What do you think about men with many wives?
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
April 8, 2008 6:12am CST
After seeing the news of the Polygamist.. I want to know your opinion of men taking many wives..even taking 2 wives?
Do you think women can feel loved equally by one man? Don't you think that the love would be less for all but one..One would be the center of attention and the rest ..lesser loves???
Isnt there enough women in the world??
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@kezabelle (2974)
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8 Apr 08
Personally for me no I would no happily share my man with anyone else, for me love is between two people and you shouldnt bring a third person into that, however thats my view and probably came about because of how I was brought up its how my parents think etc.
Maybe in a country where its more common it would be easier to have a more flexiable view on it, but for me no not a chance I dont think you can ever love two people exactly the same there are different types of love it doesnt make them any less real but some are and can be stronger than others so it could get painful for one party or the other.
My man is so supportive and cares for me and our children 100% he gives everything he can to us, and i dont mean materialy) I couldnt imagine him being able to do the same for two wives and two sets of children.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Apr 08
That is a beautiful and wholesome take on relationships and I too believe that is the way it should be...Society, media, television as a whole promotes promiscuity and doesnt promote fidelity.
What makes the headlines is celebrity remarriage.. What makes the movies is soap operas where everyone is jumping in bed with everyone..
So to stand up against the acceptable is commendable..Keep on being faithful. and please God your amrriage will be forever.
@virtual44 (26)
• United States
8 Apr 08
kezabelle,
I completely agree with you. There is just no way someone could split themselves emotionally between 2 or more sets of wives and children. It is difficult enough splitting oneself between work and family, let alone more than one wife. Someone in a relationship like that would definitely be suffering emotionally.
@kezabelle (2974)
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8 Apr 08
I mean if you read my other post on another thread, it does explain how my partner cheated on me once, I knew quite soon that something was not right because he was distant from me emotionally he could not be there 100% because his mind was often elsewhere. As soon as I had proof I got him to end it quickly and we are happier than ever I know how heart broken I was then so to share him every day no I couldnt do that maybe im selfish but I love him I dont want to share him with anyone else certainly not another wife who would take his mind from us and our children and i dont believe his mind should be elsewhere apart from the usual of work and friends and family the rest should be about us and I know that does come across as selfish but its just how i feel a relationship should be. If you love someone you should put your heart and soul into it not just half of it.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Apr 08
"Do you think women can feel loved equally by one man?"
Absolutely...I am a woman with two men (only married to one of them though) and I love them both the same amount...My love for them is for different reasons and somewhat in different ways for lack of a better way of putting it but I love them both the same amount, i cherish both of them the same and so on...
Now when it comes to Polygamy and you get into a man with 10-20 wives then I could see it being an issue or rather favouritism coming into play maybe..Even with 5 wives I could see it..
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Apr 08
So Raven..is the second man a member of your family? If so I can see this..but I myself cannot see someone who would not allow her husband to cheat to allow herself to be the object of love of another man..
As long as the second many is a member of your family..I can see how you cherish both equally..if not ..I think you are doing what you wouldn't want your husband to do.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Apr 08
A member of my family meaning a relative of mine?? Not quite sure what you mean by that..I have my husband and my bf...As for my husband cheating..who he sleeps wiht isnt important to me...He's free to bed down with whomever he wants just not in our home (my kids live here) and not behind my back..
@smacksman (6053)
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8 Apr 08
Well the wishy washy girlie magazine type of 'love' may be a problem here but then many women around the globe do not expect that.
Ok, nice if you can get it but really not expected.
What they really do want is to be looked after and supported and protected. For them and for their children.
In an environment where women do all the work in the house and in the fields, an extra pair of hands is welcomed, especially if you are getting on a bit and those extra hands belong to a young fit girl capable of a lot of hard labour.
Most people in the First World really have no idea what it is really like to live in the Third World.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Well this is happening in Amerca..which is not a third world.. I know in some countries Polygamy is the norm or acceptable..women are brought up to believe they will become be one of many wives a man has..but that is because of the lower esteem for women..where they are seen as property..an item of trade..
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Apr 08
What they really do want is to be looked after and supported and protected
I dunno...maybe back in the day it was what most women wanted but for me personally..thats not the case at all..I am very capable of taking care of myself, my kids and so on..I dont need someone to "look after, support or protect me" and actually I dont welcome that sort of attitude in all honesty..I'm female, not incompetant *sp* ya know...BUT that mindset has a great deal to do with the course my life took too.I mean I've been on my own completely since I was 13 yrs old so thats a factor..Even so though, I know several women who arent looking for those things..they just want to be loved and respected ya know...
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
Hi littlefranciscan! I never liked the idea of men having two wives or more. This is just my personal belief that any person should only be faithful to one person he or she has a commitment with. I don't even think that when a man have two wives or more, there will be love equally divided between all of them that is why if you will interview these wives, surely there is some form of jealousy and insecurity arising within their hearts. However, there are some religion which permit these as long as the men are financially equipped. Nevertheless, I really wouldn't want to be one of the wives of a polygamist. hehe..I will be surely turning green all the time. LOL! Just my thoughts dear! Take care and have a nice day! :)
