Family(complicated)

Wow, that's rough! Let me ask you, when you were growing up did you have any interaction with your father or any kind of a relationship? I was just wondering because if you hadn't, that would make it even more awkward. Also, by my calculations you should be around 17 years old now. Maybe you should think about moving out and getting your own place. I know this can be hard but there are places where the rent is based on your income and you could get a little job. It's just something to think about. Atleast then you would be in your own place and perhaps feel a bit more at home and more comfortable. If this is not an option, my advice would be to try to adjust. I know it's not going to be easy but I actually have had to live with diffrent family members on and off before I got married to my husband and at times I felt like I just didn't belong but I tried to make the best of the situation. Sometimes I just stayed in my room and watched movies and stayed in my own little world. Other times I attempted to spend time with the others and really try to enjoy their company. The thing is, if you don't try to bond with them, your relationship will never improve and you will always feel the way you do now. Although, if my father did something as selfish as your father did to you both, I would have a hard time bonding with him as well but the past is the past and it can't be changed and your now in a situation where you have to live in his home and you want to make that home yours as well. So, for that reason alone I suggest that you just try to make the best of the situation and create a home envirement that you will feel comfortable in. Best wishes to you and your family!

Thats really sad. I am also a parent but never would I leave my children not until the day I die and would never entrust them to anyone to take care of them. I think it's your fathers turn to fill up the gap he missed out in your lives. I do hope your step mother is nice. Where is your mom anyways? I have 5 kids and I can't take care of them all but it's no reason for me to give up on them. I do hope she has a very good reason for that.

maybe in this time only my friend, but you need to try to learn that theres another family to share the real life, not only for your grandma,i been too same situation before but i try my best how to live like them, but thanks god everything right know is alright & we all happy one family.

I'll bet it does feel weird. I think you will get use to it in time. It will just take a little time to get accustomed to being around your new family. Do they make you feel welcome? I hope so.

I understand what you are going through. Not that I am in the same situation but some of my friends are in the same boat as you are. That made me learn more about situations like these. While some of them are doing fine with the situation, others are not yet really used to it. It must really be hard for you to adjust. That is completely understandable. Well, for as long as your dad makes an effort to make life easier for you and your brother, then I believe you will be able to adjust. Moreover, I do hope that you have a good relationship with your step mom and two half sisters.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It is understandable why you would not feel at home because it has never been your home and these people have never been your family technically. It will certainly take some time to adjust. Have you spent time with your dad at all growing up? Have you gotten to know your step mom and little sisters over time? I hope this all works out for you and that they make you feel comfortable and loved there. Best of luck to you.

Sounds like you have known the bitter cup of suffering early on in life..I too can say I have known a similar story..and I can tell you things will get better if you keep faith in God. God will pull you through the storms and uncertainties.. You just have to remember to ask His help. It will be challenging now that you are in a different home but not impossible ..pray to God..with Him all things are possible.

I know this is a hard time for you, but one thing you can always fall back on is this time will pass and with effort on everyones part it will get better. My step sons mom kicked him out of her house about a month ago, so he moved in with us, I have 3 boys still living at home also and we knew it was going to be a little akward. You need to talk to your dad and let him know how you are feeling, if you have good communication with your step mom that would help too. I know my boys were real good with wanting to make sure he fit in and when they would grab something to eat or want to get on the puter they would tell him, hey this is your house too, go get it or tell me yo dude how long you ganna be on that i want to get on too. I know that I made an extra effort to let him know that I was glad he was here and asked him often at first to let me know if he needed anything. I think I try to make an extra effort since his dad is a truck driver and not home that much so I know he was feeling like an outsider for a bit there, but it was really cool just last night when he got in, he hollered out as he walked in the door, hey mom I'm home whats for dinner. I think he finally feels like home now, and that is a good thing. I would suggest give it time, I'm sure that you are loved and with communication and time it will work out fine, have faith it will and think positive. I hope this helps, good luck

I got it. The feeling is normal but soon you will get used to it. Now is the best time for you dad to cover up things he missed in the past. And its your time too to enjoy being with your dad. For it may be quite okay and comfortable living with your lola, this time with your dad, you will also feel the difference and somehow things that are missed before would be supplied. Good luck! Hope everything will be okay especially now that its not only your dad that you have to deal or adjust with, you have your step mom and step sisters too.

i know how you feel one of my daughters lived with her mom then wanted t move with me i have a new woman with 3 girls and i know my daughter feels that this isnt he home eather sometimes but mainly becauseshe jut basically brought her clothes and these girls my step daughter have had there own stuf tvs beds and everything so my daughter feels out of place thats why im going to try and get her some of her own stuff of course she shares a room to so that is hard bu yes at first your going to feel like that ya have to talk to your dad explain how you feel mention that your with him now and maybe its time to get some new family pictures thats what i told my daughter we would do and she seemed happy about it you have t feel welcome and try and talk to your dad otherwise you arent going to be happy paulw33