I Forgot I Was Mad At You :) ...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
April 14, 2008 12:07am CST
We all get into arguments, disagreements or bickering with ppl both online and off. But have you ever gotten into a disagreement with someone and then forgotten that you were supposed to be mad at them?
The other day I got a pm thanking me for a Best Response. In the message the person mentioned she was glad we could be friends again. I was surprised b/c I wasn’t aware that we weren’t friends or weren’t getting along…I messaged her back and then I remembered that we’d had a disagreement ages ago.
It made me realize that a lot of times ppl will get mad at someone and then it fades away and you move on and you forget what you were supposed to be mad about. Look at all the family feuds that lasted for 100’s of years long after everyone forgot what they were fighting about.
Do you forget you’re mad at someone? Has anyone ever reminded you that you were at odds?
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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30 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Apr 08
there is mad and there is mad,
If you stole 100 dollars from me I am mad,
but if you and I have a difference of opinion on my lot it might peeved me off for a day but it is nothing to spend the rest of my life being mad about. Life is just too short. So I don't forget I am mad at someone I just choice what I want to be mad about.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
2 May 08
Too funny :) I don't get mad at people too often. I disagree with people but that's it- Life is too short to be mad at people all the time. I do get upset with people- but I usually forget all about it- unless of course it is something huge- LOL then I don't forget. Too funny that this person thought you were friends again because you gave them best response--- really best response is for the "best response" doesn't matter if you are friends or not- :)
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I forget sometimes what I was mad about also. I never forget when someone has wronged me though but the actual incident does fade away over time. I never put myself back out there to be hurt again by these people though but I fdo not hold a grudge either.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Its happened but I do remember some people who've rubbed in that particular fashion.
At the end of the day (or week), or if there's a different topic, I'll still respond and I'll be kind. I maybe the most vocal and disagreeable person here, but I'm still kind and helpful... something my star rating detractors don't think of (or maybe they do, I don't know). Anyways, just because I disagree it doesn't mean things are going horribly. There are even topics and points of anger but if its just an issue (and not a major character flaw or other serious malfunction) then its nothing serious.
This is also the reason I have the free-for-all weekend. Just unwind a bit everyone and have fun from time to time on lot. Sure there's serious talk, but too much of that (along with the anger/High-blood-pressure) is going to be bad for you. Beside, I KNOW you all need a laugh here and there.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I have had friends that stayed away because they thought I was mad at them. I have learned that there is no time to be mad over little things. They may aggarvate me, but I do not stay mad. My son has CP and after dealing with things with him, I have found there is much more to life, than being mad over stupid little things. It is not worth it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Apr 08
No. I never forget what was said or done to make me at odds with a person. Usually I stop any contact too so I don't accidentally cross paths with them.
@youless (112507)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Apr 08
I don't mind others disagree with my opinions. That's no problem at all. Everybody should have their rights to speak out their views. However, I do mind others insult you when they don't agree with you. That's so stupid and rude. Therefore, I will not forget it. Perhaps if they change their avatars, then I may forget it.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I'm angry with very few people. I have a memory like an elephant when it's something that is emotionally charged and seldom. Take care
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I have gone to bed mad at the hubby and woken up having forgotten that I was mad at him. LOL! Then, I just try to let it go and think, "if I didn't remember I was mad at him this am, it must not have been all that important." LOL!
But, I haven't had that problem here. Only one person ever really ticked me off and, I don't even remember their name! LOL! So, who knows! I might have already responded to one of their discussions without even knowing that they really ticked me off once before! LOL!
I say, bygones! My mom credits me with being a very forgiving person. I don't want to disappoint her so, I will always strive to keep that up!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Apr 08
Years back I had a coworkerfriend thatI got into some sortof petty squabble over andthen completely for got about it. When she was ready to get married she asked if I was still mad at her. I said what about? I had totally forgotten we had ever squabbled over anything. I certainly was no longer angry at her and relished the idea of being one of her bridesmaids. I did not even remember what the heck we were arguing about
@guinness1982 (261)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I have never done this with a friend, Usually when someone makes me mad its enough for me to remember since I dont get mad at anyone easily, But I don get mad at my boyfriend and forget what it was about. I cant stay mad at him even if I try, I hate it when he makes me forget and just smile no matter how hard I try.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I don't stay mad at anyone. I don't get angry too often, and when I do I let it go quickly. I don't hold grudges, I am very forgiving, I tend to just let things go, life is too short to stay mad at someone or to hold a grudge. This isn't to say I put up with abuse from people. I don't. If I am not treated right by a friend or if a friend betrays me, then they are no longer my friend. I don't beg anyone for their friendship. I can be the best friend that someone had, just don't betray my friendship or abuse me.
@nannacroc (4049)
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14 Apr 08
Not online but I used to forget I wasn't talking to my mum sometimes if we'd argued. Most of the time I couldn't remember what we'd argued about.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
14 Apr 08
My hubby always makes me forget im mad at him. Im not sure how he does it but he does. I can be so mad but somehow within minutes he will have ma laughing.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I have tried this but just like little argument with sister or friends then suddenly I will sound so sweet again because I forgot that we just had a little fights...Its funny really but when I will be in the middle of conversation and I will recall, I will just laugh and say, ohhh...how come am I talking to you, I was mad at you! and we will just laugh at each other!But, if its something that truly hurts/insulted me in a way....I'm sure I will not forget it easy!
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Well, usually when I get mad at someone is because of something really serious ,and it doesn't happen that much ,but I move on with my life. On the other hand, I try to avoid those people who did something really bad too me. To me getting mad about silly stuff doesn't make any sense ,but if I get mad at someone I try to forget.
@sunkistroses401 (281)
• United States
14 Apr 08
i argue with people every once in a while but i have never forgotten to be mad at anyone except my boyfriend once lol :) he drives me crazy but for some reason i just can't seem to stay mad at him in the least bit because he always does something to make me smile then i can't stay mad at him... does anyone else have this problem with their significant other? and if anyone has answers as to how to stay mad let me know because it would be great for him to not get away with every crazy thing he does.