Teen boys and fighting, should it be against the law?
By goodhappens
@goodhappens (671)
United States
April 24, 2008 1:19pm CST
I remember growing up and a boy kept bothering me, well after a while my big brother steped in and fought him, that was the end of it, he never bothered me again and no one got in any trouble.
Now a days it is a battery charge, or maybe its just that I'm in a small town and the cops and county atty have nothing better to do than mess w/ teen boys. Even tho there are plenty of meth labs and child molesters they could deal w/ but that thats a different topic, grrrr.
My neice is 12 and has been harrased by 2 freshman boys for quite a while, one of her brothers passed away 5 years ago and the other is not in this state, so my son felt the need to take care of it on his own, he had already talked to the guys a few times before and well that didnt work. The other day he calls me at work and asked if I could come home because the cops were on their way to pick him up. When I asked why he said a name and told me he went to the park, and one punch the guy was down and apparently his front bottom teeth were about knocked out and several stitches are involved. I start to head home and find that my other twin is in handcuffs because the new cops in town didnt realize he was really a twin, they had the wrong brother. That was finally resolved and the twin that did fight was taken to juvinal intake and released to me, he is now facing battery charges.
my question to all is do you think police should be involved in teens fighting or should it be like the old days when a boy got his whoping that was the lesson learned?
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5 responses
@Aingealicia (1905)
• United States
25 Apr 08
Funny you mention this. This just occurred with my son. He had a bully. I am not an advocate for violence, there are other ways around it or there should be. He ended up getting a 3 day suspension for beating the bully up. Ok I am actually proud of him. I know that sounds crazy but if you knew the situation, you would understand.
He went to all the correct people, teachers, councilors, Principal and Vice Principal, it finally came to blows after 6 months.
I do believe in the lessons learned after all other forms of possibilities are exhausted.
Ainge
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I know they they always say to go the "proper" authorities and it will be delt with, but as you have seen it doesnt get taken care of, I'm sorry your son got suspened, but there are times when boys are growing up they have to do what is needed to step up for themselves, so I dont think it sounds crazy to say you are proud of him, :)
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
2 May 08
I think when kids are in school they should be able to be there to learn, my son did not fight anyone in school, at school 16 yr old boys are harrassing my 12 yrs old neice, the highschoolers arent even supposed to have contact w/ the middle school and when she told the principal about it, they gave the boys a "talk" that still didnt stop it, I dont think anyone has a right to kill anyone, at school or anywhere else, but a good ol fashioned fight well that is a different story and I just dont believe the police should be involved, if they are I think they should go after the ones that are threatening and harrassing a 12 yr old child.
@mummyofthree (2715)
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25 Apr 08
I have always taught my children to stick up for themselves. First you try the verbal approach and if that doesn't work a bop on the nose usually does the trick. If more people did this then kids would sort things out between themselves rather than authorities becoming involved. If they're big and hard enough to dish it out then they should be big enough to take it back. At the end of the day the natural order of things is "survival of the fittest". Also in my day a snitch was worse than any bully. You don't snitch on someone especially if you started it. Ok this can make things escalate but there was a code of conduct that we didn't break. With odd exceptions it did work. Good on your brother for standing up and protecting his own!!
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I agree, and that is exactly how I have raised mine, I had an atty tell me today that he is surprised this didnt happen earlier cuz the kid harrasses alot of kids, he's a kind of big boy too, so I figure if he's big enough to run his mouth then he should be big enough to back it.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
24 Apr 08
This is a tough situation. I go to highschool and see fights all the time, most of the time authoritys break it up before there is time for it to progress. I find these days police have become way more strict in the fighting department. But I personally think if both boys agree on the fight, and no REAL damage is done then it should be let go, its both their faults.. but in this case the boy had some teeth knocked out? Yah thats a bit far, as that can get pretty pricy, so in that case something should have been done.
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
24 Apr 08
My boy only threw one punch and teeth were loosened, apparently my son didnt realize his stregnth, although this other guy is bigger than mine. I know his parents have insurance, although I'm sure that with the charges my boy will be working to pay for their deductiable
@lamex4real (32)
• United States
25 Apr 08
I don't think the police should be involved in teens fighting.i just don't think it's right
@goodhappens (671)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I'm with you there, you would think there are better things for the cops to deal with then the natural process of kids growing up and learning how to deal with different situations
