the nerve of some people

If this woman is freeloading on you, even if just for two weeks, she has no right to opinion, as far as I'm concerned, and she certainly wouldn't be getting any extra care for her child on the Friday night. They're privileges for paid-up customers, surely. I agree, it's a difficult situation you're in, but I think I would be tempted to tell her that until she pays you what's owed, then only the normal, basic care will be given, and she will have to settle for whatever food you give the other kids, where her son's concerned. I hope you can resolve this in an amicable manner, and get your monies owed from this mother. She's behaving very badly, and I would be a bit dubious about whether she was ever going to put things right. Brightest Blessings.

I did home childcare for many years, so I am very familiar with all the ways the parents can take advantage. I have a bad feeling about this mother, that it can only end with your not getting paid at all - she'll get mad and go elsewhere and not pay up, or continue to be a big user. I also wonder like above how she can go clubbing, yet not pay for her child's care - even a partial payment would be more acceptable. On another note, you are planning activities, and serving very nice meals. It sounds like you are an excellent childcare provider, surely above average. Hot dogs and fruit are perfectly acceptable meals on occasion, I just do not and never will understand the nerve of some people. She'll be asking you to lower your rates soon.

I am sorry this happened to you. Yes the nerve of some people. She obviously feels like she is entitled to everything and she is so wrong. Talk about only thinking of one's self. But it sounds like its all gonna catch up with her. She must have a serious problem with mismanaging her money and not paying her bills.. and also expecting to get things served to her on a silver platter??? She will be in for a rude awakening, thats for sure. I hope she does end up paying you soon!! Keep harassing her if she doesn't. Eventually she'll be so tired of it and pay you.. the money she owed you in the first place.

That is terrible. She can't pay you but she has the money to go clubbing. I was a single mother for many years and my babysitters always got paid and my kids always had food on the table. I would never do that to someone I depended on, so I could go to college every day and work in the summer.

I know you didnt ask for advice, My friend just went through the same thing. She does child care in her home as well. One of the parents was having problems and my friend was trying to be helpful and supportive to the woman(who was going through a divorce) She began babysitting over night so the woman could have some time to herself without worrying if the children would come in and see her upset or whatever. Everytime My friend asked for money the woman would have an excuse about her husband didnt give her money, she had to pay rent so they have a place to live etc. In the end, My friend was struggling much like you. When my friend went to talk to the woman about the issues surrounding the payments, she gave her two weeks notice. Her reasoning was that my friend was stressing her and she had enough problems. The nerve of her. Thats the trouble with people they take advantage of the people that could really help them. If you dont already, I would get it in writing. If she asks why just tell her that the state does random auditing and you have to have all IOU's in writing. ALso an overnight contract wouldnt be such a bad idea. If she goes anywhere else she has to pay a month up front. However, if she refuses to sign, it may be in your best interest to discontinue her care. Right now its $200. If you wait the two weeks it will be $400 when you finally get paid. If she cant afford the $200 how will she deal with the $400. Its a business, your livelihood. If she wants three course meals, tell her to bring them until she makes the payment. You have explained that because of her you have tapped into your own savings. I would feel terrible if I was affecting your home life. I hope what ever you decide you will remember that she needs you not the other way around. Millions of moms and dads are looking for a good childcare provider. Make sure she understands that. Good luck in your business. DL

You got it out right. myLot is the best place to share things with others. its not only long but a bit heavy too..this just for fun I am saying..

I think I would have gotten angry too. I used to watch my mother-in-law (she has children that are around the same ages as my kids) and my sil's kids several years ago. My mil and sil paid me very little and I didn't say much b/c they were family. My mil had the nerve to complain that I fed her kids pizza most days. It was pretty much the only thing I could get them to eat (that they didn't waste) and I didn't have the funds to buy expensive food. I think I would have really told her off if she had done what that lady did to you. If she keeps it up, I would tell her she'd have to find someone else to watch her child . I wish you the best of luck with your situation!

I think you need to tell her that you can't take the chance of not getting paid. She can't do this, if she took the child anywhere else the money would have to be paid promptly. If she can't apy you tell her you regret it, but you can't keep watching the child.. but she still owes for services already rendered. Good luck!!

You will find out in 2 weeks she still won't have the money- she is using you. STOP watching her kid unless you don't mind doing it for free. Trust me I have been there done that. I used to do daycare, had a contract, but I was too nice and felt sorry for every sob story, and every one of my clients left owing me money!

Hello, Floramwaters. Dealing with people seems to be a hard thing. You need a real lot of patience and personality to be able to convince others, and to be able to understand others. What a lack of respect by that parent! She does not pay you and complain about your service? Tell her to get away. You can risk yourself to keep with her and perhaps not receive any money or just let her go away and clear your problem. If you have a contract, she has to pay. Otherwise, you'd better start thinking about this, if you want those problems to stop. Clients. You really need them, but they show no respect sometimes. Really, that is why it is so hard to have a good business running. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

that lady has a lot of gall to keepputting off paying you and then complain about the food and ask you to keep her son ovenight friday so she could go to a club? come on if she has the money to go to a club then she needs to pay her bills. how does she think you could function without being paid?I would tell her fine I will keep him but you will have to pay me exta as you can go to a club then you can afford to pay me too.

Sounds like you may have to take her to a small claims court.. She sounds so full of herself that I believe I would tell her no more, you have just lost a baby sitter.. You will get nowhere in life, if you take everything that you make and give it all back, it is not fair to you, your family or the other children.. I really feel sorry for her kids if she cares no more than this.. And her supper meal should be better than hot dogs for her children.. She is getting out of her responsibilities and that is not right nor fair to anyone concerned.. Good Luck with this one..