Why are some people shy?

people become shy due to inferiority complex that was a result of different factors like nonacceptance, ridicule and abuse both physically, verbally or emotionally when the person was still young. although these are not always the case most cases of shyness can be trace to an abused person or to a person that has no good family history.

i think some people are shy because they dont know what to say like they're scared of what they might say , actually women thing im shy which im not i just dont say stupid crap just to impress women like other men do , sometimes it actually works cause they're kinda curious of my "shyness " and want to know more about me

My mum told me that she was shy when she was a child but as she got older she had more confidence. My sister was very shy when she was a child and she is less so these days. In her twenties she worked a temp, going to work for many different companies. This did her shyness wonders and her confidence grew. Her second son is very very shy and he has elective mutism. This means that he can't talk to his own teacher. He can speak to his parents, brother and two sisters. Sometimes he feels sad because he can't talk and he then displays non verbal communication. I am a parent of children that are not at all shy and I am a primary school teacher. Once I taught a boy of five years old with elective mutism and he didn't talk to me until six months in to the school year. He was so shy and sensitive. I believe that shyness is either int he genes or it isn't. I agree that positive experiences in life can help people that are shy.

i am very shy since i am a kid and i it's become my habit to keep distance from people specially strangers but when i studied college it was change little by little until i got work and designated as a supervisor of the whole operation. shy could no longer my habit because i learned to deal people without hesitation. even i am not shy anymore but i want to leave alone and isolate from people because i want privacy and no one will disturbed me. i prefer to stay at home with my computer rather than going outside.

I was shy when I was young. I think it came from having shy parents and a shy sister. When I grew up I realised how vulnerable I was, it is so easy for a bully or an aggressive person to pick on shy people. When I learned to be more sociable and confident, I was no longer shy and now I can easily talk to strangers and like to think I won't ever let anyone order me about or take advantage of my personality again.

yes well i am actually quiete shy also its like when meeting new people and doing new thing that im not use to thats what makes me even worser

I am not sure why some of the people are shy, especially if the rest of their family is outspoken. My mom is very outspoken and she is not shy at all in front of a crowd of people. My dad was very shy though. I am not sure why. I am very shy also and was picked on alot in school and even in my adult years. I think that is why I am still shy and pretty much still a loner now and get very nervous in crowdsof people.

I grew up very shy and always ask my mom to accompany me in the school to enroll me when I was in high school. I think its because in the environment I grew up, Its far from the city and not so many neighbors around us..I wasn't exposed to many people and trained not to joined any conversation with older people. I started to change when I started college in the city and joined several organizations that truly transformed me with good personality. We were attending so much workshops, seminars and any interpersonal relationship which help me boost my morale and develop self-confidence.It leads me to get employed in a prestigious company in our city after college! I was very thankful with those experience and without it, I don't know what life would be like for me~

Yes Dolce vita, I was very shy till I got into College. I was maybe as you say ridiculed too much by our relatives for not speaking proper malayalam, even though it was our mother tongue. I was born and brought up in chennai far away from our Native Place. So our malayalam was accented with Tamil. So whenever I went to our native place I was ridiculed and teased at by other relatives. Maybe that affected me or I don't know what else happened. I was very quiet and shy, never used to talk to strangers and only sometimes to known people. This happens in many people. After sometime they learnt to take care of themselves and to face others bravely without scare of ridicules. All the best

Yea... I think I am that type of people too, but that depends a little on who I am with or the situation lol. But I have being like this since I was really young or I mean since I can remember anything have being a shy girl.

i am a shy person too. it is maybe i dont want to encounter rejection. i dont want everyone to to snub me. when i was young i am not so exposed in different people, i just go to school and home... school and home. and theres nothing more.

I think shyness is down to how you are brought up. It might be in the genes as well but I am not sure how much I believe that at the moment.

the best thing about being shy is that you dont get on people's nerves

hi friend iam a shy person. according to me shyness is depending upon our own personality.

According to me, shyness is because of the brought-up and lack of opportunity to mingle with people. At least it cannot be innate (ie. inborn)!

Hi dolce_vita! All those reasons you have just mentioned, I completely agree. I used to be shy and very quiet. I was brought up to be prim and proper. However due to my businesses then, I couldn't afford to be shy either. I have outgrew that shyness but I am still the quiet girl I used to be but definitely not a snob. haha..Just my thoughts! Take care always and have a nice day! :)

i'm SUPER shy and i wish i wasn't because it really sucks. there are people who i've known for years who i still just can't be myself around that i am very shy around but i think i might have social anxiety.. I try and make myself a more "people person" and get out there but i just don't know how to talk to people. but i wasn't born this way.. i used to be a loud month kid and wasn't shy at all really... i started getting shy in middle school and from there it just kept getting worse off until it turned into social anxiety. at least thats what i think.

i think that people who r shy...they r the one who r very consious to themselves.. they want people to look up for them, them want that no faults r present from them..its kinda like that..

there are lots of reasons why people are shy. and some depend on how a person act. it really depends on the person. each and everyone of us are shy to different things. shy = fear to embarassment

I think people are shy because of the lack of confidence and the unwanted things prevailing in their minds. The way to think and analysing the people can be the another reason for that.sometimes we dont find them comfortable with thye unknown people.