and have both of them talk and probably later on, talk with the girl's parents.

i think its a really tough situation. in this case ending life is no solution. it never can be. make him understand that the girl should have come forward to oppose to her parents if he really loved him.Also may be there someone better waiting for him.

hm, maybe the girls parents did not find your friend to be a suitable match for their daughter.does your friend have any bad habits??? Anyways all said and done the realationship is off.Try to engage your friend into something more constructive.He will come over but it will take time.Maybe he can take a break and have a holiday.Time is the biggest healer.If nothing works try praying for him.

i clearly understand what your friend is going through. i do feel bad for him but all i could suggest he does is make up his mind very strongly. he cannot have the cake and the icing. if he loves the girl so much that he wants to end his life, then he should be with her and fight the battle with his family, make them understand of how lovely the personis and there is nothing wrong with her. If he cannot do that then he does not love her as much as he says he does. there is no one who can really help him but himself. he has to help himself and the start would be to make a strong choice and live with it.all the best dear.hope you make the right decision

Love is blind. Just ask him: You love who? Do you love your family? Do you love your friends? Or just love his girl friend? If the answer is his girl friend, he will not know what is love? Then you cannot help him anymore!

Any time someone talks about taking their own life they need help. It is not normal and should be watched very closely. You never know if they mean it but it's better to intervene now while you can. You will never know the guilt of ignoring a cry for help.