Have you ever been to a therapist for depression?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
April 22, 2008 10:08am CST
A lot of people look down on those who go to therapists because they think because they can handle their depression and feelings they feel everyone should be able to. Not true...not everyone can do it. I've tried and for me it can't be done. I've been going to a therapist for 8 years and along with meds my life has changed for the better from what it was 9 years ago. I was diagnosed as being bi-polar and without the help I'm getting I probably wouldn't be alive.
How do you feel about people getting therapy to deal with depression? Have you ever been to one? What was your experience....good or bad?
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@gman11377 (13)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I dealt with depression for years, and had tried talking to friends, pastors, parents, and so on. All of those people had an angle, they were all coming from a specific idea for "helping". Once things reached a head after moving to montana, a very caring military doc recommended a professional therapist, and what a difference that made. I avoided going for a couple of weeks thinking that it was just a "cop out" and that I should be able to deal with life on my own, it seemed like most everyone else could. Talking to someone who had no preconceived notions about me, and really listened helped so much. Now I got lucky and found a therapist who was a good fit for me right from the start, and yes you need to find one that "fits". Going through issues and ideas with an intelligent, neutral person helped open my eyes to a completely new viewpoint. I have since recomended professional help to several of my friends who have struggled as well. Ask around, interview, and screen carefully. Find someone who you are comfortable talking to (silly advice, but you will be sharing a LOT!), and go for it. So much weight will be lifted off of you, and you will feel a whole new outlook on life.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
22 Apr 08
THAT is what a good therapist does....looks at our issues with an intelligent and neutral outlook. Our friends and family can't stand back and see what we're going through.
@realgem1 (260)
• India
22 Apr 08
I have never been therapist for depression or stress.becasue i believe that the mental disoarders that exist in us are hidden and every one has it, and who ever is suffering is because of their situation and not able to take control of the same. The one who takes control no longer treats it as a disorder he just ignores it.No one is required to go for any doc or something. Lot of self help available on internet freely and i would suggest better not waste money for which the medicine is readily available in our mind itself
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
22 Apr 08
A lot of people think the same way but don't realize that mental illness is exactly that. It's usually a chemical imbalance in the brain and medication is used to treat the problem. Our minds cannot always cure our problems.
This is a great site if you're interested in educating yourself about mental illness.
http://www.naho.ca/inuit/e/healthtopics/documents/WhatisMentalIllness.pdf
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I am on meds too. I have seen therapists in the past with not so good results. I am going to try again soon though.
My husband sees a therapist and he is getting good results. He takes no meds.
I need to learn some coping mechanisms for my anxiety. The meds alone just aren't working. I have bad night anxiety as well and I have a rough time sleeping. Last night I went to sleep at 5 am. When my husband woke up at 6:30 am I was wide awake.
@Buttercup11 (274)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I often wish that I could afford to go to a therapist just to have someone with no ties to my life - someone I could say anything to and it wouldn't matter because when therapy was over I'd never see them again. I believe that it's healthy for anybody to get whatever they're thinking off their chests. Trying to handle depression alone is a sypmtom of the depression - feeling weak which just isn't true. It's slmost like the illness has a mind of it's own and wants to isolate you so that you stay that way... I say cudos to anyone with depression actively trying to get better no matter which way. I believe it's true that meds, which can be very helpful, only cover the symptoms and if you have a root cause in your life such as unresolved feelings, you must deal with that before you can move on or the depression will return.
@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Yes, I went to therapy when I was in my 20's. I do not go to therapy anymore, because their job is to make you cope with your depression, not cure it. You have to understand that you have got to create a positive attitude and more positive surroundings. Taking medicine does not solve your problems either. You have got to focus on what you can change in your life and change the things that are necessary. I am glad that you are better off, than you was 9 years ago. This is a good thing.
@Sonadora (356)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I have never been to see a therapist for depression. But that is only due to the fact that I can't afford it. I do not think therapy is the easy way out. Taking medication such as Lexapro and Prozak is the easy way out because that is only a temporary fix. It doesn't look for the cause or roots of the problem. I have struggled with depression since I was a child. When I was younger my dad would just tell me that I was weak. I don't think he or my mom fully understood what I was going through. Knowing what I know now, I am more able to understand and realize what I have been going through. I can't afford a therapist so I turn instead to books. I read a lot about depression and overcoming it. One of my favorite books is called Positive Energy. I forget who writes it, but it has been very helpful and eye-opening for me.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
22 Apr 08
There are so many helpful books about depression and even though I take meds and have a therapist I read a lot of them. Every bit of help I can get I'll go for.
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
If its helping you, thats great. I have been to therapists for depression and I didn't feel it did much for me. I may have not found the right therapist either. But I have given up on therapists. Hard to find a really good one and besides there is only so many sessions the insurance will pay.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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23 Apr 08
I have suffered bouts of chronic depression throughout my life and although I have seen a few therapists in my time, only one guy ever really made a difference to me. He was a wonderful listener and understood exactly what was going on in my head at the time. I was on medication, and have been on and off for many years, yet he knew how I felt about being on medication and the underlying reasons for my depression.
Sometimes it helps just to talk to someone who will listen.
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I've been in therapy and I've been a therapist. I know that some conditions require treatment. That certainly doesn't mean those people are weak. In fact, I think people with bi-polar disorder must be incredibly strong just to deal with the disorder on a daily basis, just like anyone with a chronic illness.
Most mood disorder can be supported by medication. And combined with therapy to learn how to deal with things they can be helped to live productive lives.
There is no shame in mental illness any more than there should be shame in physical illness.
I've had some excellent therapists and some mediocre therapists. I don't think I've had any really bad ones, although I've KNOWN some!
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i tried to ease what theyre are going through by consoling and listen to what they are up to.. and finding out some solution as a help and make them smile as possible that i can.. but if things comes worst ill be there with her to go to seek for proffesional help.
@gloamglozer (1289)
• Australia
23 Apr 08
i havent exactly been to a therapist, only a skool counsellor but i think that is very similar anyways. I agree with u that some ppl cant do it on their own, and that is perfectly understandable, everyone is different. I dont really think the counsellor really helped me much at all. It was more of a discussion really but at least i got outta class for it xD
@lee1215 (2)
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23 Apr 08
At one point the entire first year of my college (now a Uny) were 'on the panel' - Sociology has this affect!
Although we weren't organised as a therapeutic community, as such, many of my friends were, or are, in some form of therapy. We see it not so much as a fact of being sick; but rather as staying healthy
@Hazedd (4)
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23 Apr 08
Im only 16, but everyone thougt i suffered from Depression, all I did in class was just sit there, im not a big talker, i just hang out a lot by myself and dont juswalk right up to people and start a conversation, but I went ahead and talked to my uncle since he is a doctor, and he told me to never let them put me on pills or anything, im a kid, life is life, i just do what i want to do and not let others tell me how to run my life, my other uncle has depression tho, and his medication just like knocks him out. So i think you should do what you want to do, just meet new people and be more out going, i dont belive in depression, inless you have had some past bad experiences, if they are bad, then therapist isnt a bad idea. Just get someone you feel comfortable with and some one you belive you can trust. Hope this helps.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I was in counseling for about a year the first time then about 6 months the second time. With all they advice they gave me and all the things they helped me work through I am VERY thankful for them and the help they gave me I use everyday of my life today. I think why some counseling doesn't help for some people is because they go in with a closed mind and refuse to trust someone with their feelings and inner most thoughts in fear of being judged. Counseling is hard work I remember many times when I wanted to quit and throw them out of my life forever, but I hung in there and it made me a better person today.
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I have never been to a therapist for depression, but I have for anxiety. For a couple of years I didn't go and I was ok without going to one. Then things got worse and I ended up going to a therapist and it really helped me out. At first the thought of going to a complete stranger and telling her my problems and what I am going through freaked me out but once I got to know her and trust her I felt a lot more comfortable. I've also been on and off of medication for anxiety. As of right now I am not going to a therapist or taking medication and I am 100% ok without either one. That was not the case about a year ago. I think that it is good, anyone who needs to go or feels like it might help them should go. They are here to help us. If I had to go or felt like I needed to go again I definitely would.
@bomvoyage (94)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I've never been a therapist for anyone else, but I know it must be hard to have to gain the confidence to see one.