How do I get through to my husband?

Get your facts straight. You got married in 2001. Please inform the readers how many times you have been married and how many men you have gone through in your life (just to add a little perspective). Do you think the fact that you are a serial adulter should also be mentioned. You have also shown your daughter how to become a serial adulter. What about the fact that you psychologically abuse everyone that comes within arms length. You are on medication because your brain box is not quite right. How about you work on some of your own 'MINOR' flaws instead of laying the boots into other people all the time.

You know there is a book out called "The proper care and feeding of husbands" The author states that if you want more of a response from your husband your duty to him is to take acre of the children, cook him dinner every night and give him his pleasure. Now it's a bit extreme for my taste but it might help you. When a man is completly happy and satisified he wants his woman to be the same. Or at least a good man feels that way. So if those tactics do not work for you, then it might be time to cut the apron strings. So to speak. When a man is geniunely in love I believe he will want to help to a certian extent. You might need to do a little training, with rewards for good behavior. But if he is just a gigantic leach of your time and money why put up with it? You sound like a smart well rounded woman, i'm sure there is better love out there for you if he doesn't put in an effort to fix the relationship.

While finding a job at 65 is a difficult challenge everyone has to pull their own weight one way or another. For some reason, men get used to having their wife or g/f wait on them and do things for them. It's like they don't see any point in doing things for themselves. Hubby is like that sometimes. Not all the time but sometimes. I have went out for the day and he will not eat all day b/c I'm not here to fix it for him. He knows where the fridge is, the food is and can throw together a sandwich or something, yet he won't. The only thing I can suggest is to cut back on the things you do so he has to do somethings for himself. As for the money situation, I'd buy the nessecities and then tell him if he wants other things then he'll have pay for them. Hubby and I share all the money whether it is his or mine. Good luck with it. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

You really need to show him how much it would mean to you if he started helping out around the house more. Have a good heart to heart chat with him. If he is the type of person to interupt you, then write him a letter. This way you can tell him exactly how you feel without being too scared to say something important, and without being interupted. Ask him if he loves you, and if he cares for you. If he says yes, ask him what he does to show it. Then explain to him that he could show his love for you by helping out with chores and saving money that comes his way. Make sure you get his side of the story. Try not to tell him he is wrong, as that usually makes people become defensive. Just make suggestions to him. The best way to get somebody to do something, is to make them want to do it. I know it sounds difficult, but just propose the idea in a way that interests him. Let him know how he will benifit from helping out, not just how you will benifit. You need to work with him, not against him. I hope I was able to help you out. Good luck with your marriage. Best Wishes!