How does rude comments/responses and sensitive discussions affect you?

I have noticed a couple of things here at Mylot. One is that some people must live in a world where their word is law. They know they are right about everything. The problem for them is when someone here challenges their statements. In their world that is not done and therefore offence is taken where none is intended. They reply in an aggressive manner which puts my back up straight away! haha The other thing is their command of the english language. It is wonderful to have members from all over the world giving their views and that is one of the attractions of Mylot to me. But they are sometimes amiss in their choice of words which may give the wrong impression. Unwittingly they may cause offence. Look upon your experience as character forming! haha It will toughen up your skin ready for future debates! And don't worry about deletions and star rating - they really mean nothing in the full scale of things. You are bigger than that I'm sure.

As much as possible, I do my best not to be affected by it. If they look at such things the wrong way, then it could be because they are too shallow-minded. In my case, I avoid such discussions or topics like that. I'd rather look and search for good discussions, than join in that negative thread. And as for my ratings, I could care less much about it.

I made the mistake of responding to a political discussion and eventually getting into a conflict with someone else who apparently had equally strong feelings in the opposite direction. It is difficult to not get emotional when people make statements that really insult you. There have been a couple of other subjects too that cost me some points, but it all came back eventually. Now I avoid politics and related subjects entirely just so some people don't get argumentative and "negative" happy to seal their point. It's just not worth the frustration. I have only rated two responses negative - ever. I wish people would not hit the minus button just to make their views on any subject the "winner" instead of just voicing their opinion in comments.

In life you have to take the rough with the smooth. Take the good with the bad...... So if you are posting a topic then you have to expect people to have different views/opinions than you. I personally don't take much notice of the negative side of things, after all we dont know each other so our views/comments to others here on Mylot dont really mean much in the real world.

Ya the same thing happened to me when I put the discussion "Should I continue with my girlfriend".. Many had different opinions.. As different countries have different cultures,, one lady from U.S. commented on others response that she would have smacked me down regarding to issues happened between me and my girlfriend.. I was very annoyed with it.

They dont really bother me to be honest I will say what I think that can offend but its my opinion and im entitled to it same as everyone else, with some many people you are bound to disagree at times, what I dont like is when it gets nasty over a simple disagreement over an opinion in my eyes there is no need for that. You can say what you need to without being rude personally I feel you only use rude or abusive words when you have run out of anything decent to say and in that respect I think keeping quiet is the best option!

If i stumbled upon a sensitive/inappropriate discussion i'd just stop reading and look for a different discussion, i wouldn't even post. There's no point getting into an argument and to be honest it's not worth letting it upset you. If anyone posts rude comments/responses to my discussions i generally just leave them to it, again i'm not going to get drawn in to arguments and such like, and i'm not going to sink to their level or raise to the bait. Best to just ignore them i think.

I am sometimes surprised by just how sensitive I can be when someone attacks me here at myLot. Here we are, words on a screen from people who really don't know us personally and yet can affect our emotions in such a way. It has never caused me to leave myLot and I don't apologize for my comments if they weren't hurting anyone as it was simply my opinion. After all that is what myLot is about discussion and view points. I personally don't feel it is right to criticize someone for their view point. You can question them on it but not condemn them. If someone condemns you then they should apologize not you. Do you agree? Doesn't mean our opinions will stay the same and it doesn't mean they won't as we learn and grow but they are ours for now and condemning someone for their views is simply not right and is an absolute waste of the privilege to speak.

I have had received rude comments and responses but I just ignore them. For as long as they do not cross my line, I just ignore them. I also have had stumbled upon sensitive or inappropriate discussions. What I do is to think about the topic at hand. If I really have something to say about it then I would respond but if I don't then I just look for other discussions to respond to. It's sad that we get to encounter people who would insensitively and rudely comment or respond to our discussions. However, it is important that we should understand how people feel about our own discussions.

Good day to you, ellie, first of all, sorry for your being hurt in that way and has not been to mylot for a while. I think that these kinds of things tend to "hurt" us in a way and we will tend to need some time off to cool ourselves. But I'm glad that you are back and become active again. ;) As for my own personal experiences, I have had a kind of the same encounter as you here in mylot, but I wasn't reported or anything like that. I was asking in goodwill about that person and she or he (not sure) took it the wrong way and commented on my negativity there or something. But I just ignored the comment and just said something nice in return which is really me, because I don't like arguments at all. I love to comment positively most of the time and I am a happy type of guy and I don't like to make enemies or make someone angry. Well, I try not to but if the person still thinks that I've done something wrong then I would not prolong the conversation or discussion. I just keep quiet. I think that's the best way, because he would say he is correct and I would say I am correct, so I just let the matter rest and cool it off. Even in real life when I have people confronting me (like biker guys or something) and I see "no point" in furthering the arguments or conversations, I would just walk off. I think that's the best way rather than to reply to something that you know you would "lose", so to speak. I think it is not a cowardly act to just err on the quiet side. In fact, if there are "fair" people out there, they will see the truth that your quietness means a whole lot more and that the person "bickering " has a bit of a problem. So ellie, my friend, if you do come across something like that in future, just don't reply. I know that ladies tend to become defensive and it's their nature which I respect that. But try your best to just "walk off" from the scene yea if you get what I mean. Take care of yourself and don't worry so much. Have a nice day there. ;)

I know sometimes that certain comments or responses can sometimes fire me up and make me want to say something, but as much as I want to say something I do not. I just do not think it is worth my time and energy, I would rather just focus on something more positive. Luckily though I have not had many, but I am not surprised that you were a little upset about what happened, I would have been too, especially if the discussion had then been reported and deleted.

ellie, i would think this is one site i know of wherepeople are free to write honest comments. its an open house where people can write their feelings about just about anything. which is great. so i would write whatever i feel like and keep an open mind of getting whatever reply. you will always find the good and the bad in life. people who are sensitive and some who are not. so i would not think so much. reply to people who are being honest and decent and the ones who try to hurt your feelings i would just ignore them. happy writting

I have never been there. sometimes, it is just a misunderstand and it is getting big. so, don't worry honey. you are so good. just keep going. best wishes.

It's all in the way that someone reads through a discussion or even just one comment. If the reader is not in a good mood, or reads a discussion that they may be a little too close too, or even just out for a way to vent, they will usually just fly off the handle with out thinking. Sometimes they don't read through the thread and jump in with an opinion before they have had the chance to view the topic as a whole. Personally, I will let a comment that went that way just sit. Sometimes it's not worth the time to explain something that you said. If it was taken the wrong way in the first place by the reader, then there's no way that they would be willing to admit they made a mistake. You run into them in real life as well. DCMerkle

Some times we come across people who do comment in a rude and insensitive manner which hurts us. When i come across such rude comments on my discussions i feel bad and i end up loosing my good mood. After all this being a public network every has their right to speak or express their views in the discussions but it shouldnt be rude and hurt some one else. Well i may not quit mylot coz of such comments but will analyse the situation why that person had to make such a comment. If that is my fault in provoking a person to be rude with the the kind of discussion i have started i will refrain from that. it mostly depends on the situation that we are in.

Of course nobody want to have a rude comments in their discussion. I will sad and being a little defensive to what they said and probably thought "why saying this rude comments ?". But then again, i thought, everyone had equal right to say what on their mind. And probably this discussion is a little bit personal or sensitive to them. I try to understand it, but still sadness will be there. And probably think about it for one day...:) and not log on into mylot for quite a while. But that's it. The next day i will forget about it...:)

If I catch myself falling into that trap...and i have, I just get a grip on myself and walk away finally. It is too frustrating and it is easy to get caught up in responding back in defense of yourself or of someone else. Sometimes people seem rude and they don't mean to be. I do try to communicate with the person and usually we come to an understanding. It is very easy to misunderstand peoples words on here and I take that into consideration when responding back. Don't let it get you.

Hi Wllie26. If I stumble upon rude or sensitive responses or comments, I usually ignore. For if we response back, he or she will retaliate and try to defend himself or herself. Eventually it come to no ending. One must remember, mylot is free foe everybody to join and mylot cannot scan only the "good" people will join mylot. We are bound we meet all kinds of people in here including the lovely person like you. So for me, as much as possible, I only involve in positive discussion and avoid myself entangle in any sensitive issue. Have a good day.

When I encounter such comments, I just ignore it, I just put into mind that we cannot satisfy and agree with the others all the time.

Of course rude comments and responses effects on us. I really don't like that kind of comments and responses. And i also don't post any rude comments and responses. If i don't like any discussion then i don't reply to it. So i don't hurt anyone.