Not invited to a close friend's wedding...

No, it hasn't happened to me, but I think you've been used by these friends. I mean, how mean is that, telling you all about the wedding, her dress and everything and then not inviting you. Not to mention the one who borrowed money and didn't repay it for months. If a really close friend of mine gets married, I usually get an invite to at least, the reception, and I think if you're quite close friends with these people, their manners need to be kept in check! Brightest Blessings.

I was not invited to my supposed best friends wedding shortly after high school because her parents didn't approve of me..lol Oh well also her husband did not approve of any of her friends that were not in college..."sigh" Then my other real best friend's brother who is like family to me and has known me since he was 12 got married. Because of a stupid grudge he holds still to this day but won't admit it... I wasn't invited to his wedding.. and he actually made a point of telling his sister I wasn't invited...lol It's funny to me that he was so upset by what had happened, but to this day we aren't very close. I am very close to both his sisters and his brother. So obviously you are not alone;... we should form club.... Blessed be, Mari

Perhaps I can understand you not being invited to the first two weddings. It could have been that numbers were limited & the cost high. I have been married twice & always had to restrict the number of people I invited due to the cost. As for the male friend, he sounds like a bit of a user. Fancy borrowing money from you, but not inviting you. I dont think it is because of you, I think he is a user. Do you think that people are taking you for granted, because you are nice & easy to get along with?

Borrowing money and then not inviting you is a new one to me. That is nervy, but eventually he paid you, so that is good. I would rather eventually get paid than be invited to the wedding and then never paid, but it shouldn't have to be a choice. You know something? I hate to go to weddings. Really I do, and have pretty much decided not to go to any more no matter whose they are. I just do not like all that getting dressed up stuff any more. Maybe a casual seaside wedding where everyone wears beach attire. I can think of several weddings I wished I hadn't been invited to, lol. I hope you didn't feel too bad.

I actually did that to friend of ours for our wedding. It was completely unintentional. I honestly don't know what happened, I don't know if we forgot about him when making out the list, or if I missed sending the invitation to him, or if it got lost in the mail. I remember asking about him at the reception, and another friend said, "You guys didn't invite him." I couldn't believe it. I was wondering why nobody had said anything. The next time we saw him we apologized profusely. He joked it off, but I could tell he was hurt, we got married 18 years ago, and he still brings it up every time we see him. Talk about feeling bad.

Unless it was a family only wedding, then obviously they don't value you as much as you value them. I would be mega pissed, but pleased that I can not revalue my friendship with them.

i had never experienced that before... i think they are not real friends... they are making use of you... a real friend especially close friend would not do these... i know how hurt you will be... i'm sorry that you have to experience this with your close friends...

it has happened to me many times. it seems they just did not invite me as they did not want to make he sopending more. i felt very bad about it. but what can be done, i felt bad. i have decided will not invie them either at any occassion at my home

Oh I am sorry to hear that but maybe they just thought you'd show up at their wedding since you already know about the 2 weddings...If this were your real friends they wouldn't forget to invite you but if they are your real friends and you know how each of you feel, maybe they really thought you would just show up. Nothing similar like this happened to me. I wasn't invited to my niece wedding who was my playmate when I was young but it's ok I know she is very busy and she really did forget about me since we haven't seen each other for years. We are just recently communicating though I sent her an email and she responded and it's cool to hear back from her. Saying I'm her favorite playmate...I guess if this happened to me..I would be hurt ofcourse but I would just set it aside and maybe not be that close to them if and only if I felt they meant to not invite me at all.

Please don't feel bad about it. Sometimes they have some reasons to do so. Perhaps the guests are too many and it's hard to have more because of the budget. But as to your case, I think he should invite you as you lent money to him. I am afraid whether he feels embarrassed to see you as he may not return the money in a short time.

Hello aseretdd, Oh, it is really bad! I don't really understand why your three friends did it. Okay, the first might have a good reason - she couldn't find you. The third friend too, has a good reason - maybe he feels ashamed that he borrowed money from you and he really hope by not inviting you, the secret won't reveal! But the most amazing is your second friend. How could she told you all the details and still, forgot to invite you? Luckily, it never happens to me. Most of my friends invited me for their wedding, the problem is with me. I hardly have time to attend the wedding of my childhood friends or ex-school mates!

something similar. I was invited to be maid of honor but my friend chose a dress for me that I could not begin to afford and so I asked her to pick someone else and just ask me to your wedding as a guest.she was miffed and no invitation ever came altho we were best friends and co workers . I finally got over it and went to her bridal shower and we renewed our friendship; but it was never quite the same afterwards between us.

Yes it has!! I had an old friend who told me all about her upcoming nuptials and then did not invite me. I thought it was really strange! If she could not invite me for whatever reason then I felt she should just state the reason. Instead she blabbed on about the wedding and never even mentioned the elephant in the room. Me not being invited!

nothing like that has happened. I would be hard to handle...i was though invited to a wedding at the last moment but she had some cancelations and i'm not as close as everyone else, but still good friends

I can understand if I wasn't invited to a wedding because they couldn't afford to have everyone come (happens a lot in our family) but to be asked for money for a wedding and then not get invited? I think that is just not on. I don't think I would of given it if I knew it was for his wedding.

It is so sad to know. I know also someone who got hurt when her long time friend did not invited her on her wedding. It is really hurting, I saw it in her. And i felt it for her.

i guess those people didn't considered you as their close friends. they're only just using you for their own sake

Recently my ex girlfriend whom is the mother of my 12 year old son got married. The guy she married is great, they have 3 kids of their own now too. He is great with their kids, and mine as well. I'm not one for weddings, but I gotta say I was upset that I was not invited I mean we are still pretty close and there are no problems between her and I, or him and I. Like I said I'm not one for weddings but in that case I really wanted to be there. I just took it as it was a day all about the future and well I was a thing of the past. XD

I like weddings to. I even caught the garter off of a bride at one wedding. I never experienced not being invited to a wedding of one of my friends, I know that probably hurt your feelings.

Im not here to justify for their mistakes or whatever you take it to be, but my understanding has given me three different opinions about all the three people. 1) You cannot even blame her for not inviting cos she could not contact you. It's an unfortunate coincidence that you had to turn up at her doorstep when she was getting married. Well she should have been very happy to see you. 2) She must have directly assumed that you are invited to the wedding, since you helped her with her wedding stuff. It usually happens that when we are with friends who have great plans for a party or so, and take our help for organizing, automatically think that, we have assumed to be invited. Well Its on their part to officially invite, even if their friends were with them till the last moment of organising. 3) This guy must have been ashamed with himself, for not repaying you, the money he borrowed and promised to return it in a few days time. He must have thought that you would ask him got the money on the wedding day, making him look bad. And didn't want to invite you. To be on the safe side. I have never been in such kinda situations, although I do not like to go to weddings. Some of my friends have conveniently forgotten to invite me to parties, and I wouldn't bother about them cos that would lead to misunderstandings between them. bourne