My Sister-In-Law had a Spastic Fit the other day!

that is awful :( yes we do.one of my mother's brother's would make her cry every chance he got.he'd also come for family holidays,eat the food my dad paid for,and then insult him when he left the room,upsetting my mother yet again. my dad wanted to do something,but my mom would plead with him not to.as soon as my grandmother passed away,my father went off on him and told him "mc donalds is closed" and he's no longer welcome at the house. funny thing is since then,my uncle's had several strokes,and..he's actually a lot more pleasant to be around.it seemed to knock the cohesive thought out of him,he's not so malicious.

hi jennybianca! Oh, we do have at least 3 like that in our clan. 1 sister in law, 1 cousin in law and one aunt. It is always a blessing if they don't make a scene whenever we have a family gathering. I just try to avoid them as much as possible because it is like talking to the wall when you try put some sense in their heads, even my grandmother has given up on trying to change their behavior. Sad, isn't it? Just my thoughts. take care and have a nice day!

This is soo sad treating a child like this. The SIL needs help as well I think as far as mentally. This woman seems to thrive on attention as well making a scene at a BBQ and all. Seems these 2 were not meant for each other nor does it seem like there is a lot of love between them. Bummer. My younger brother is a mad man. No one in the family cares a lot for his life style and or actions at all. he is a trouble maker at family outings etc when we see him. he called the other night just as I walked in the door. The answering machine vut in and I heard, "Won't answer the phone for me huh? Fokkker." What a jerk I thought. Oh well I won't be calling him back anytime soon nor answering if he calls again. THIS MAN NEEDS A LOT OF HELP IN MANY AREAS IN HIS LIFE SERIOUSLY. HAPPY OSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

Your sister-in-law might need to go for anger management. I have seen people who are very mean to their children, and most often the husband and wife don't have a good relationship. I have a few in my family that are difficult to deal with. In my family, I have different characters to deal with. There are fire starter or flaming others, picking on others fault, opportunist and one that knows everything. I guess everyone have at least one or two member of the family who are difficult to deal with.

Yes unfortunetly I do. Most families have a "black sheep" in their family and is why they're not invited to a lot of family functions because no one wants a scene such as that. Mine happens to be my aunt, actually it was two but thank God my uncle divorced her so now it's just the one. Long time ago, I told my mom that I have only two aunts and I don't like neither one of them. It's still true to this day with the one that I still have because she's my mom's sister.

I think that probably every family has difficult members like this. My aunt and her daughter bicker, fight, and cry at many family events. It's just the norm. I do find what she said to the little girl disturbing, though. Being adopted, she probably has been through so much already. Her husband probably is so used to her fits that he didn't even try. Either way, that doesn't sound like a fun bbq at all.

I feel very sorry for her daughter. It would be difficult enough knowing that your birth parents didn't want you let alone having your adopted parent threatening to sending you back home. In recent years I've experienced this. My aunty was going through a divorce and she began to drink. We were all at a family gathering and something set her off. She threw what you would definitely call a spastic fit. Screaming, swearing, crying then she smashed a botle of vodka on the street as she ran home. It was extremely embarrassing and quite distressing. She threw another tantrum recently and ruined my other aunty's 50th birthday party. She did see a cousellor for some time after the first spaz attack and that helped a lot. She's fine normally, it's just when she drinks that the emotions take over. Luckily she has admitted that she has a problem and she apologised to my aunty for ruining her party. She needs to sort out her emotional problems before she can ever drink again because she just can't handle it. It is sad when things like this happen. There's no need for it and it's terrible when kids are involved.

To my shame I can sympathise with your sister in law. I am much better at controlling my outbursts now, but I have had episodes like her. I have suffered with depression and anxiety since I wsa a teenager. But I was in denial over this for many years. The girl may well have behaviour problems but it seems as though your sister in law may well need help as well. It may be that the behaviour is getting her down and it doesn't seem like her husband is very supportive. When I have had episodes like this it is very painful. You can see what is happening but are powerless to control yourself. You see the child misbehaving, that causes embarrasment and the floodgates go! You try to discipline the child but it turns in to an uncontrollable rant that you just can't stop. I have learnt that i need to control my anxiety in certain situations. If I don't I have the outbursts! It may be worth your sister in law talking to a doctor or counsellor. I wish her the best of luck.

Yes I don't understand this at all. I have lived with it most of my life until I got old enough to move out. Certain types of people who are argumentative and just plain difficult I just don't get it. I would be to embarrassed to act that way. Are we suppose to grow up and have skills to handle ourselves or is this something different that they can't control? Maybe I judge them wrong; do I?

I'm so grateful that my family luckily doesn't have any difficult family members to deal with (to me anyway). There once was a time when I was a little kid, that there was some family drama going on and all my mom's sisters were fighting with one another. As years and time went by, I guess they all forgave each other and now are better. I dont think they are as close anymore, but atlesat they all forgave each other for whatever it was that had happened. Anyway, that is much different then what happened with your family. I also think that it is wrong to say those things to an 11 year old. She probablly felt so terrible! I'm glad you didn't have to witness it!

although our family is poor and financially incapable but we are all happy. no one among us do have an attitude like you have. it's better for to be poor than a rich one that so many problems on the family. anyway, thanks for posting.

no I am so happy to say that I don't but I surely sympathize as that must be so difficult. One would never know just what to day when a family member breaks down like that. the idea of saying something so cruel to an eleven year old child. if she doesnt like the stress that comes with raising adopted children then why did she bother to adopt? sounds like she is very selfcentered and perhaps a tad selfish also.

A mess family is very bad,it makeas everyone fell unhappy. Falimy should becomes the housemember's shelter.When I was young,my Dad and Mom often fought,and I fought with my brother.But I don't like this family.Now I was married,I hardly fought with my housband.We are diapason. God bless you!