My poor friend can't find a girl friend

okay well my dad is a eletric engenier and he does computer programing and stuff and hes a pimp. maybe its just your friend. i don't know him or anything and i don't know why he would be shy because really thats the biggest turn off to me is when a guy is shy because i feel like they're not confident and i would never want to be with a guy who wasn't confident in himself so it sounds to me like that is his biggest downfall because a job doesn't describe really what kind of person you are to be a computer programmer you do have to be fairly intelegent but that doesn't mean your a geek. its kind of funny because if you watch movies or see old general stero types smart people are always really neardy but in high school and in college i'm in all the advanced classes and there will be like one or two nerd and the rest are generally so called "popular" people

i dont think it has to do with the job of your friend. i agree with you there are a lot of computer programmers who are attractive. they are wonderful workers and is always intelligent and logical. I think the problem is with your friend. he said so himself that he is shy... He is not a geek, he only thinks of himself as one because he is the outgoing type... he should really try to join some owrk activities and prove them wrong by trying to be friendly. He must be proud of his work, and not be shy anymore. No one is born shy... and if he was.. i guess he wouldn't be crying for milk as a baby cause he is shy to ask for a milk when he was hungry. hehe :D

i think he is too shy. he must come out of that shell. its good to be prudent but to need to get a gf, h should express himself also let him attract them.

I have many friends who are also computer programmer and in our office way back in my beloved country, they are the one who makes the group laugh a lot!They are very funny and very silly should I say..I miss them! but among of like 5 guys, we have this that is very silent type but he manage to find a girlfriend, one of the nurses in our office who has opposite attitude b/c the girl is very talkative! maybe your friend just need to make friends to all the girl, you know he needs to overcome his shyness and there are several ways to do that.He will join any sports that will enhance his attitude and will meet him socialize with different people! if he is willing to do so, there are many ways to do it!

i think he just dont yet see the right girl for him. i also know a man who have only 1 girlfriend in his life, they will be married next month. his wife to be is his first and last girlfriend.

a computer programmer does not make an individual geeky. (heck, i'll go out with one.) i really need to have some idea as to how to fix my computer when bugs attack. he has no girlfriend probably because he is introvert (shy, dull and untalkative). once he gets pass this stage, he's good to go.

i don't think that it got to do with your friend's profession at all... there is nothing wrong with a computer programmer... i think it is a very respectable and smart job... your friend just need to open up his life a little bit for other people to enter and not reserve himself... also, think positively and be optimistic... once he can do that, i don't think there will be any problem at all for him to find a girlfriend...

well I would go out with a computer geek any day, he makes good money. tell your friend to look for somebody shy too, and start by just talking in the office, then ask her for coffee, and start slowly, there there are always online dating services like friendfinder that might help.

I don't think being a computer programmer has anything to do with finding a girlfriend. With regards to his shyness, it would depend on the culture in your country. If it's acceptable for women to make the first move and ask the guy out on a date, then he'll be okay. If it's taboo for the woman to make the move, then your friend has a serious problem. He needs to learn to go for it!

I don't think it has something to do with his job and I don't believe that computer programmers are geeks cos I have a friend who does computer designs but he has a lot of friends and has a girlfriend. Maybe your friend can step out of his shell and try to ask or join friends out and be more friendly. Stop being too shy, okay? LOL. Good luck!

My brother is a computer programmer but he is not a geek. My brother is cool and have his own wonderful family right now. I think you should advice your friend to be cool... How about the way he dress? Is he cool? I think better to make over him inorder him to look great. Cool dresses and in handling himself with enough confident will me more attractive to girls.

i dont think a computer programmer is a geek. It depends on the person. you cant say also a doctor is serious and silent, not easily being approachable. not all people got particular stamp from their jobs... it depends on the personality... just enjoy your life... doing many things, join sports or meet friends, maybe he can find one...

Nope I don't think computer programmers are geeks, just very intelligent, and like you said they have very cool jobs. Seems to me your friend just needs to get out more and socialize with more people especially woman even if as friends. He will learn how to interact more with them in an easier setting. I think work is a very bad place to meet woman lol that's my opinion.

it ok..if you friend, still don't have girl friend..you friend must dont give up..trust you self that love will come for you...pray for it...hehe

hi.. Well this situation somewhat relates to my life as well. I am a Software Engineer too. And i am without a girlfriend too. I m like your friend.. a little shy. Though my office doen't have that much quantity of hot and pretty girls but there are few. Well all are software engineers here. But talking about the general crowd. may be they take us for granted. Well i would be lucky if someone asks me for a date and it really pleased me when you said that you really like computer programmers. so y don't you go out on a date with your bf? You already have one? Anyway I don't think i have any advice for your friend when we both are sailing on the same boat.. But anyway .. never stop trying!!! Hey by the way. I have my pics there in my profile and i guess i am not that bad looking too.. What you say?

I think nowadays computer programmers are becoming more popular because everyone knows they can make a good salary and many others, like me, wish they could do it. The problem, more than likely, is his shy, untalkative nature. It makes women nervous when they're expected to carry the conversation all the time. I had a friend in Japan with a similar problem. What he did, was find something other than computer that he was really good at--in his case it was scuba diving. He joined a club and began spending all of his vacations going on scuba trips. He really enjoyed himself and ended up meeting a woman who also loved diving. They are now happily married.

the only advice i could give to your friend is to be himself just because he says he's shy doesn't mean he really is. think about it he has a friend that is a girl. how'd u end up being friends with him? maybe its the way he carries himself may be just needs some new clothing. it helps a person's confidence when they look attractive to themselves. i also have a friend like that he's not shy but he has a problem approaching girls that he doesn't know. maybe if he sees that there's nothing bad that could happen to him other than the girl saying no maybe that may stop him from being so shy.