husband with different culture
By mommah
@mommah (24)
Philippines
April 17, 2008 1:08am CST
Husbands are usually dominant so marrying someone with different culture really matters in a relationship. Especially typical chinese' cultures... grrrr....
3 responses
@andrewshaw (23)
• China
17 Apr 08
yes, you are right culture does exist everywhere, but could you pls make it more clear to us with your problems(tppical Chinese' cultures). i think you both could conqure and cross this with love to each other.
good luck to you.
@mommah (24)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
Chinese culture is worst.. im sorry to be too vocal. dont mean to offend chinese, especially my husband. Ther "chinese are for chinese" practised? really discriminating for us non-chinese girls. To make a distinction in favor of chinese girls and against non-chinese girls? see what i mean? Its so unfair... It hurts me all the time.
@andrewshaw (23)
• China
21 Apr 08
I dont think i could fully understand you. But for love, it is unconditional, no matter what culture he has experienced before, i deeply believe "true love" can "kill" every difficulties on your way ahead, however i think it is his fault to bring his "bad" culture into your love, this is probably what we called "?????(mandrocentrism)" in Chinese i wish you could find a way to make him to change with your love although i know this is very hard but chances always exists.
to be honest,you two need to take a good and deep communication to melt the "misunderstanding" between you because i know it is hard, sometimes even cant imagine for someone to understand or accept the culture from other nation which is culture conflict. so just calm down and be confident with your parnter....
Good luck!
@mommah (24)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
Thanks Andrew! I've got no problem with my husband at all. He's so loving, caring, understanding and responsible. I can feel that he is soooo inlove with me and I am too but from what his parents trying to let me see... (there "chinese are for chinese" practised) produced a harmful effect to our relationship as a couple although im trying so hard not to get affected but Im just human I get hurt and get tired. And now i can feel the kindling emotion is slowly out of blaze.
@gratitude (181)
• South Africa
17 Apr 08
Why do women do this to themselves??????
You are your own self you have your own thoughts your own wants needs desires and choices for your life....why choose to ALLOW whomever comes into your life to dominate your existence????
He knew who you were before you married.....so basically what you saying is that even though he knew who you were and about your culture...he still went ahead and married you EXPECTING you to change to his ways?????? SILLY! love is meant to be unconditional!!!! I would never dream of ALLOWING my partner to EXPECT me to change to ANOTHER HIM!!!!!!!!!
@mommah (24)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
Yeah, your husband have accepted u completely but his family doesn't because of there SELFISH PRACTICES, and yeah it matters a lot and it affects very deep to a good relationship. Like mine... even we're fighting together so hard but im just human. I get hurt and got tired also. So now? our relationship became cold because his family is so determine in destroying us as a couple... see my point?
