Jealous Creatures?

I agree for the most part, but I think that women do tend to be more jealous of other women than men are of other men, because we are taught to be that way by our peers and by society. You may be right that it goes back to insecurity, but in some cases I think it derives from a overdeveloped sense of entitlement.

Nope, not me. I'm perfect. Women are jealous of me. It's always been that way.*sigh*

That is a very sexist statement. I think humans in general are jealous creatures by nature. How many wars were started out of jealousy? Or pride? This kind of thing really ruffles my feathers. You cant say one group of people is all this or that. Nothing in this world is so absolute and universal.

I have a lot of jealousy issues, and you're right, they DO stem from my own insecurities. I have been burned so many times, over and over again, from my ex husband, and it did quite a number on my self esteem. So many times he cheated, and lied about it, and I believed what he told me because I so desperately wanted to believe him. Even simple things like him saying he was going out with his buddy guy friend for a coffee. I really don't know if that's what happened half of the time. I caught him doing so many things when he said he was going to be doing something else, and I found so much proof of his affairs in emails and phone records, etc. And yet he would continue to deny he was doing any wrong. He totally "gaslighted" me, and I was at the point where I believed him that I was going crazy. There are certain situations that I've found myself in, that seem to trigger those feelings I had from when I was with my ex (whom I call nuckfuts). I have to make the conscious decision to believe what I am being told, because I have no reason to NOT believe what I am being told (unlike with nuckfuts). And it is a struggle most of the time. I don't share my insecurities with the men I've been triggered by, because it's my issue, not theirs (but they do know of my past with nuckfuts, and often they went through similar issues with an ex too). So those are my main reasons for having jealous tendencies. However, since I also happen to be a Scorpio, I tend to blame my sign as well. It helps me to deal with the situation more rationally (in my mind anyways).

I agree, I don't think that jealousy has a gender. I think it's an equal opportunity misery. And it is a miserable thing, it's awful. My grandma told me when I was getting married for the first time to not allow any jealousy in my marriage, for it would surely kill it. It did her own. And I've been jealous before, and hated it! I've still got one of those jealous bones in my body, but it rarely raises its ugly little head,thank goodness. I've grown so much more secure within myself over the years, it just doesn't play a part anymore. And my husband has never been jealous, which is a godsend, 'cause I'm an outrageous flirt, online, offline, in my dreams, anywhere and everywhere, with men, with women, with everyone. So a lot of heartache has been saved! We never would have lasted if he had been jealous. And if someone does suffer from it, it's a very, very hard thing to get over, which is part of why I call it a misery. It takes more work than most people would be willing to do, I think. So I'm so glad that my own has receded into the far background of my life and I don't expect that I will be seeing it again any time soon.

Jealousy has no gender, race, or creed. Its a reaction to events that a person has either experienced first hand or witnessed through others. I think it can also be an effect of always getting your way, or being "spoiled". I tend to be pretty insecure, but not really jealous, does that make sense? I've never thought very highly of myself, therefore never really thought I deserved to be any one's top priority. If I got cheated on, I assumed it was my own fault. If I got hurt, I assumed I caused or allowed it in some way. I am working on this weakness, and grow a little bit each day. In my current relationship, I have had to fight off jealousy. Partly because, in the beginning I was given reason to, but partly because it's the first time in my life I don't want to loose it. Part of the jealousy has to do with past relationships, and part of it is due to the beginning of this one. But another part is left to my insecurities, thinking in the back of my head he will eventually find someone better than me. I DO NOT however, react or act upon this jealousy. I kick it in the butt when it rears its ugly head. I look at my loving fiancee and all he has sacrificed to be with me. I look at the attention he gives me and all the times he has protected me. And I remind myself how much he adores me. Then I go to him!

I agree. I don't think that women are jealous by nature any more than men are. It indeed stems from insecurities and if you are a person who wants to have a healthy marriage/relationship, you need to work out your insecurities and move on from them. It doesn't matter what happened on our past, the person you're with now had NOTHING to do with it. My husband and I have complete trust in each other and there's no jealousy anywhere. I was married before to a VERY abusive man who I know cheated on me. Even then, I wasn't jealous. I wanted to know who she/they were so I could tell them/her that he was a lying snake who would treat them shabbily too, but hey, he was all theirs if they really wanted him. He probably lied to them to get what he wanted anyway. A very wise man once said"love like you've never been hurt". It's very true. My hubby and I were a couple before we got back in touch and got married and it ended badly. If we hadn't been able to cut the past loose, we wouldn't be happily married today. I love my man with ALL my heart. So, I think if you're secure in yourself, there won't be jealousy in the relationship.

my response is "dont give me reason to be jealous" i hardly ever get jealous but if i do its because my husband will give me a reason to feel insecure.he is very respectful and always honest with me so this is usually not an issue.

Jealous?... Oh..no.. I don't care with who and what other people do. For what? It not my business. Not every women have the same charactor. There's no jealousy in my life. Deep in my heart, I don't need to.

There is a reason for this stereotype, and it's very simple. Women will speak their mind about jealousy. They will discuss it, rationalize it, and protect themselves from future harm by confronting it right off the bat. Men, through years of arrogance and social pressure, repress nearly all emotions. This includes jealousy. It is not that we don't experience it, it's just most of us will put it on a shelf to ferment until it poisons our minds and makes us explode over something completely different. Why? Because we're MANLY men. Pfft! No emotion is gender specific, it's the expression of it based on social acceptance that becomes gender based.