Where do you want to be in five or ten years
By Grandmaof2
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
Canada
April 23, 2008 2:52am CST
Where do you want to be in five or ten years? In five years I would like to be living with less health issues and fifty pounds lighter. In ten years I would like to be enjoying life anywhere else but in this house with my husband and his brother. I'm supposed to be a caregiver for my husbands brother and yesterday he hit me for the second time only because I told him he had to bath end of story. My husband did at least take my side this time but I'm totally fed up with the whole issue.
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@punkin1803 (526)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Well in 5 to 10 years i plan on being financially free. Have already obtained my BSN in Nursing.I would love to be married with or without kids. In healthy lifestyle and full of spunk and energy. I would like to be much much more closer to God. Closer than i am now. Just basically enjoying life to the very fullest and living in a healthy lifestyle all the way. I hope to be happy and confident in each and evey decision that i make and hope and pray that it is a positve one.
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@creative_genius (992)
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23 Apr 08
I am so sorry to hear about your situation with your husbands brother. I am surprised that it isn't your husband telling him he needs to bathe rather than you. And also your husband should be on your side as you should not be abused in that way.
Back to your question, I would like to be on the property ladder in 5 years time. It would be nice to have a new car and perhaps even have started a family!
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@jwfarrimond (4473)
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23 Apr 08
I'm nearly 63 and last year had an operation for the removal of a cancerous tumor so where I want to be in 5 or 10 years time is right here still alive. 
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I'm not going to say I know how you feel because I do not. I have never had cancer. I can however be honest and say I can understand why you said what you did. I'm sure it is a big worry. They certainly have come a long way with cancer research. Not so long ago as soon as we heard the word cancer we thought it was curtains. With all the money raised sometime I feel a cure should have been found but we need to stay positive. Blessings and good luck I will keep you in my prayers and Thank You for your response.
@jwfarrimond (4473)
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23 Apr 08
Thank you and I'm sorry that you are having the problems that you are having. I hope that you and your husband can deal with the problems in a way that is good for all concerned.
@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
23 Apr 08
with my health and at my age i will just be happy to still be living in ten years LOL!
@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
24 Apr 08
me too but i think my boat has a couple of holes in it like lupus and diabetes!
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
Well isn't it the truth. We may not have ever met but we're in the same boat. Sometimes I feel like I'm going down the creek with no paddles.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
24 Apr 08
I am sorry to hear of your predicament Grandmaof2 - no-one should have to put up with being hit, or any kind of abuse for that matter. I hope and pray that things will improve for you, and that you get your wish sooner than 5 years.
As for me, I would like to be in a house that I owned outright, and be financially secure in 5 years, so that I can visit my daughter and grandkids in Florida without having to worry about the expense.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
I promise to say a little prayer for you bcause I think that would be so nice for you to be able to do. Just the thought gave me a warm feeling. No love can compare to the love we get from our children whether it be our own children or our grandchildren they're all our children and let me tell you when a child wraps his or her little arms around you and says Grandma I love you, that's from the heart and is true love, no bull. I only have one daughter and two grandchildren but they're my whole world.
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
25 Apr 08
Yes, no other feeling can compare to the love of a grandchild. It's been 7 years since we last saw our daughter in Florida and her 2 children, so we really do need to go over there!
Our 2 sons live here in Australia and one of them has given us a granddaughter; she will be a year old next month, and they have another one due in July, so we are going to be kept busy! We look after our granddaughter a couple of days a week, and she is pure delight to us! Nothing can compare to that love, can it?
I do hope your situation improves, or you get the means to change it yourself.
@cinderella2007 (2662)
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24 Apr 08
You shouldnt have to put with the abuse that your brother-in-law inflicts on you because you tell him he needs to do something!! How can you be caregiver when he doesnt like what you say, even though its the truth. I would get your husband to have words with his brother about eh way he treats you and that he needs to have baths regularly!!
In 5 years time I would like to have my own family and maybe working back in childcare.
In 10 years time, as long as im happy and healthy I dont mind what or where I am.
Hope things improve for you and your husband x
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
Actually my husband did take him by the arm and walked him to the couch, then told him to sit here and think about what he had done and reminded him that he could have hurt me real bad because of my heart condition and I also have recently dislocated my elbow and broke the socket. The talk did zero good because apparently I'm not allowed to tell my B.I.L to bath. Go figure. All I know is as long as you live in my home you bath.
@cinderella2007 (2662)
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24 Apr 08
Im glad your husband understood where you were coming from. Is there any chance your husband could take care of his washing needs?? It could be a male pride thing, he could see it as a woman shouldnt be telling him when to have a bath. He might feel more comfortable if his brother did this and helped him with this side of caring for him!! Your BIL might be embarrassed that a female is helping him.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Oh my how horrible. This is the first post I read today. I don't know the story behind the brother being there. Does the brother have to be there, you shouldn't have to be subjected to any kind of abuse from him or anyone else. Is it your house or the brothers house?
As for the question, I want to still be in this house, but I am hoping that some of the project that I want to do are done. I would also like to be lighter, I gained some weight after I quit smoking and I want it gone. You get older its harder to lose. Take care and I hope things get better for you. How is you elbow and leg, I haven't heard yet if you have to have surgery. I am not sure if you have posted something about it or not, I haven't been on mylot that much for the last few days. Take care.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
It's our house but we took him in because he's unable to look after himself completely and the rest of the family was smarter than me. My next appointment is April 29. Thanks for your response.
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Five years from now, I want to be about fifty pounds lighter as well. Got some good tips yesterday from a health seminar. I would not be wanting to keep the brother around either. It almost sounds as if you want rid of hubby, as well. I would not put up with the brother hitting me, that is for sure.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
I told him one more time and I not only press charges but they'd be picking him up off the front lawn. I turned on hubby right ater that and told him the first time he ever dare try that the house would be up for sale and he'd be lucky to walk out with the clothes on his back so why would it be any different for his brother. Lets just say you could hear a mouse fart in this house since. This is crap and not going to continue. I've taken a lot but it stops here and now. Lifes too dam short my friend.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I sympathize with you in trying to care for your husband's brother. Sometimes caregiving is a hard thing to do. Hang in there. As for me in 5 years I would like to have the money to have a nice place to live and the ability for my husband to ease up on working. In ten years I would like to have the financial security to know that we could live comfortably without help from family or social security.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Thank You for your kind thoughts and Good luck with your plans. It sure sounds good to me.
@whittby (3072)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I've been thinking of this a lot lately. In five years, our last kid will be out of the house and we will have freedom we haven't had in over 30 years. It's going to be sad and happy at the same time. I think we will be living in another state in a retirement community of some sort, but staying active.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I want to be getting my first retirement check in 5 years from my previous job. We can start getting it at 55. I want to also be lighter and have my garden reclaimed. I hope to do fun odd jobs, play with a cat and have more time for my husband.
In 10 years, I want to get my Federal retirement check, although the government wants me to wait until I'm 68 2/3 years old.But I don't think my body can wait that long. Then I want my husband to retire and we can hang out together. But they want him to retire at 67 1/3. But I think he can retire earlier at his job, just is supposed to wait for the Federal Retirement.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I think the brother needs to go to a care facility and not be with you. If anyone hit me, I would have them removed from my home. Didn't read to the end until just now, sorry.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
In five years, same as yours, no health issues. Also, I would like to be stable enough to settle down and have kids of my own. In 10 years, I like to have a good life with my family and kids then to travel abroad with them. Take care my parents and give them the best things in life.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Health and happiness rule if you're lucky enough to get to that place in your life.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Deserves a + rating and you do have a great attitude. Way to be.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I would like to have our home paid for and our cabin built on our farm. We would be nearing retirement age and I want to not have to worry about the necessities
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
Yes you really do have a lot on your plate and it speaks volumes to see you answer my post. Love ya lots and Take Care.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I am so sorry that happened to you! I don't blame you for being fed up! In five years.....I hope to be working on another book.....and not having to work full time too. In ten years I hope to be retired with enough money to see my kids on a regular basis!
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
28 Jun 08
Grandmaof2, I really hope you are able to get out of the sad position you are in. I'm glad your husband is taking your side - but it's awful you have to be the caregiver for an ungrateful and violent man such as your brother in law! In five years' time I'm hoping my husband and I will be retired, and living near the water in a warm place. I'm also hoping my son has finished his apprenticeship, has a good job and isn't living at home with us!!
@shelly43 (1197)
• Australia
7 Aug 08
i hope to sell this house and make our move up country, it is something we always talk about but never really do anything about it..
we went on our trip last weekend and that made up my hubby's mind but he wants to wait 2 more years for his long service so we can own the new place we buy as we done owe much on this and selling this will gve us plenty to buy out right some where up country..
so thats where i want to be in five years..
hugssssssssss
