I have so much laundry!!!!!

@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
April 22, 2008 10:04pm CST
With 3 teenagers at home, and our washing machines downstairs in in - laws part of the house, doing the laundry really is a pain. WHen we bought the house with them, they had a washer and a dryer, so we all used them. Then when they broke down we were the ones buying them, which was fair since we had used theirs as well. But I have too much laundry. It's five of us up here. Downstairs it's only my mother and father in law. The problem is that she will do a full machine with only a hand towel if needed. And whenever I go to do my laundry she's always using the machines. So I have to wait, and by the time she's done it's too late already. Laundry keeps accumulating and accumulating and it's never done! Of course it doesn't help that the kids - specially the girls - use something for one hour and then change and put whatever they wore for on hour in the laundry basket - that is overflowing already. Katt sometimes does the laundry. But there is so much it seems it will never be all done grrrrrr I"m not asking questions this time, just venting because I went to the girls room and saw an overflowing laundry basket, a few full outfits half on the sofa half on the floor, and a bunch of other clothes underneath the bed. I know I can tell them that I won't do any more laundry for them, but what's the point? They will keep more and more dirty clothes in the room, and then when they want something that is not washed they will do a load just for that, and still the majority of stuff will be there to wash.... DO you ever get so tired of some chores that you just feel like not doing it at all?
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I know what you mean about never getting caught up with 3 teen agers and Them changing clothes about as fast as the laundry is done. I finely made them do their own laundry which created a new set of problems. Maybe you and your M-I-L could work out a schedule as far as the laundry is concerned. I had to set one up for my girls to keep peace in the house. They couldn't even wash their clothes together. There is nothing like teenagers to keep life interesting and challenging
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I wouldn't want any one else doing my laundry ether. Maybe she just wants to be needed. When Our kids grow up and don't need us any more we feel useless.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
I'm afraid with her it's more the opportunity to come over here and go trough everything. She used to come and change everything in my drawers and when she liked something she would take it.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
LOL living with teenagers :) I worked out many schedules with her, but it seems that she - with only two people in the house - always has radar that knows when I need to do laundry and suddenly has an emergency.. grrrr See she wanted us to take our laundry there and do it herself. I don't want that. It would give her an excuse to come up here any time she wants. I think that's why she always has something when I want to use the machines - she keeps reminding me that she can do ours.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
23 Apr 08
I know what you mean, why don't you get a new washing machine, I would have if it was such a big problem. And if its upstairs you save yourself the hassle of taking the laundry basket all the way down and may be teach your girls to put all their washing in the machine and then just zip zap and go, gal. I think thats the only solution to your trouble-you do need a seprate washing machine and take my advice buy a fully automatic one only.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
13 Oct 08
In India we have two kinds of machines one that have sperate wash tub and seprate spin tubs in them we have to manually transfer clothes after a wash to spin tub they are great if you have water scarcity in the area and no running water but require a lot of work while in fully automatic machine eveything happens in one tub and you just put clothes and washing powder in the machine and fix it to the pipeline which has continuous supply of water and just relax til clothes get washed and spin dry thats it.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I would do that in a flash if I had the space for it, believe me. I have been thinking about it for quite a while, but I just can't find the space to put it. What is a fully automatic one?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 08
Yes Twin I do at times Just one question does your MIL realise that she is wasting Electric doing Laundry like that and could she not pick different Days to do hers and could the washer not be upstairs with you as she should not have a lot of Laundry to do with her and her Husband Do you she makes me so mad with how she treats you if I was closer she would have had a piece of my mind by now believe me the selfish ignorant horrible ........ person Hugs to you
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 08
Sweetie I wish something would be done no wonder you are struggling I know what cut their electric until they pay Just theirs switch it of
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Of course she does... but we're the one paying for it remember ? LOL I have no space for the machines here, or I would get a set just for us. She's a bully, but it was our choice to agree with buying the house together, now we have to work with it.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
I hate laundry. I have a baby myself and my finacee, it seems like once I get it done its right back like that in the same day. I dont change clothing twice daily, and the baby does sometimes. I have no idea how it even gets like that . Well I do because I dont have a washer and dryer hookup in my apartment. If I did I feel like it wouldnt be like that. Normally I get to it once a week and its a ll day job!
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Myself I don't even hate doing laundry. It's with water, which is usually the type of chore I enjoy, but having this much is really getting to me. I think that the easier it is to get to it, and that we can do it when we decide to , the less problems we have doing it. So I think that if you did have a washer and dryer hookup in your apartment it would probably be easier for you to do it.
• United States
23 Apr 08
i dont like doing laundry not even on my happy days lol. i was one day and the very next day the hamper is literaly full agian with clothes and im pulling my hair out saying to the kids i ust did laundry. i have a washing machine in the house but i dont have a dryer so i find myself washing and drying at the laundromat and that is the worst it's full of people and u have to race for washers and dryers, thier just has to be an easier way to do laundry lol.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I know the feeling. It seems that as soon as I finally get things done and put away, the kids already filled out the hamper again. I really can't afford the laundromat ,specially after spending so much money on the machines two years ago.
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@seiyuh (162)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
We're only 4 left in the family, my other siblings got married and moved away. My brother and my sister are just too lazy to do their laundry, and they're already in their 20s! My mother usually do the laundry for them. But of course, I feel bad for mother washing all their dirty clothings.. she's already old. She should be resting and watching tv and not doing laundry for those grown-ups who are strong enough to do it themselves! What I did before is just leave their clothings, I'd only washed mine and mother's. But when I do, mother would always wash their clothes. Aahh.. mothers.. they spoiled their kids. lolz! Since there are basketfuls of dirty laundry, I usually handwash a handful of 'em during weekdays [hey, am saving electricity! ^^]. and the rest, I'd wash them all on Sunday. But.. I am mostly tired coming from work that I cannot at least, lessen the laundry. I would usually wash all on Sunday and gosh.. I'd spent the whole day washing. =(
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Most week days I am quite tired too. I don't have energy to do laundry. But as you say, on the weekend I will spend at least a whole day doing it.
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@xvandyx (121)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Oh yeah, I can totally relate with you because my husband uses a lot of underwear because he works outside in the middle of nowhere in the hot sun, and he showers everyday after work. My son is always managing to puke on himself or spill milk on himself. That is life though. I suppose we all have to tend to our chores in a timely manner, don't let it stock up over 3 weeks. I used to do that and is a NO NO you will be washing laundry all day. The thing that sucks about me here is that I don't have a washer or dryer so I have to go to the laundrymat and sometimes I have to wait for machines to come available. It is a mess!! Good luck!
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
I Know, it's a never ending job, no point on delaying it :) Believe me, although we do have the machines, for all purposes it's like going to the laundromat since MIL is always using them when I need them.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
23 Apr 08
That is one of the bonuses of being pregnant I cant do the laundrt hehehe. My family is doing them for me as I cant be lifting the baskets up the stairs. But I do hate laundry it is so time comsuming.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
ENjoy it while it lasts :):) Hubby used to help me by taking the baskets downstairs, but then I would have to go down to actually do it. Then when he came back from work he would take the baskets with the done laundry back up. He still does that now, very often. But most times he takes them down to bring them back up because his mother is using the machines.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
yes i am like that too and it is because i feel like its an uphill battle because i feel like i am the only one that is cleaning the house...and it sounds like you are feeling like that too... heck, i work part time, my hubby is home half the time (he works part time as well) and my daughters are 11 and almost 15, but still I AM THE ONLY ONE WORKING HERE...time to go on strike!!!
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
I hear you. I recognize the feeling. And I feel the same way. I am lucky that hubby does help some, but the kids... well they don't help much .
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 08
One thing we all should remember is that household chores are never ending story. Today one has finished doing the laundry but tomorrow there another basket full of dirty laundry waiting for us to wash. Sometimes I get so bored of doing the same thing everyday that I will deliberately accumulate the laundry for days. And then, I will just send them to the laundry mart. It save me time but it cost me money!
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I know! Isn't that awful? :) NO matter what, even when we finish everything, there will always be more. Sometimes I wish I could have a break where I didn't have to do the same thing over and over again, day after day after day grrrrr :)
@sharon_ (1169)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I would start having the teenagers be responsible for their own laundry.All the way from putting their dirty clothes where they should go,to washing,drying,folding,ironing and what ever else that needs to be done.It teaches them responsibility and takes some of the load off you...
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
That is true, and my daughter sometimes does it, but the problem remains that we can't always do it when we plan since mother in law seems to always be doing it when we go down. I really had to find space to put one of those apartment ones in here. One with the washing machine and dryer on top. That way we will not have to do it only when she decides we can. But my problem is the lack of space, I can't find a place to put it. grrr
@sharon_ (1169)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I have to give you credit for being able to live with the in-laws.I'm not saying yours are bad.I would have never been able to have had the kind of living arrangements that you do...lol. I hope you get that washer and dryer your wanting.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Laundry is one of those things that it seems never gets done. I hate doing laundry. My kids are only 8 and 15 months and I have enough laundry with them. I cannot imagine what it will be like when they are teenagers.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
THink nightmare LOL I think I could get ahead a bit more if I could do it when I needed, but having to wait for my mother in law makes things more complicated, specially since every time I decide to do the laundry she seems to be doing it as well LOL and it's only 2 of them against5 of us:)
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23 Apr 08
im a student mine just kinda sits in the courner of my room for a month untill i can be bothered to do it lol
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
LOL that sounds like my daughter hehehehe She would do that for sure :)
@Jessamy (36)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I am with you on that one, although I dress my kids and undress them as they are 2 and 1, I still get fed up with doing laundry. I do all of it even my husbands and I do at least 2 loads a day! It's exhausting and even though my hubby sometimes offers, I won't let him cause he is color blind, and even if I have them all sorted he'll still manange to mix them up. With kids my age, they are always messing clothes, by spilling something on them! I also do there bedding at least once a week, or more if they need it! If I dont' do laundry like 2 loads a day, then I get stuck with like almost 10 on Sunday and that is too much for me. And on top of washing and drying, I also fold and put away! When I have clothes on my bed my hubby will come in and just toss them on the floor, and to make matters worse, I don't remember what I just washed, so then I either re-wash everything or try and figure it out! But laundry is an ongoing thing, I don't think you can ever get it to end. If your life with teenagers and laundry is like how you say it is, I am not prepared for it! I thought at this age is bad, now I really don't want them to grow up!! LOL...Its tough, but if you can just try and work something out the in-laws and try at least washing 2 loads a night, if you can! I am a stay at home mom, so I can do laundry all day, so I know people who work have more difficulty, even washing 1 load, will take some burden off your chest! Or maybe you could start having your kids wash there own laundry! When I was in junior high, if I didn't do my own laundry I would have nothing to wear, cause we were a family of 9 and our laundry was piled higher that you could imagine, and it always looked nothing was getting washed. So I did my own so I knew I would have clothes. Eventually if you stop doing there laundry they will eventually start washing everything, and not putting something on for 5 mins then throwing it in the basket cause they will be doing there own laundry and I don't think they will want to wash a whole bunch of clothes! Just an idea! But I hope all goes well, and you can relieve some stress with the laundry! Good Luck!
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
Yes it is a never ending job. The kids will do a few loads occasionally but they will pick only what they need at the moment and leave all the rest. I would love to have a chance to do one or two loads at night, but I could only do it after dinner and it is already too later for them. They go to bed before 8am each day so I don't want to wake them up. In any case things catch up every once in a while. THis is one of those times :):):)
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
Ugh, well I just did a load yesterday and already its piling up again. I have a 6 and 4 year old so I can't imagine how it would be with teens. It sucks because laundry is THE chore that I hate doing the most, and yet I HAVE to do it the most!
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
I do my own laundry, since I stepped into high school. I'm the eldest and have to be a role model to my two siblings, have to step up and be independent because my mom's the only left for us. My father works abroad, so I'm the second in command! It is not that easy back then, because I have to do it by my own hands. Was really thankful that my father decided to buy a washing machine for us, to make work easier. I only do my own laundry once a week, in-fact I wasn't here yesterday that much since I was busy washing! Sometimes I get tired of things, but I always put in mind that nobody else would do it for me so I'd rather drop that thought of doing things over and over again. I am now having some body pains, maybe a result of yesterday's work but am still good and can still manage to have some time doing other things like being here on mylot!
25 Apr 08
My entire house is like that over flowing laundry basket! It doesn't matter how much I do chores the house always seems to end up back in the same state it was! I sympathise entirely with you! I know you were not asking advice on the in-law situation but have you tried talking to them? Or perhaps get a 2nd washer installed in your part of the house? Good luck.
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@emma412 (1156)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Oh yeah, some days I hate chores! My husband is gone and it's my daughter and I and our two dog in the house. I have to sweep and vacuum our downstairs everyday to keep the dog hair at bay. Then the mopping, laundry, dusting, bathrooms, etc just feels too overwhelming sometimes. When my husband was here he would do the dishes after I cooked. I hate having to cook then do the dishes afterwards. It is so annoying! I think I'm going to hire someone to just come in and wash my dishes for me. Ha!
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@paulw33 (297)
• United States
24 Apr 08
oh yes i go thru the same thing im a fatherand i take care of the laundry i also have 4 teenage girls here emagine that it gets to be very frustrateing at times becaue it seems everytime i turn around there is another baskett id say about 4-5 loads a day for real and the one daughter makes me mad because sh changes in her room alot and sometimes dont take out the clothes from her room for a month then by the time she oes there are like 2-3 loads at once soemtimes i get all the laundry done then she decides well i will clean my room when allready she knows they are supose to change in the bathroom so what i did is told her if you are going to change in your room and wait a month to bring the clothes out your gonna wait another month for me to wash them no lie it fixed it for the most part but all teenagers should have chores or at least help around the house i get agravated if they make messes and dont clean them we are supose to be parents not servents or maids i think by showin them love putting clothes on there back a roof over there head and food in there mouths i think that is enough why should we be maids to right well gotta go have a nice day and remeber all teens sould help with something around the house and the laudry thing just work something out where the machine is free at a certain time see if you can talk to who is allwas useing the machine and see if you can take one day to use it and catch up thn after that make a time thing so you can do it when you only have a load or 2 to get done like that and haveyour children help they can go places with there friends and talk on the phone and get you to buy them new things right so why cant they help a little paulw33