I need help!!!!

I hope this time she is serious about leaving him. The child needs a real home. Good luck and I hope you cousin and friend will realize soon before it is too late.

You did the right thing because it's her car, and if she wants it back she should call the police and go over there and get the keys. Since you aren't the police I think it would be better not to get involved. She needs to make sure she goes to court to get child support as well, there are too many parents not taking responsibility for their children. So, I agree with you I wouldn't have helped her because it's a police matter, not a family matter. Pablo

gosh I don't know but friends do help each other, perhaps one day you will need help and she will be the one you have to ask and then what?

I think you made the best decision not to go with her. I dont think we ought to get involved in a relationship in certain ways. I think it would maybe have brought bad blood between you and the boyfriend and that would have been unfair to you seeing you tried to stay mutual when they were involved. (lol)

Cousin... hard choice. If I was in your shoes, I would see the difficult position you are in. But I would go, and also bring another person along- preferrably a male. I would suggest not to create a scene, but just a "hi" dropping by to say "hi" , then quietly sneak out with the keys. This guy is not good, he has a kid with her and yet they still live separate houses and he has no time for her. No offense, your cousin came to you for help and to support her decision tobe on her own, take the chance an get teh keys back If she lets him have the keys and the cars back after that attempt. You should say "no". Good luck.

I think you made the right choice, not getting involved is always a smart idea. If she has any trouble getting the keys, have the police escort her. ;)

If I were in your place I would have come with her for support. I won't back out on my friend. If he doesn't want to give the keys then you could be the backup to call the cops or something. Or bring some big bullies with you if possible. I think you should help your friend.

Well, to be honest with you I would have gone with her, but that is me and how I am. Everyone is different and if you did not feel comfortable being involved then that is not a bad thing, and I am sure your cousin will not look at it as you letting her down, I am sure that she will understand why you did not go with her.

Well, I think you were half right. And it doesn't matter if it were a friend, relative, or a complete stranger. As a Christian, we are to help others. Christians get involved! I believe you felt bad because you know what I am saying is true. I believe you should have had her call the authorities, and have them assist her to get her keys back. If she was afraid to go alone, officers would assist her as they are HER keys. I look on you as a sister, as I know you know Jesus. When we get involved in anything, you must remember HE is involved also. We are to help others with a glad heart. We are to get invlved, and help others. This shows others the Christ in us. Hope this helps:) And GBU

Personally I would have gone with her but I know and understand why you did what you did. If she felt that he was going to cause trouble then I think she should also have asked the police to have gone with her (and you - you probably would have gone then too). Make sure she gets some sort of maintenance out of him, as he needs to recognise the fact that he has a child and therefore responsibilities. I wouldn't beat yourself over the head if you didn't go with her but I would give her a ring and make sure she is all right. Check if she has the car, if not then perhaps you can go with her and the police? If you feel bad then talk it over with her and tell her your reasons. She will no doubt now need a friend to talk to, so be there for her now in her time of need. Don't worry about it :)

If I would have the person I will also do the same thing what You have done. What you have done correct only.

Thats a sticky thing to get involved in personal things. I really can't answer that, I hope she understood, why you felt you couldn't go.

in times likes this when your couz'n and a friend is in need i think you better be with her...no matter what is the situation and your liabilities with their relationship..as you noticed in her situation...i guez...its a human rights that you can help her through circumstances to solve..

help the kid get her car back Go with the cops so if there truble they will take charge so you and her dont get hurt

if i were in that situation, i wouldve gone with her, if i hadnt brought her there in the first place... when your friend recognized the need to get away from the guy, you shouldve stepped in and said youll be with her... personally, when a person, esp a friend, asks for help, i dont hesitate to give it to them...

I probably wouldn't have gone either and like you wonder if i should have... Make sure she gets a child support order - it's a pain in the neck to go through, but then at least she will be getting some money from the guy. Perhaps you could offer to drive her to your county welfare office so she can apply? Your state/county website should have all the info you need on collecting child support.

well your not wrong for not getting involved