Deciding to not have any more children...

That should help out a lot. Have you discussed with him why you don't want another child and why he does want another one? Plus a lot can change in a year and a half.

I have an IUD in place now thats good for 10 years. Its one of the best because of the circumstances of pregnancy with me right now. I'm thinking about laying out a budget for him of what it would cost to have another child and see if that does the trick. Im crossing my fingers:)

If i was in ur stage i would have explained him with calm & try to convience him without hurting him.I think nowadays boys are very smart & they will listen to us with calm & will get understood fast.I hope ur husband will understand ur feeling.

Well we have to wait as it is. So I'm hoping he just changes his mind when he see how much kids cost as they get older. Thanks soo much for your response :)

I was an only child myself..I had told myself from an early age that I would have more than one child..lol..It was no fun trying to blame the dog for something I did :) We are already out numbered my the kids and I'm good with 3. I think he wants to see if he can produce another boy..to be honest...with my luck we would have another girl :)Thanks for your response :)

Well I'm glad to know the transition from 2 to 3 is easier than going from 1 to 2. Though at the same time it doesn't help convince me to "go for it" so don't worry, you are off the hook. LOL

Its always hard when you dont know. Miscarriages are even harder and I know that from experience. I can tell you the transition from 2 to 3 is a lot easier than 1 to 2. I dont know why, but I think its because that you are already a pro at it. But Im not saying go for it..lol. Do what you feel is right. I know that 4 would be way too many for me.

Thats pretty much how I see it as well. I'm the one who carries the child and maybe I dont want to be preggo again..I think thats what it really comes down to. I had a son that will carry on the family name. I did tell him that when modern science makes it possible for him to get pregnant we could have at it. The cost of living is getting horrible and i dont think my husband realizes that when kids get older they get more expensive. But men can be very one track minded when they get set on something. We will see how it goes. Thanks soo much for the response :)

One quick question: Are you a stay at home mom and he works outside the home? Because if that's the case, he likely doesn't really see how much work goes into raising three kids and doesn't quite get that 4 kids would be a huge handful. And you're right, as they get older, they get more expensive. It seems like all of the costs are when they're babies, what with diapers, accessories, clothes they constantly outgrow, etc. But when they get older, you have to think about cars and education and all of the stuff that goes along with them gaining their independence. Also, the more kids you have, the longer it takes to get them all out of the house. lol. You might be in your late 50's by the time they're all gone. (I have no idea how old you are now, that's just a guesstimate lol). I had one child, a boy. He just turned 6. While I mourn the loss of the baby he used to be, it's really exciting to watch him grow up. Yesterday he ran into the room saying "Mom, you gotta check this song out. It's soooo cool!" and it just hit me that he's not a little baby anymore. Most of the time he sounds just like me. That makes me happy and a little sad, but it's all a part of growing up. One was enough for me. I knew I couldn't afford to have more, and because of some medical issues with my period and stuff, I ended up having an endometrial ablation (cauterizing the lining so it won't shed anymore) and had my tubes tied. That was probably the best thing I've ever done, next to having my son. No more heavy bleeding..well, no more periods, actually. No more cramps. But no more kids. And I'm fine with that. I have a really awesome child. I couldn't have asked for any better than what I've got, and he makes me incredibly happy. I understand a mother's need to keep her children small, and I think a lot of moms keep having babies because of that.

LOL...I will cross my fingers that he does change his mind :) And the only reason I didnt get my tubes tied was because I was afraid I would want another later. But as busy as I am now with 3...Im thinking we are definitley good! Congrats to you though! :)

Thanks for your response :)

Thanks soo much for the response! Your right on all that you said. Right now its the wait and see game. Im waiting to see if he changes his mind all on his own or if I have to persuade him :)

Thank You for your response. I hope that you get a lot of help with your little kiddo :)

Well it sounds like you have a good plan in place! It's good to know that he won't pressure you into another baby though. Those are some scary risks.

He knows the risk, but I dont think that stops him from wanting another child. He wouldnt ask me to do anything to put myself in jeopardy. And I have told him my feelings on the matter. My IUD is good for 10 years. I dont plan on taking it out before then. By the time its out I'm hoping he will realize we are to old and concentrate on the kids we have. :)

I think Im more final on it because I had a son finally. And Im happy with that. You can only spread yourself soo thin when it comes to attention and being busy before there is a breaking point. My husband just doesnt realize that children are a 24/7 job. He can punch out at work..I dont get that luxury. Good luck to you and Thanks for your response :)

We can hope that he figures it out on his own..But if I have to pull out graphs and charts to try to prove my point he is in for a world of reality. Like I said..wait and see..Thats all I can do right now :) Thank You for your response and congrats on the marriage and good luck with any upcoming decisions! :)

Thats just it..Every parent is different, but all of my children worked out to be just 3 years apart and they need equal attention, but on different levels..It quite exhausting actually! Thanks soo much for the response :)

Im definitley keeping the option open in his eyes because I havent gotten my tubes tied yet. But I do have an IUD thats just as effective as tubal ligation. So I'm good there. He will just have to come to terms with it. And like I said before...the cost of living is going up..no one will be able to afford anything soon. Let alone another child !

I think the transition from one to two kids was harder than two to three. My kids are 3 years apart. It was a good spacer. I just want to be able to still enjoy life when they are all grown up:)

Thanks soo much for the response:)

Thanks for the luck! :) I need all of it I can get!

Well being settled and financially stable are the extremely good reasons to wait to have another. Good Luck to you :)